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Well me and my ...
How to ask a girl to dance in a dance club
Well me and my boy's usually go out to 18+ dance clubs but its litteraly impossible to game girls there so i was just wondering how exactly can you like get a girl to dance with you instead of coming up really close to her and asking or like other guys do just get in behind her and hope she doesn't mind
thanks for any help at all, its much appreciated
I would try and focus on openin her first and havin a good convo then just askin her to dance...
Why can't you get girls at 18+ clubs? Are you the creepy old guy? anyway... same process as any pickup open them build rapport and the line I usually say is I wait till an awesome song come sup and start singing it mid sentencee no matter what we are doing and then start walking to teh floor and say "Think you can keep up?"
Originally Posted by Sparkzz
I think you've got to open her first away from the dance floor, then suggest hitting the dance floor
Originally Posted by Sparkzz
What usaully works for me is the line
Me - 'you know what? I really wanna dance, but my friends are playing too cool'.
Her - 'Awwwww, why don't you go up their by yourself?'
Me - 'Only if you join me'...
For me it's got a high sucess rate, especially if the girl is already giving you IOI's.
going up behind her and hoping she might not mind is risk, she could simply stop dancing and that's the end of it.
i dont like the method of going up behind a girl. would you like it if some guy did that to you? plus, its what all the afcs do, and it makes you look creepy to both that girl and any others who notice you
now im assuming that this is an extremely loud club thats close to impossible to hear you from a distance
for me, if you approach from front/side of her where she actually sees/notices you, i walk up and extend my hands with my palms up (palms make her more comfortable) and a huge smile (very important to show that you're having fun)
if approaching from behind, come up one side, use your hand and turn her shoulder towards you, then extend your palm
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Its strange I went through a similar experience I would go to these parties and clubs and I think it depends on the environment. Like I once went to a party and there is this black hb8 and like as I was walking by she turned around and put her hands on the wall. LOL I just walked past and stood beside her browsing a bit. Her friends were laughing and were like he did not notice you ( which I didn't) long story short she was like you know what you lost your opportunity to get up on it. I don't know how long you would have me there waiting.
Now was going wtf?
through much trial and error and going nights of getting no dances. I tried many things like extending my hand.."Hey would you like to dance", "wanna dance" those all kind of failed...
What worked for me is "situationally" I start I guess having fun by starting to dance by or behind a girl and often times she would start grinding me. :P Then it a wrap because once one girl dances with me its easy to get others. Or I dance with one girl for a really long time and then mix it up.
Another thing is that I do is I kind of walk close to the girl and whisper kind of in they're ear "wanna dance" as I pull them slowly towards me. Usually I don't even finish what I am saying and they are already going.. ( obviously in loud clubs you talk a bit louder).
Also you have to be able to read your girl if you see a girl dancing in a circle or triangle shape with her friends chances are she is not going to be dancing with you. Unless of course you and your wing tackle the force together in a simultaneous action throws the group of balance.
Another situation the above methods failed and she pulls away let her go. If she says she does not want to dance but you still want to dance with her. Dance with another girl close by her and have the time of your life. Lol you can even make a comment to the girl you wanted to dance with glad you turned me down.
I was in this club music was loud but I want to say I did not go deaf. I spotted this white chick hb9 and I walked right up to her using "cloudeight" technique and she was like "um.. no thanks I came with my boyfriend... its rude just to dance with strangers" I noticed she had a friend so I preceded to dance with her and asked hb7 I was like whats up with your friend she does not seem very friendly. She goes she does not usually just dance with people she does not know. HB9 notices the small talk. I noticed her dance with a few other guys so it looks like she turned me down ( they looked pretty AFC to me I am thinking LOL friends..). after a few dances with her friend I was like so what about that dance you were talking about earlier you wanted to have with me. hb9 goes you mean this one and it was on.
dancefloor game is a cruel trap haha. its very frustrating as much of a girls decision to dance with u is highly based on physical appearance, the group shes in, and her alcohol tolerance lol. definitely in your best interest to open somewhere else and bring them to the floor. this allows u to get her attracted, then bounce, then kino with ur slick dance moves, bounce back to the bar for comfort, etc.
however, if ur attractive and having fun and with other girls then straight up asking a girl to dance isnt a terrible move. basically an all or nothing play, but worth a shot. AFCs do it all night and dont get results cuz they are so scared of rejection but u shouldnt have that problem. Going up behind girls and just dancing on them is creepy and sketchy but ull get a dance out of it at some point lol. the problem with these 2 methods is a low-close rate since its "just dancing".
A better idea is to high five people as u move through the Dancefloor to the bar or something. its innocent, gets attention, and once u get a girls hand u can spin them into u.
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Originally Posted by Sylo
hmm that is another way.. of doing it as well.
going behind her WORKS. going behind her and 'hoping' she doesn't run away doesn't. simple as that. you want to dance with her just do it. |||| opening and all this shit unless you want to game the girl. but thats what this forum is about so solid game would be to run 'game' then dance but you can surely get a good success rate the other way around too. just remember it's all about that moment she turns around and sees that expression on your face. don't be the smiling/hopeful goofball. be dead serious but radiating fun and confidence in your eyes
haha you sound like me but I think it takes a bit of confidence to build up to that point.
Originally Posted by Momento87