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    I think I am getting thrown in the friends zone, what now?

    So about 2 months ago I met this HB9 at a bar, got her digits, didn't make any plans cuz she was gonna go rafting all week the next week.

    Anyway, we stayed in touch via text for a bit but never got to hang out cuz she was rafting, then the next week I was out of town, then she went to Mexico for a bit, etc etc.

    Finally a couple weeks ago we decided we were gonna finally hang out but the thing is, every time I call her to invite her to do something solo with me(a date basically) she invites me to do something first, this has happened twice now. First she invited me over to a lil house party at her friends, it was fun, and made me more attracted to her. I texted her after saying she's cool and I had fun and she never replied.

    I figured she must not be interested, but then a week later she called me, hanging that night didn't work as I was DJing a party, and then she left town again.

    Last night I was DJing a party and sent out a mass text and she called me at like 2 AM and was maybe going to come, but didn't cuz it was far away and late and her friends didn't want to. But she was like "we need to hang out soon, call me tomorrow"

    So I call her today and before I could ask her out, she invites me to go roller skating in the park with some of her girlfriends. I went, and it was a lot of fun, and we are going to do it every Sun. evening now and are having a BBQ next week. She was a bit flirtacious, but for the most part I think I am getting trapped into she wants me as a new "friend"

    How can I turn this around? Both times hanging with her she becomes more attrative(due to her personality) and she is already a 9 on looks alone so....

    We talked about making outfits for our roller skating, maybe I can invite her to go thrift store shopping for it, and then turn it into a date????

    your thoughts?



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    kino her pants off??, so, even if she rejects the kino, at least she knows that you are not willing to be LJBF'd.
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    Quote Originally Posted by theagx View Post
    kino her pants off??, so, even if she rejects the kino, at least she knows that you are not willing to be LJBF'd.
    ditto
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    And since she's bringing you around her friends, completely turn on the attraction with one or more of them. Jealousy plotline as well as let her see you in a sexual way.

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    Quote Originally Posted by theagx View Post
    kino her pants off??, so, even if she rejects the kino, at least she knows that you are not willing to be LJBF'd.
    Yeah, use a LOT of kino with her, while simultaneously getting friendly with all her friends. Actually, the fact that she's going out of her way to invite you into her social circle is a good sign and it makes things a lot easier for you. It's much easier to appear entertaining and engaged when you have lots of people to talk to.

    On the subject of kino, it should be light if her friends are around (elbow, hand, small of back, all for a couple seconds max), don't make her feel like a slut. But if you get her alone for a few minutes, you can pick it up, like a kiss would not be out of the question, but make it short with little or no tongue, and YOU be the one to end it.

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    Good advice. They all told me they might come out to my club night Wed. also we for sure have plans again on Sun. to BBQ and rollerskate so should I just stick with that and not invite her to do anything solo with me this week? and then when we are together again Kino and try and get a solo time set up?

    Maybe stay in touch throughout the week with flirty texts etc.

    I still kind of like my idea of inviting her to go shopping for rollerskate outfits and then end up doing more things, like buy a cool summer treat and maybe longboard or something.(we had talked about doing that sometime)

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    Wow. I'm glad I was able to give good advice. I've only known about the game for about 3 weeks.
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    Yeah, I like your date idea... But I wouldn't do it this week unless it just sort of feels like it intuitively fits in. Remember to give her the gift of missing you. I'd suggest saving it for when you don't already have plans, you don't want to overload things. Maybe plant the seed when you go rollerskating on Sunday that if you guys are going to do this every week, you're gonna need to look more professional-- talking about like a team bus, team uniforms, a team headquarters... The whole bit.

    So to sum up... It's a good idea, but I'd hold off on it for now. You don't want to overload her with stuff, cause it'll seem a little clingy.

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    I was thinking the exact same thing. Cool, thanks guys.

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    Doesn't really sound like you're getting LJBF'd too much.

    Sounds more like she is seeing you as potential boyfriend material (introducing to friends, etc.)

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