Im new here, but ive been back on forth on the website looking for tips and advice etc.
What shall i expect now, if anything?
Figured why not be direct and post.
Going to speak in 3rd person, makes it easier to be objective.
Guy meets girl. The girl is part of his group of friends, its first time they meet.
They get along, they speak, turns out she was in a 5 year relationship and got NC, no closure no nothing (turns out ex was seeing someone else).
Him being clueless started to make a move towards a relationship, she says no. They become friends, he plays all his hands and eventually they date, he sleeps with her and then shit hits the fan and he hears ''lets get back to being friends where moving too fast.''
He got in too deep and found it difficult to move past so he accepted the terms and conditions. Became friends and made out once or twice on a rare occasion.
They fight for reasons he cant understand, he loses his head and tells her to stuff it and he wants nothing to do with her anymore.
She starts crying hysterically to a friend, says the usual i miss him i want him etc, he crumbles and calls her to tell her its okay. But never cross the line.
A few days pass and shes still calling him at night with no intention of anything (turns out he is her security blanket and has been all along)
He gets pissed off at himself and relises attachment is pretty much gone, and he wants to get closure in order for him to be a friend and not feel guilty moving on.
The texts go as follow:
Him:I need to speak to you
Him:I want full closure in respect to us
Her:Ok, Well in terms of me and you were friends and always will be. I dont see it being anything more. And i dont want it to be, i like us as friends and thats not what i want to lose..
Is that what you meant in terms of closure?
him:yup, ths way i can move on without guilt.thanks hun
Her: Thats ok. Are we good? Youre not going to desert me are you?
Him:Lol nah, just didnt feel rite moving on, just wanted to hear you say it, this way i dont have to feel guilty moving on
Her:hmm ok.. Your not going to be horrible to me now r u? ur worrying me
Him: y would i do that? it means were friends with no future in those terms. I just wnt feel guilty with someone else.
Her:Wow thats a really wierd though..you and someone..thought you wernt into girls. Well im gna be a mad cat lady when im older thats my aim.
Him: Lol, not into girls, last i checked your a girl and i was into you. dont worry ill find you someone else.
Her: some random comment
Him: random reply
Has not spoken to her since. She always keeps guys around as a backburner, turns out she thought she was special. She had no idea he can get another girl, although she has heard rumours he is more then capable.
What shall he expect now, if anything?
What should he do apart from move on to other girls.