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    Girls think I'm gay, yet are still attracted?

    This has happened a few times already and I'm just wondering what the hell is going on. Apparently, when I talk to girls my first impression is that I'm gay. I'm having no problem getting dates and numbers but is them thinking I'm gay a good thing or is it bad? Should I try to fix this or use it to my advantage?


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    Generally a girl will think you're gay if you are too high energy or put too much emphasis on emoting. Tone both of those down a little bit and you probably won't give off the gay vibe as much. You only need to come in with slightly more energy than the group.

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    Hmm, I never thought about that. okay, I'll tone it down a bit. I guess it's just calibration.
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    It's very commonly assumed that I'm gay. Has been that way for years, and I don't really mind it. In fact, I play into it. It lowers the womens' shields, and it's fun. As long as you're still getting the numbers and dates and everything, I'd not worry about it.
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    If you've ever read the game you'll notice Style, says that a good line to use is "If I wasn't gay you'd so be mine". So I don't think it really matters. If she has enough interest in you she'll pursue you no matter what. Then in the end she'll know your not gay. Especially when you end up in the seduction phase.
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    A lot of the guys in the scene seem to have a something "gay" about them.. Either their voice/look, etc... As an example, Style comes across as very gay to me... Or Mehow. They seem to do decent

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    Coming off as gay

    I know I come off gay when I first interact with people.

    The thing is I don't know why.

    I toned down my energy level a lot so I know it's not that.

    I was asking my last hookup what she thought and she said "you give guys the gay vibe and you give girls...well something else it's like both feminine and masculine."

    I think I'm giving off the seductive dandy feel.

    It's not a bad thing. I just want to know how to turn off my dandy personality when I'm talking to mixed sets and guys.
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    Post pictures of your peacocking and style of clothes you wear.

    You can blurr your face.

    Also your mannerism and intonation. Work on those. Gay guys move certain way and talk with certain intonation.
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    I have the same problem, except gays come on to me. It was driving me nuts. I went from attracting nothing to attracting gays and fat chicks. I was screwing!! I asked a HB10 friend of mine, if i came accross as gay to her, and she said "no, but your appealing to gays."

    Why don't u ask them? What made you think i was gay? Even do it in a gay way, so u don't look bothered by it?

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    Thought I'd revive this thread cause I'm having the same issue.

    Girls are attracted at first and happy to dance (they like my look), then after a short time they pop the question "straight or gay?". It's common for a girl to keep asking even after I've told her, and sometimes (2 or 3 questions later) they don't believe me and back off. It doesn't help that I frequent gay clubs, but the thing about Sydney, is that there are clubs that are branded as gay but are very mixed. It might be 50(straight)/50(gay). Sometimes it's even 60/40! So being in a "gay" club shouldn't raise any massive alarm bells, but I'm sure it contributes to it. Gay clubs have the hottest chicks, plain and simple.

    Also, my flamboyant dancing might be giving off that vibe too, so as Trillone said, I should tone down the energy. I think my dancing plays a big part - if it wasn't for that, I'd probably be ok.

    This is my peacocking style. Would less energy be enough? Or do I need a change in wardrobe too? Girls seem to like it so I don't see any reason to change anytime soon. What do you think?

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