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    Im brand new and in need of advice

    Here goes,

    I need some advice.

    I am currently 21 years old, in college, and I dont have a clue about girls.

    I grew up my whole life a very shy loner type. I went to very small private schools till college. My high school had 30 people in it if that is any indication. Then I went to a community college for 3 years and transferred last semester to a University in the Bay Area. All the way through high school and community college I had never had a girlfriend.

    Last semester I got my first real girlfriend and that lasted for about 5 months. I am now single and I want to have a real college experience. I am tired of being shy and unable to attract the types of girls that I find attractive. I am 6'3", pretty good looking, but totally unable to talk to girls. I just run out of things to say or questions to ask and nothing happens. I also let my shyness take over and I just dont man up and try to talk to any girls for fear I will run out of things to say and face embarrassment and rejection. I am ready to buck the trend and make a change. I don't want to be 30 in the same spot.

    I have never been a partier but I have recently been going to a few frat parties. I even met a girl and went on a date with her last week but I wasnt able to keep her interest.

    What should I be doing? I am ready to face my fears and man up. I just need some guidance as to getting started on the right path.

    Thanks in advance.



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    Best starting point is get the magic bullets book and in terms of on this forum start here http://www.theattractionforums.com/new-start-here/
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    Stallion is correct. Buying magic bullets is the best step. I remember when I first read it and how clear everything became.

    It can be a bit of a challenge and like everything practice makes perfect but it sounds like you will do well with it.
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    I would suggest reading the game as well, I seriously couldn't put it down once I opened it, and it gets your mind thinking in the right direction


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    The Game isn't a manual but it's definitely a good book that shows you what's possible with game. It's what got me started. It;s also got a few examples of shit to say.

    in any case, Magic Bullets is a MUST! It will break everything down and help you understand why your results aren't what they should be and how to change them.

    The last thing to note is that you shouldn't afraid of what to say. YOu have to talk to girls repeatedly and eventually, you'll get good at improvising. An improv class can help. Whenever a girl rejects "you", she's simply rejecting your presentation, not you as a person.
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    Quote Originally Posted by d_downs View Post
    Whenever a girl rejects "you", she's simply rejecting your presentation, not you as a person.
    I loved that idea, thanks bro

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    Quote Originally Posted by collegehopeful View Post
    Here goes,

    I need some advice.

    I am currently 21 years old, in college, and I dont have a clue about girls.

    I grew up my whole life a very shy loner type. I went to very small private schools till college. My high school had 30 people in it if that is any indication. Then I went to a community college for 3 years and transferred last semester to a University in the Bay Area. All the way through high school and community college I had never had a girlfriend.

    Last semester I got my first real girlfriend and that lasted for about 5 months. I am now single and I want to have a real college experience. I am tired of being shy and unable to attract the types of girls that I find attractive. I am 6'3", pretty good looking, but totally unable to talk to girls. I just run out of things to say or questions to ask and nothing happens. I also let my shyness take over and I just dont man up and try to talk to any girls for fear I will run out of things to say and face embarrassment and rejection. I am ready to buck the trend and make a change. I don't want to be 30 in the same spot.

    I have never been a partier but I have recently been going to a few frat parties. I even met a girl and went on a date with her last week but I wasnt able to keep her interest.

    What should I be doing? I am ready to face my fears and man up. I just need some guidance as to getting started on the right path.

    Thanks in advance.
    Have you had female friends in the past, and how was it talking to them, even if you weren't interested in dating them? Sometimes the lack of conversation leads to the awkward silences. Also, women tend to talk more than the guys, so developing conversation skills with women and talking about the type of stuff they'd be interested in, or at least having some clue about what they're saying, should help a bit.

    You don't have to be a partier to enjoy a party, but you'll learn to adjust accordingly, for the times you feel like going somewhere more subdued and going to places that are a little more wild.

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    Well I bought magic bullets and am about halfway through it. I cant say it has been mind blowing for me but it does seem to have some decent info so far. I just have weak conversation skills and the material just seems hard to apply without them. We will see when I finish the book.

    Quote Originally Posted by sdnightfly View Post
    Have you had female friends in the past, and how was it talking to them, even if you weren't interested in dating them? Sometimes the lack of conversation leads to the awkward silences. Also, women tend to talk more than the guys, so developing conversation skills with women and talking about the type of stuff they'd be interested in, or at least having some clue about what they're saying, should help a bit.
    I have had a few female friends in the past. I had one girl in high school I was best friends with... then I decided I wanted more with her and she liked me but I had never had the balls to kiss her or show any sexual physical indications so when I asked her out she said she was "confused" etc... you get the point. Then the next week she ended up doing things with 4 different guys in one night. She went from being totally innocent when I first met her to just the opposite. She got in with the wrong crowd and I didnt want to see her anymore. She sent me a message months later telling me she was in love with me when we were best friends... whatever that meant.

    I did end up going out with the girl that I met at the frat party again. She came and visited me at home where I am for the summer and we went to the beach for the day but I was not really able to keep the conversation going all the time. It was frustrating. I did end up holding hands with her a number of times and I made out with her for a bit at the end of the day but I don't think she was into it because I never heard from her after that day and we would text everyday all the time before that.

    I am just not a very talkative person in general. I generally can start a conversation with someone but I always bail out after a minute or so before I feel like I am going to run out of things to say and appear shy. I feel like I can put up a good front for a little while and have people view me as having a high value but I always bail out from talking with them because I am afraid they will see the real me.

    You don't have to be a partier to enjoy a party, but you'll learn to adjust accordingly, for the times you feel like going somewhere more subdued and going to places that are a little more wild.
    I suppose, its just very uncomfortable for me especially going alone. I just end up being a wallflower and its really unpleasant.

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    Reading Magic Bullets is so you know how to go about your approach to women. "Rules of the Game" is a 30 day challenge that pushes you out of your comfort zone. The goal is to get a date in 30 days. It took me 15 days to get there.

    All you need to do is get out of your house, go out on the street, and ask someone for the time. When they're done, smile, thank 'em, and walk away. Next, go out with a watch on your wrist and a phone in your hand and ask 10 people for the time. This will get you comfortable with being in awkward situations and you'll soon realize that people are a lot more receptive than you think. If they ask about your watch and phone, improvise. They'll see the watch, they might mention it, but you'll leave with them telling you the time or you having a good laugh.

    You can also block your number and call random people and have conversations with them. I've done it with 5 people and arranged meet ups (I flaked though cause I thought it kinda weird that they agreed).

    If you have a friend you can confide in or who's in the same boat as you, both of you should go out together. Go to a club and make it your goal to have fun with someone you've never met before. Making guy friends is just as crucial as female friends but for different reasons.

    Good luck.
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    Reading "The Game" will be a good eyeopener if you are total new in the PuA-world. Magic bullets will be the next step yes. But it all come down to one thing and one thing only - talk with people. Go out as much as possible and you will fast see your shyness disappear, your confidence will grow and you will become a more attracted person. To speed it up, give yourself some challenges and DO them - fx: going out 10 days in a row and open +3 girls each day. Or go out and do crash and burns, where you just go directly for the rejection by opening really strong: "Hi there, you look cute, give me your number" "Hey you and me should really go out for a drink. I'm XYZ by the way". - this may also get you numbers since it's a very strong and confident way to open. You will knock them dead in few seconds.

    Here is my tips for all-around transformation:
    - first, forget the pass and all your excuses about not taking any action. Don't give a damn about what other may think of you. We only live once and life is pretty short.
    - Read the Magic Bullets and start going out +3 times a week. Get yourself a wingman or a mastergroup(group of wings), and if that isn't possible then go out alone.
    - Start innergame stuff such as hypnotica, tony robbins, barry long, eckhart tolle - theses guys books and programs will give you some motivation and confidence to take some action and reach your goals.
    - start in a gym or do a home-workout with dips, chinups, pushups, crunches etc. I don't care what Pick-Up books tells you. Chicks diggs the six-pack.
    - grap any chance you get to be social: say yes to party invites, join some books clubs, run for school president or whatever. Just use whatever you have in your environment to meet people.
    - start grooming yourself and get a makeover: fresh haircut, clean smooth skin, waxed eyebrows, remove bodyhair, fresh breath, clean and white teeth, clean nails, cool and fashionable clothes. Look on blogs/fashion sites for inspiration. Open a girl with good style and ask her if she will go out and find some cool clothes with you.
    - Start evolving some good habbits such as a balanced sleep with +8 hours, healthy nutrition, exercise, not procastinate anything, work hard with your homework and become a good student in class. All this will affect on your energy and your happiness/confidence.
    - Go out and get used to be rejected, it will boost your social confidence big time when you stop all the thoughts in your mind about what others may think of you.
    - read some books about sex so you become more than an average lay for the girls so they keep coming back:
    - Daniel rose: "Sex god method".
    - Ian kerner: "she comes first".
    - David Shade: "masterful lover foundations".
    - Begin a sport or start 1-2 hobbies you enjoy. Doesn't matter what it is, just you enjoy doing it. This will help you to relax, maybe meet new people through it, it's fun for you and it will bring your mind off game and school which sometimes will be healthy for you. hobbies like: art, music, martial art, dancing, video games, meditation, skateboarding, surfing, cooking, golf, diving, piano, climbing, poker.

    Hope this will help you

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