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Did she flirt with me for fun?

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    Did she flirt with me for fun?

    Ok, I met this girl at work, HB8. She works in the building next to me so we meet once in a while. Anyways, Ive been talking to her and teased her and stuff like that. Ive really tried to use the stuff Ive learned.

    So HB8 has been sending me these IOIs, unless Im completely off. You know, smiling when she sees me, locking onto my eyes and geting a big smile from nowhere. Talking to me and teasing me back. She gives me the impression of being interested yet not wanting to leave herself hanging. I figured she was just waiting for me to step up and go for it.

    Though she has a boyfriend.

    I asked her out today, not in a bad way, more casual with a reason. She responded with a big smile and "No, another time. Ive got blablabla to do". Which is an obvious way to say no without hurting my feelings.

    So Im thinking... I cant have misinterpreted her signals. Im probably not thinking straight right now so I need some input from you guys:

    1. Am I completely off, are these not IOIs?

    2. Is she attracted to me but not enough to leave her boyfriend?

    3. Is she flirting with me for fun but not seriously?

    4. Is she interested in me but only as a friend?

    Before you yell next, and one-itis, I have already decided to move on and aim for other girls. Though I want to learn from what Ive been doing here.

    Any input appreciated! Thanks!
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    I think it's a legit question.

    Some girls obviously like to play the flirt. How is she around other guys at work? You may notice a pattern. (Some girls will flaunt this kind of thing right after their self-esteem has taken a hit...perhaps she's just testing to see if she's still got it.)

    I'm a little more wary in a work setting. Outgoing, bubbly, even flirty personality at work is a way of getting what she wants, getting good performance reviews, etc.

    Similar thing just happened to me. My G2 said she was asking about me to her friends. Great drunken kino and teasing one night. Asked her out and all of a sudden the "boyfriend" news came out.

    Since it's a work thing, you have to stay cool and like you say you're doing, move past it. It doesn't hurt to tease her (once only) soon though with "you missed a great date" and "you'll never know what you missed" kind of stuff (Exactly what I did to mine--I had invited her to a really great show.)

    Good luck

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    Quote Originally Posted by retired_young View Post
    I think it's a legit question.

    Some girls obviously like to play the flirt. How is she around other guys at work? You may notice a pattern. (Some girls will flaunt this kind of thing right after their self-esteem has taken a hit...perhaps she's just testing to see if she's still got it.)

    I'm a little more wary in a work setting. Outgoing, bubbly, even flirty personality at work is a way of getting what she wants, getting good performance reviews, etc.

    Similar thing just happened to me. My G2 said she was asking about me to her friends. Great drunken kino and teasing one night. Asked her out and all of a sudden the "boyfriend" news came out.

    Since it's a work thing, you have to stay cool and like you say you're doing, move past it. It doesn't hurt to tease her (once only) soon though with "you missed a great date" and "you'll never know what you missed" kind of stuff (Exactly what I did to mine--I had invited her to a really great show.)

    Good luck
    Thanks for the reply!

    Well, hehe, there are no other guys at work. Im the rooster in the henhouse so to speak.

    You might be right concerning her behaviour at work. Though I dont think so, her being friendly to me doesnt benefit her at all. Im really confused, because to me, her smiles and eye contact was really obvious of interest.

    I like that idea about teasing her once about what she missed.

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    you act as if you got blown out. she simply said "another time..." meaning that the time you mentioned is not good for her, or she has worries that her bf might find out. take care of those two issues and take what is rightfully yours.

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    Quote Originally Posted by mindquicken View Post
    you act as if you got blown out. she simply said "another time..." meaning that the time you mentioned is not good for her, or she has worries that her bf might find out. take care of those two issues and take what is rightfully yours.
    Well, honestly... I think it was just a way for her to get out of the situation with the least amount of shut down.

    Though, you are right. I will just keep on doing what Ive done. Though Ill move on and aim for other women.

    Ill have to admit that I got some feelings for her and of course I feel a bit down. Really hate feeling this way.

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    Same issue

    Hi Guys,

    i'm in pretty much the same situation here and will gladly take more input from you guys, i have this girl that when i go talk to her acts interested, eye dilated, feet pointing my way, arms open ect... even by e-mail or txt she seems ok and interested, then all of a sudden some day she will act cold with me and other people. she works in another office of mine but we do see eachother from time to time, once i went to her desk to talk to her and there was her coworker beside that asked her "you don't push him away?" she answered no him he is ok, apparently that day she did not want to talk to people and was pushing away anyone that came to talk to her, except me??? what i want to say is that what would push a girls to act frienly and attracted one day then cold and unattracted the other day.

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    Just to add on the previous also when ever she needs help she will often and i would say 80 to 90% of time come and see me even if she has people around her that can help her. She also told me that she will ask menquestions just to make me talk

    This is what i don't understand when she acts interested and then cold i'm not sure if she is just playing with me

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    Girls love to flirt. They don't see it as cheating and it builds up their self esteem.

    So yes this girl is flirting with you for fun. She might even like you a little bit but its obvious she won't cheat on her bf. Move on.

    Start being friendly with other girls at your job.

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    OMG I just realized OP is from 2008. You jerks stop bumping 4 year old threads.

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