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So I got her number... now what should I do
I just got this girls number and I was wondering if I should text/call her, I got it about an hour ago. whatcha think?
Do NOT call her tonight. That conveys neediness and makes you look creepy. Give it 3 days at least, call her sometime later in the week about plans for next weekend.
wrong. she can have any guy she wants, that 3 day rule is absolute and total bullshit
call her up the next day.
read phonegame forum
How do you know this?
Originally Posted by Nat3r
He didn't mention anything about her other than she has a phone and a vagina.
so shes in slavery and has no choice?
Originally Posted by Nat3r
You don't need to wait that long. Just have something good to timebridge with when you do call her
and the first phone call should not be making plans. the goal for your first phone call should be to develop comfort and DHV. you can talk about yourself just make sure its interesting and you want to be the one talking more (just make sure theres no akward silences) and i would wait a day to call.
the point of this is to show her when you do go out its not gonna be akward and she can be comfortable.
oh and when you do call her the first time just to talk make sure you put a time constraint in there.
Phone/Text game is a delicate balance and something which I personally feel only comes with abundance...
Only when you have so many numbers you can't and don't care about the outcome can you really be successful at it.
I realise thats not a very helpful thing to say but let me put it in my perspective.
In the last 6 months I have gotten about 30 numbers from night game and in that time I have had flakes in 25 of them!
Only in the last 2 months as my feelings and beliefs about this game have changed and ultimately my sub-communications have I started getting dates and not flaking.
The first thing you need to do and this is true for everyone is decide about whether you want to call or text.
Sinn suggests texting/calling the SAME night so they have contact with you on their phone and associate that with positive feelings and thus are likely to respond if not the same night then to a future text.
It is also NOT a good idea to try and arrange a day 2 the first time you get in contact... which is one of the reasons why a timebridge - setting a day 2 as a mechanism for number closing - avoids this problem all together as you have already made plans and its just a matter of confirming it.
The best way to initiate contact is simply to pose a joke or funny statement to get a response.
The personal favourite I use is "What do you call a fish with no eyes?" the answer is "fsh"
It is an incredibly bad joke! but it gets a response and initiates conversation almost everytime and you can take it from there.
Ultimately a girl decides when you take her number if she is going to meet you and it is most of the time out of your hands but not always so a number is an important step but not a guarantee of anything!