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I am not completely new to pick-up but I ...
A few things working against me
I am not completely new to pick-up but I have some nagging internal dialogue that won't go away which tells me I still have a lot to learn.
Three things constantly run through my mind and I can't shake 'em:
1) I'm too old to start learning to pick-up; I have a feeling its too late for me to start this. Most pua's I read about started when they were in their early twentys NOT their early thirties
2)I'm going bald. I have a bald spot and its getting bigger. I don't look particularly good this way, but at the same time I'm not so sure I want to shave ALL my hair off.
3)I'm 5'5" and almost EVERY chick I meet comments on how short I am. I have read about Mr. M and apparently he is my height or shorter, but is he REALLY a master pua and what does he look like? Does he get MOST of the girls he goes after? I have picked up a stripper ONCE, and he picked up a girl from a magazine, but it doesn't mean that either of us can ALWAYS do it.
Those are my biggest stumbling blocks. Maybe I'm being too insecure, but everytime I go to approach I find myself getting apprehensive due to the three things above. It might sound cheesy, but I think I just need some uplifting stories about short, bald, old dudes who can pick up chicks. If there are such stories.
Other than that, I have a good-looking face, dress well and I work out, I'm slim, but muscular. I have good body language and I am pretty humourous and exude quite a great deal of confidence when talking with women...
I can get initial interest using an opener, but I often don't feel that the attraction is there.
Any tips or suggestions?
Sounds like you need a hug, man. Hey, here's some pep to put in your step:
First of all, NOBODY is every too old to LEARN. And this is all about learning and developing yourself. And quite frankly, if you take a look at Style who is extremely successful you will see much similarity to him before he got involved in the community.
First of all, women tend to like an older man because it establishes a sense of security for them. You just have to be a bit more refined and mature in your tone and frame when you make the approach. If you have a martini to swirl in your hand a bit, that will be an accent to the experience you have in life. You aren't 'old' at 33. You are 'refined.'
Next, the hair thing... That is at your decretion. I highly recommend shaving your head and using some dome wax. It will make your scalp pick up light, and just like fish women are attracted to shiny objects. Also a bald head is a very clean look for a man, and would go well with limited facial hair, such as a thin mustache, a soul patch, or a short shaped goatee. Bald is a sign of virility to women, and a lot of women actually love it.
Finally, your height is a chance to build rapport. Comments such as "Big things come in small packages." or "I'm not short, I'm space efficient." or "Napoleon was my height and he nearly controlled the world. As a present to his beloved Jeneviv he gave her 1,000 brilliant fountains from all across the world. Now, wouldn't you like a fountain or two? *wink*"
And of course, you can always off-set that with some platform shoes, which are involved in peacocking.
Your fears are just false, and you have to learn to trust the methods here over your own fear of rejection. They have worked for people with all the same issues as you, and those even more worst off. Confidence, my friend, is crucial.
Inveigler is right and if you don't believe in people like Mr. M read his bio on the Love Systems home page, "ranked in the top 10 PUAs in the world" be yourslef shave your head unless you feel you will be more insecure and just get out there.
From danny D and Wildheart : First off bro, girls saying your to short is pretty much an obvious shit test, testing you nerves. act confident so she knows your good enough for her . Shave your head bro you might think its weird most of these girls havent seen you so its not gunna look weird to them. A blad head you might think looks fucked, but whats worse, completely shaved (looking intentional) or a balding spot that ages you another 10 years to a girl. A bald head if you wear it with confidence gives you good openers, good starters, good threads etc.
Good luck brutha!! Dont be so hard on yourself lol, doesnt really matter what you look like.
From : Wildheart, Danny D
Originally Posted by Danny D
Looking back, I think I was experiencing a moment of weakness when I first posted. I was called short about 3 times last week, not during pickup but it still bothered me. Yeah, I've had my head shaved before and it looks pretty cool. The thing is I used to have GREAT hair, lol, nice dirty blonde curls that chicks loved. Its just sad that its going to be gone. But overall, I think you guys are right, I'll just have to focus on my confidence, inner game and body language and I'm sure everything else will be fine. I can always run my game on shorter girls if I have to...
Ooops meant to say thanks to EVERYONE, not just Danny D and Wildheart...
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