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Does ignoring really work?
I figured this would be the best section to ask this. I am in a very complicated situation right now... and I need some advice. Short story: Met a girl in college, liked her she liked me. Had a BF... eventually hooked up with her while she was with him. We get into a fight... she breaks up with BF says her feelings for me might have changed but she doesn't know if they did. A lot of people told me to ignore her and like act cold... I'm not sure if that's the best idea though. Anyone have any help or input? I would greatly appreciate, thanks!
PS: She still i.m's me everyday and we talk on a phone occasionally. Before it used to be talk 24/7.
for you to ignore someone you have to have good attraction from her part... so if you gave a prop for her to remember you by or did something crayz for her to remember and then ignore her she'll come back to ya.
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to answer your question...does ignoring work?
yes..b/c you are punishing her for inappropriate behavior i.e..her having two boyfriends...
That is no longer true though. They broke up. I am more interested in what I should do in general. The ignoring thing was just a question as I had a few people tell me to do so.
Originally Posted by ArtofPickUp
ignoring works, but i wouldnt go ice cold.
if she still IMs you a lot then ur in a pretty good spot. You can pick and choose when to respond, i would have occassional, short, flirty convos. just give her little bits and pieces at a time to keep her wanting more.
i would invite her out to whatever your doing at some point cuz IMO shes still interested and you shouldnt have a problem Kclosing if you just remind her why she wanted you in the first place.
also, "says her feelings for me might have changed but she doesn't know if they did" could just be a test. she might want to see if your going to beg for her or something. stick to your game and dont give in to that kind of shit
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I wouldn't ignore but I would become more distant. Don't text her, called her or IM her. Make her contact you first. If she texts or IMs you, don't respond right away. Let it sit for 15min, half hour, hour, whatever you want. Then answer. You can have a short flirty convo, but make sure that you end the convo. I like to say something funny have her respond and then not say anything after that. Basically don't contact her first, by doing so, you give her the gift of missing you... shit works
That actually makes sense. You think shes just waiting too cool things down with her bf... plus she is doing something right now that is keeping her really busy. Maybe she's waiting till she's done... which will be in May? Also why do you think she is avoiding seeing me. Like every time i ask her to hang out theres always an excuse... quiet annoying honestly.
Originally Posted by Sylo
think in the following way:
Originally Posted by Pager
who cares!?? just stop talking to her/thinking about her (which will follow after you don't talk to her for a week)
I had the same issue in a way. I had one-itis, and was always thinking about this and that and what not. Then I started reading up and knew what to do. I didn't talk to her for 2 maybe 3 weeks, she texts me. I have this girl chasing me around now. Whenever she does something I don't like, I won't talk to her until she contacts me first. And even then, I keep it very short, I don't respond right away, keep it quick, and end it first.
Once you stop texting or calling or whatever her first, you'll soon stop thinking about all those questions you have. And sooner than you think she'll be hitting you up and you'll have the game plan in your back pocket on how to get this girl chasing you around.
Ok so say she i.ms me tomorrow... what do I do? Not answer? At all, just that day or for just an hour? If/when I do answer should i like talk to her normally like always or just colder then usual?
Originally Posted by lax16
you can either not answer at all the whole day and then maybe IM her the next day and be like oh my bad I was really busy all day or wait 15 mins or half hour, whatever. You just don't want to come ass excited that she hit you up. You want to come off as busy with w/e and that you'll get around to talking to her when it's good for you. When I get texts I like anywhere between 5-20 minutes and I like to vary the time I wait. I'm not expert but this kind of stuff has been working for me...
Originally Posted by Pager