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    Saying a person's name.

    Hey there, Just a question I rarely ever say a persons name unless I absolutely have to. So is saying names a social vibing type of thing? Like when a group is sitting together and people say "hey blank, blah blah blah" Like even when they have their full attention they still call them by their name. How often should I say a person's name when I am interacting with them?



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    it has been known to make the person, who's name your calling out, to feel more warmly and positive towards you. People love to hear their name said back to them for the fact that it makes them stand out from a group of friends, people, etc.

    I wouldn't go around using their name for every little thing, but to drop it here and there is always a nice way to get them to warm up to you. And if you're bad with names, give them a pet name and stick with that for the evening, girls like that even more.

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    If your bad with names its more important to use them, I have that problem but if I remember to continue using it throughout the convo I never forget it. Believe me it sucks when you # close a bunch of girls and dont remember whos who.
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    haha bad with names? Nah I am not bad with names at all. Just find it awkward to say someones name even though I have their attention.

    However number closing one gal is a little too advanced for me at this point. To have a problem remembering the names of multiple number closes? I cannot even think about that right now.

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    There is no sound sweeter than the sound of your own name. Think about how you feel when someone addresses you by name. It creates a bond. Try it out. You'll be surprised at the reactions that you get.
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    I absolutely hate it when people use my name in other situations than when trying to get my attention. I feell its like being talked to like a child that needs correction, or someone trying to amog me, using their name in response balances things back. But I have noticed people reacting to it positively as well, no doubt.

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    There is no sound sweeter than the sound of your own name. Think about how you feel when someone addresses you by name. It creates a bond. Try it out. You'll be surprised at the reactions that you get.
    Being in sales for six years, I disagree. The sweetest sound in the world to someone is the sound of their own voice. Using someone's name can be powerful in certain context, but when obviously overused, it comes off as gimmiky. Stick to saying a name when saying hi, to let them know you remember their name, or when need to get their attention.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Royalflush View Post
    Being in sales for six years, I disagree. The sweetest sound in the world to someone is the sound of their own voice. Using someone's name can be powerful in certain context, but when obviously overused, it comes off as gimmiky. Stick to saying a name when saying hi, to let them know you remember their name, or when need to get their attention.
    That's an old maxim; I didn't make it up, and your disagreement doesn't make it any less true. It actually is an old sales trick. Psychologically, people respond more favorably to the sound of their own name than other stimuli. Sure it can come of as gimmicky. So can ANYTHING if you over-do it. Like everything else, this requires calibration.
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    I feel saying people's names a lot is an underused technique. You can use it in every other sentence you say to her and it won't seem gimmicky.

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    I find it particularly effective when teasing a girl.. for example:

    Laura, I always feel dumber after talking to you, thanks.

    That's funny Laura, you should probably just go on tour with that.

    etc.

    But I think it's still effective in normal situations, say you're working on a group project in class and everyone is throwing out ideas:

    bob: we should make the banner green.
    dave: nah I think the red one looks better.
    laura: let's just leave it how it is.
    me: that's a good point, laura...

    *she feels extra special to you*

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