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    Need Some PUA Advice Vs. Other Advice

    These are the 2 scenarios that play out in my head right now...

    I'm going out of town and I know a girl whos interested in me. I want to get some because we've had a thing for each other in the past and it comes and goes. Sexual tension has been there, feelings were there, chemistry has been there at one point.

    I asked my friend for advice and he says I NEED to tell her my intentions that I want to sleep with her in a very subtle way. He was suggesting something like saying "Last time we slept in bed together but this time I may not be able to control myself," just to throw it out there.

    But in my mind, everything that I've learned thus far in my PUA training tells me I should not say anything. Just go down there and work some game (kino, C&F, neg, qualification, etc) and get her back to my motel.

    What would you do in this situation?



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    you should make your intent clear. in the MM model, you make your intent clear after receiving 3 IOIs, which usually happens within the first few minutes.

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    eh, not exactly ^

    You don't just tell a girl you have intentions of sleeping with her. Even if a girl knows in the back of her mind that she is going to sleep with you, she wants to think that she had no idea anything was going to happen. She wants to feel like "one thing led to another" and that she was swept away under the moment.

    What TMM meant by that is simply that you should make your relationship status clear, but without verbally saying it. For example, you should not tell a girl that you want to be in a LTR with her if really you only want to be FBs.

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    Quote Originally Posted by NCNick View Post
    eh, not exactly ^

    You don't just tell a girl you have intentions of sleeping with her. Even if a girl knows in the back of her mind that she is going to sleep with you, she wants to think that she had no idea anything was going to happen. She wants to feel like "one thing led to another" and that she was swept away under the moment.

    What TMM meant by that is simply that you should make your relationship status clear, but without verbally saying it. For example, you should not tell a girl that you want to be in a LTR with her if really you only want to be FBs.
    I felt this is true deep down inside from all the videos I've been watching. David D's perspective is to take the next step but not to be too focused on the outcome...as you can see I'm already focused on the outcome. I need to get out of that way of thinking.

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    go there and game her and it will work out for you. she will know time is limited and your in town for a short time and if she is attracted to you it will happen

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    Kino, kino, kino.

    I had a situation like this a few months ago. The girl and I had slept in the same bed, light kiss, lots of kino, but no f-close.

    When I went to her town to hang out, I got a hotel room with one bed, had a good time, and one thing led to another. Just arrange the logistics in your favor as best as you can, and keep the kino going. Those 2 things are the key.

    DO NOT just come out and tell her you want to have sex with her. It will destroy the spontaneity of the whole thing. Make it happen naturally, and you'll be good.
    Who is ninja? I am ninja.

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    Quote Originally Posted by shaq420 View Post
    ...I know a girl whos interested in me...
    Tell her she's looking gorgeous today. Drop frequent sexual comments. Add in some ass slapping. And guage the interaction. Easy escalation from there.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Cedar View Post
    Tell her she's looking gorgeous today. Drop frequent sexual comments. Add in some ass slapping. And guage the interaction. Easy escalation from there.
    This confuses me. I was always under the impression that you do NOT want to compliment a girl on looks. Can you explain why telling her she is gorgeous would work in that situation? Doesn't that make her the prize?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Mation View Post
    I had a situation like this a few months ago.
    Should have put this link in my last post. This is the LR for the situation I was describing. Since it's already written down, it might actually help you.

    http://www.theattractionforums.com/f...ss-d-town.html
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    Quote Originally Posted by NCNick View Post
    This confuses me. I was always under the impression that you do NOT want to compliment a girl on looks. Can you explain why telling her she is gorgeous would work in that situation? Doesn't that make her the prize?
    That only applies to a) girls you don't know, and b) when you're trying to build value. You said you already know this girl, and she already likes you. Good time to be direct, and very sexual.
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