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    Chick blows me off, do I cut her off?

    So I had sex with this girl three time already in the past... last night we hang out... I bring her back to my place... she takes off her shoes... gets in bed with me... we make out... She goes "I am going to take a short 10 minute nap here and then I have to go... I need to go home and sleep."
    I go "Sleep here if you want, you are already comfortable."
    She replies "No, no, I have to go home and change my clothes and I am more comfortable in my own bed."
    Basically, her 10 minute nap turns into 30 minutes of making out. She checks the clock and goes "I gotta go, it's so late and I am so tired" and gives me a hug and leaves.
    Whats up with that? Whenever that situation happens it always leads to sex. Even the last time she said she had to go, after much persuasion on my part she stayed and we had sex. Why did she leave this time? Should I stop talking to her now? What would you do?
    In addition, it is important to keep in mind, she and I both know this, this was literally our last time together before summer vacation. After that night I know for a fact I will RARELY see her again. During the 3 months of summer we live 5 hours away from one another and next year she will be away in Spain for Study Abroad. So I will definitely not see her for a LONG time.
    If she knows this, why would she take away the perfectly good opportunity for 'break up' sex? What do you think?
    I find that VERY strange and confusing.



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    dude she had to/wanted to go home. you cant take it personally.
    and really its your own fault for spending 30 mins making out with her!!
    next time this happens, just let her leave with no struggle/persuasion.
    show her you dont NEED sex from her n that really you could care less!
    later man

    J.G.

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    You shouldn't have made out with her after she pretty much declared she wasn't gonna have sex that night, you rewarded her. She kinda played you man, it happens to the best of us. Next time try disarming her by agreeing with her then basically chasing her to go home. Turn the tables, confuse her.

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    I exaggerated... not 30 minutes of making out, maybe more like 10 min haha. That's the truth.

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    If I always let her go, then I am never going to get sex lol

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    Quote Originally Posted by mikesislano View Post
    If I always let her go, then I am never going to get sex lol
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    She may not have been satisfied

    I don't want to make you feel bad, BUT my take on this is not as optimistic or as positive as our peers...

    QUOTEShe replies "No, no, I have to go home and change my clothes and I am more comfortable in my own bed."
    Basically, her 10 minute nap turns into 30 minutes of making out. She checks the clock and goes "I gotta go, it's so late and I am so tired" and gives me a hug and leaves.
    Whats up with that? Whenever that situation happens it always leads to sex. Even the last time she said she had to go, after much persuasion on my part she stayed and we had sex. Why did she leave this time? Should I stop talking to her now? What would you do?
    In addition, it is important to keep in mind, she and I both know this, this was literally our last time together before summer vacation. After that night I know for a fact I will RARELY see her again. During the 3 months of summer we live 5 hours away from one another and next year she will be away in Spain for Study Abroad. So I will definitely not see her for a LONG time.
    If she knows this, why would she take away the perfectly good opportunity for 'break up' sex? What do you think?
    I find that VERY strange and confusing.



    You did not give as much detail as I would like, but it appears (implied-inferred) that you are:

    1) Young (college boy)
    2) Not overly experienced with women and sex
    3) Possibly a "nice guy" that she does not want to hurt

    I have two possible scenarios:

    1) You on the one hand talked as if having sex with this girl was quite often, but it was only three times (and it always leads to sex???). On the third time, you had to talk her into sex???? One big problem is that you don't talk her into sex, You lead and she eagerly follows... I have the feeling that she was not interested in sex the third time due to your poor performance in the sack and she did not want to go thru it again the night in question.

    Fact: Seventy Percent of women never experience vaginal orgasm. (per some article I read) They marry in early twenties and divorce or cheat during their 29-32 Year Old Mid Life Crisis period. I met a text book example of this within two weeks of reading about it. (HB8.5)

    Since older married men cannot take care of their woman, it follows that a young dude in college or not in college is statistically suspect....

    Solution, if you are a 3 pump chump get busy and fix the problem. Most young men suffer from this. Don't be one of the divorced losers who cry when their woman is banging Tom, Dick, and Harry. Dead Eye is not implied and may be excluded.

    If you feel that you may have this as a possible problem, email me directly on the board.

    In your post you mentioned that 30 minutes was only 10 minutes and you exaggerated a little. I suspect that your memory of the interactions may be rosier than hers.

    Think back and try to remember where she climaxed (preferably really good).

    You need to be positive and not be down on yourself etc, but on the other hand, you need to be realistic. I feel that it did not go as you remembered...

    I could be wrong. I hope to be helpful, and not intending to diss ya in any way.

    PS This statistic has me considering older women as possibly very desirable since I don't need any drama and they could better appreciate a man that can rock their world (in the sack at least).

    I am running out of time - Gotta Go!!!

    Good Luck,

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    Is it ok to say you only want sex?

    Let's say you know a girl and you have had sex before a few times and she calls you and asks to come over and to ONLY cuddle/sleepover/whatever. But you only want that if she is going to have sex with you. Is it ok to tell her she can come over to sleepover, but only if we have sex?
    If so, how can I express that as nicely as possible? How should I word it to her?

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    you're lookin at this all wrong
    its just like what swingdude said



    Quote Originally Posted by swingdude007 View Post

    QUOTE[I]you don't talk her into sex, You lead and she eagerly follows...
    you should worry about gettin her to want to have sex when she comes over.

    if she doesnt already!!! sounds like she does,
    all that crap about sleepin over n cuddling...pshhh

    instead of wasting your time figuring out what to say
    You should be making a routine for when she comes overrr

    J.G.

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