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Alright. There is that cute petite ...
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Alright. There is that cute petite girl on my campus. Me and my friends popped in to one of my friend's house a week ago and she was there. She's doing a degree in Media and she was videoing us when we all were getting drunk. She joined us after a while and we were playing The Ring of Fire and all that. My mate, who is an alpha-male, he has got girls wrapped around his finger in a bit.
We all got pretty drunk - he got, I got, the girls got. The girl started to get a bit out of control, the guy obviously wanted to fuck her. I decided not to allow that, and - being the oldest one (22 this year, most of the ppl here are 19 this year) - I had a chat with my friend, who - I know - has told a couple of other girls that he loves them (including my friend, and she's been hurt by what he had done, telling her that he loves her and then shagging others; 'cause she's a sensitive soul) - and now he wanted to use the opportunity to fuck another one.
I managed to get the situation under control - as far as "fucking" goes. He went home, but the girl was fucking mad at me, shouting at me, throwing literally tantrums on the floor, yelling the fuck out at me, slamming the door, asking me "What is my fucking problem", and stuff. Amazing. She was drunk, I was more or less sober, and - being older - I was keeping it cool.
She and her housemates popped in to my house tonight, 'cause we all were supposed to go to the club - me, my mates (including that Alpha-Friend that still wants to fuck her, despite being in "official" relationship with quite a nice girl I've heard), her mates, her. She was fucked on alcohol again, she started drinking beer leftovers from the cans on the table, and I told her "Stop doing that, don't drink leftovers, it's disgusting" - being a bit cocky and funny. Then my mate heard that and he was, like, "Don't start that shit all over again" and she laughed and all that. I stayed at home (had 3 hours of sleep tonight, could not have been fucked to go clubbing to be honest, I'm half asleep now), they all went to the club, he and the girl, too.
The thing is. My attraction is totally WRECKED with her. I wanted to keep the kids safe, instead of earning their gratitude, I became Public Enemy #1, especially for the girl - my mate was drunk, he was alright with that, plus he may fuck a bunch of other girls if he wants to.
Now my question is - what to do to get the attraction? I've seen the girl twice already, and I didn't manage to build jackshit. Plus, she seems to usually hang out with another girl that is pretty hot, too, so there is no "target's friend" that I could open up first, as - being honest - I'd love to fuck both of them
Any help on getting the attraction back would be much appreciated. On winning over the Alpha-Mate who seems to have every fucking single girl wrapped around his finger, wherever and whenever we'd go to, would be even more appreciated.
I like the dude, I really, really do. But it starts getting on my nerves that whenever and wherever we go, he gets the pussy and I can't even turn on the starters and he already has got girls giggling all ova the goddamn place
I felt like this a while back. The problem is not him, its your mentality. Set more realistic goals for yourself. If your goal is to be the guy who's getting more attention then other guys, then your thinking backwards. Your goal is to get girls for yourself, not out-do the other guy. Change your mindset so that your goal is to get better, not to be the "best". Running before you walk will only make you trip and fall. Your going to burn yourself out like I did. Winding up upset with yourself and wondering what your doing wrong. The reality is that your in the company of someone who is farther along then you. Stop looking at it as a roadblock. Get it off your radar. Baby steps brutha. You can't read magic bullets and expect to morph into brad pitt. (thats kinda like what i did lol). Look at it this way, you might be looking at him like he is the shit, but there are probably guys you know who actually look at you like this..
hope this helps.. if it doesn't.. then try wearing axe body spray..
"Set more realistic goals for yourself"
- let's get down to the nitty-gritty, if you don't mind ;-)
I meant, nitty-gritty as in "what kind of goals would you suggest me to set myself"
so . . . ?
Well, I'm still waiting for a reply . . .
Originally Posted by TheeMaddKatter
bro, i got a suggestion.
You mentioned how you became public enemy right? Well, the thing is by actively involving yourself in their business(even if its for their good), you come off as very insecure. Frankly, to them, it may look like intentional cockblocking.
In their minds, theyll rationalize that youre cockblocking becuase you like her. Which, accdg to you is true; you do like her.
TO attract the girl: Try to back off and dont come off as a "protector", if she wants to drink leftovers. Let her, but when you comment about it... it should be in a throw-and-go manner.
So in yuor previous situation, heres what you couldve done:
She: (drinks leftovers, and whatnot)
You: Thats sick, etc etc etc
You: (as shes talking, you look away and talk to someone else)
it shows that you dont care what shit she has to say about you.
So as far as the girl goes, game her like she was a 10. Hardcore gaming
To get the alpha males:
Frankly, step up. Befriend the guy to the point that he looks up to you. You are the oldest, i recall.
ITS YOUR BIRTH RIGHT TO BE THE ALPHA MALE, IF YOU DONT CLAIM IT. YOU WONT HAVE IT.