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    Im a 24 year old Virgin!!!

    My first thread and im new to this, as you read the title, yes i am a 24 year old virgin, and ive never had a relationship before, ok i have kissed plenty of girls,but it comes rarely,like once in a blue moon.

    now you guys are probably think, ok this guy must be butt ugly, truth is im not that bad looking, some girls would comment that im cute (i always seem to get cute) its cause i have a babyface, ive chat to girls online who say "wow your good looking, how can you still be single" and it baffles me that i dont get the same reaction in the real world (and yes i do send them my actual photo)

    now my situation is im a freelance Actor (i have confidence on stage,ive hosted infront of 4000 people at the royal albert hall,but sadly i dont have that confidence when approaching a girl), and i work part time in retail as a Sales Assistant at a Video game store, now its easy to approach girls there cause its your job to approach and sell, now the only problem is the girls who come to my store are mostly buying for there boyfriend, and your just praying that their buying for a little brother or sister, you sometime get girl gamers aswell but not all the time

    now after i finish my job i go home, i rarely go out, cause two of my friends are aboard studying and my best friend has a girlfriend,so he spends most times with her, so really i cant go out and socialize

    and being 24 and still a virgin,having no relationships, the truth is, its kind of worrying, some girls think its sweet and unique,some guys say, that its good and wish they were still one,cause they regret there first one

    the girls i mostly come across are too bitchy and so much attitude,and i know alot of girls love the bad boy image,truth is im not a bad boy, i hate that image, i guess i class myself as a rare breed

    so im coming here for help, someone to guide me, someone like Hitch or something like a love guru

    Cheers guys

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    Quote Originally Posted by Wolfstar27 View Post
    so im coming here for help, someone to guide me, someone like Hitch or something like a love guru
    Well if you need guidance please answer some simple questions to set things clear.

    1 Why are you still a virgin, is it because you are afraid for or uncertain about doing it or is there another problem. With other words, is it an inside problem or a problem with communicating to a girl?

    2 Have you been reading any stuff about gaming (like The Mystery Method, Magic Bullets, The Game, ...)?

    3 Can you give an example in which situation you kiss those girls you are speaking about?

    If you answer these questions, it would give me and others a much wider image about your current skills so we can help you develop them.
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    Welcome to the world of pick up, the best game around.

    Alright, first off, if you can public speaking, you can talk to girls. NO EXCUSES. She isn't going to boo you off stage, and probably isn't going to throw anything at you. So start approaching, that's the first step, and you can't get anywhere without it.

    second, go out. It's better to go out alone then sit in your room alone. This will be hard at first, no one said this was an easy game. Go where the girls you want to meet will be.
    and that's a great question to ask yourself. What do you want in a girl?

    You don't have to be a bad boy, but you should look into why girls are attracted to jerks and assholes. You can be a gentalmen with all the attractive qualities of a bad boy. You can be anyone you want, even yourself, but if you are tired of being a 24 year old virgin, then it's time for a change.
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    First off, welcome to the forums and take in as much as you can and ask as many questions as you need to. Secondly, to succeed in this game at this point in your life you're going to need to make major lifestyle changes. Put some pep in your step brother. Don't hold on to that "rare breed" attitude you have because it hasn't gotten you laid thus far and probably won't. I'm not trying to be a dick and I apologize if I come off that way but I'm just being honest.

    You don't have to be a bad boy to get women. You just have to be confident, witty, funny and rich(joking). Everything you need to pickup women is at your disposal. Don't be afraid to jump in headfirst and don't worry about getting turned down. You win some and lose a lot in the beginning but with a little time and effort you can transform your life.

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    we're not going to give you GOSP



    That said.

    You've made the first step - but realise that we can only show you the door - you must walk through it.

    What you need to do, is get into the "Approach Habit"

    ‘We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence then, is not an act, but a habit.’ Aristotle Most of us are awake and moving about the world during the day far more than at night. We shop, we work, we eat and we travel. For those of us who live in or near a populated area like a city, there are lots of opportunities to meet beautiful women in the daytime.
    When I first arrived at university, I would go out at night with my friends to meet girls. Perhaps three or four times a week we would hit the club and spend hours approaching groups of women and hitting on them. Later, after finding the community and armed with new knowledge, I would increase this practice and often go alone to bars and clubs to meet new people and exercise my social muscle. I felt nervous at first but after a couple of approaches in an evening this feeling would fade. After that, it was as if my motor was running, I’d have a sense of flow, excitement and social lubrication. After those initial nervous conversations, I felt acclimatised to approaching strangers and could work on other aspects of my game beyond the opening.
    Inevitably, the night would end, with all its various ups and downs. I’d go to sleep, wake up in the morning. Lo and behold, the next time I went out to the bar, that fear of approach was once again back to bother me.
    Going out for a big session of ‘sarging’, as the community slang refers to it, is great for practicing core aspects of your game but something we are not practicing as intensely is overcoming that initial reluctance to approach, often referred to as ‘approach anxiety’. This is simply because after a couple of interactions, this feeling fades. After that initial warm-up period, we usually find the social motor is running, we’re having fun and opening without too much worry. It doesn’t last. Every time we go out, this feeling tends to crop up to be overcome once again.
    It is generally accepted that this is just the way it must be. The oft-prescribed solution is to ‘burn’ through some warm-up sets to get in the right mood. But what if it was possible to greatly minimise that feeling of nervousness over time so that you could generate the momentum to approach at any time to wish without the need to ‘warm up’? What if there was a way to form a habit of approaching beautiful girls?
    Picture the scene, you’re shopping for groceries, on public transport or walking down the street and you see a beautiful girl. You don’t have the advantage of the mental run-up from making a conscious decision to ‘go sarging’, you have no wingmen to spur you on, you can’t just burn through two or three sets to get on a roll and then approach the girl. You’re just going about your daily life and ‘bam!’, a hot girl appears! Do you approach? Can you approach?
    Forming the Approach Habit.
    ‘Approach the first hot girl you see every day. It will change your life.’ – Sasha
    Begin an interaction with a stranger, preferably a beautiful woman, everyday. This begins to form an approach habit – the daily habit of initiating conversation with someone from cold. Over time, this habit can become so ingrained that it will actually feel strange not to approach a hot girl. The energy that you previously experienced as fear and panic will morph into excitement, playfulness and enjoyment.
    This will not only help you greatly minimise approach anxiety, but the daily routine will have you meeting more girls than ever before.

    Training Your Eye

    Forming the approach habit will also go a long way towards training your eye to become aware of the opportunities already present in your surroundings. If you know you need to approach at least one girl in your lunch break for instance, you get good at noticing the attractive girls all around you.
    It is not unusual, a week or so into this, for students to say things along the lines of, ‘I never realised there were so many hot girls around here!’ Sometimes we can work and live in an area for years without realising the opportunities all around us.
    Don’t Run the Perfect Set
    Don’t worry about running the perfect set in every one of these interactions. At first, don’t even worry about continuing the conversation. If you are short on time, just make your daily interaction a quick one. Remember, we are forming the approach habit. For this purpose, it is more important at first to approach than to close. Don’t let the pressure of ‘what do I say next’ and ‘what if…’ questions dissuade you from taking action.
    When you spot that girl, and you get that feeling of ‘I should/could/can/want to approach her’ – go talk to her. If it lasts ten seconds or ten minutes, it doesn’t matter – just approach. Form the approach habit.

    Avoid Burnout

    ‘Habit is habit and not to be flung out of the window by any man, but coaxed downstairs a step at a time.’ Mark Twain
    It’s much like joining a gym. In the first flush of enthusiasm and novelty, the temptation is to go very frequently and stay for hours, working really hard. But continue down this road and it is very likely you’ll experience burn out. You lose your motivation and weeks go by before you darken the gym door again (if at all!). It is much more sensible (and healthy) to do shorter workouts and ration that drive for the long haul health benefits of regular exercise.
    Consider this point when embarking on your mission to form the approach habit. One a day for a month is far better than ten in two days, burning out and flaking for the rest of the month.

    Find Your Window

    Look at your lifestyle, find the window of time where you can make your daily approach and stick to it. For me, I had a long commute, so I would use the train journey and approach at least one girl on the way into London and one on the way out of London. For you’re your lunch break might be and ideal time. Whatever it is, find your window.
    Scale It Up
    It can feel more challenging to approach during the day without a wing to encourage you.
    If you’re alone and feeling nervous, just take off some pressure. Scale the opener you use – if you’re petrified, you don’t have to start direct and ballsy, start more situational and low-key. For example, a functional opener such as, ‘Hey excuse me, do you know if there’s a Starbucks around here?’ is much easier to muster the courage to deliver than ‘I saw you from across the street and I just had to come say hi…because I think you’re gorgeous!’ If you gradually scale up your material, just as you would add weight to your bench press routine, you will be able to deliver the latter opener with ease and enthusiasm.

    Fashion

    If you’re going to form this habit, be ready. Always leave the house dressed well, whatever that means for your lifestyle. Throw out your bad clothes so you won’t be tempted to wear them – don’t let the fact that you’re dressed badly be an excuse to not approach. Dressing well has a positive impact on your interactions with everyone in your life.
    Wing/Mentor
    Your daily approaches should be done solo for maximum growth, but it can help to have a wing or accountability buddy who will check in with you every day to make sure you’ve done your approach. This added motivation can give you the kickstart you need to start forming the habit.
    Conclusion
    Does this mean no more sarging? No!
    ‘Sarging’ is great for getting your game tight – perhaps your attraction phase needs tweaking or your comfort game lacks connection. Go out, hit the clubs and bars, do a ton of sets. The trick is to combine this with daily approaching to build and sustain the approach habit and you’ll go a long way towards achieving your relationship goals.
    I often think of the ability to approach as a muscle. For every approach you make, you grow that muscle. For every approach you back out of, you weaken it.
    Make those approaches, build your courage. The results may very well astound you.
    Good luck!
    Keys

    You'd also do well by yourself if you were to invest in Magic Bullets - it's a fantastic guide, and gives you more information than near any other product I've seen. 100% recommended.


    Use your social circle inside your acting aspect of your life to get involved with other people - there are lots of social circle posts (check Mr M's Classic Writings and Braddock's Classic Writings)


    It's going to take years to get really good.


    I also believe that both Vercetti and Cajun have acting experience/careers - so maybe email/contact them for any more specific ideas on integrating acting into building your game?


    Let me know how it goes


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    Just noticed the bit on "nice guy" in your post

    Well - lucky week, 5.0 has just wrote a wicked post on the subject: http://www.theattractionforums.com/5...-part-1-a.html

    Golden advice in there, including a key distinction at the end that is easy to implement - yet makes ALL the difference.
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    thanks guys, the advice youve given has been really helpfully, im going to get a copy of Magic bullets, its nice to see that there are people out there willing to help others, but i want to say that i think i learn better when im in the field,so i do need like someone to show me the way, like monkey see, monkey do, not GOSP, but see what one person does and interpertate that and try it on another group on the same night, and it would be great motivation and encouragement, i guess sort of like a wingman, i guess i am a nice guy, i have had a few girl say to me that im very genunie, i think i am looking for a relationship (cause i want to experience one) and not a casual fuck, as stupid as it sounds, i dont want my first time to be a one night stand, then id feel like a blood thirsty vampire look for my next hit, i guess where as if your in a relationship, you can get as much as you want

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    Try the wing forum, might find someone there. Def contact Cajun/vercetti about the acting stuff though.
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    You just need to knock out a hoodrat for your first time. Jk man.

    Goodluck and have fun with it because that's all it boils down to is enjoying life.

    Careful though it's addictive...the sex and picking up women.

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    definatly go out. Not gettin laid by staying home on your couch all night. And definatly mess with magic bullets.

    Idk you but some people learn by being coached rather then reading from a book so maybe you should mess with a bootcamp. Thats wut Im gonna do. Good luck

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