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    Girls not telling you they are seeing someone

    Ok so this girl and I we have history - long story. Nothing between us ever happened. We have known each other for about 16 months and we both admitted to liking each other over time. We both have admitted that there is too much tension between us resulting in awkwardness.

    Anyways, I am pretty sure she is seeing someone, since breaking up with her boyfriend. However she hasnt told me and although I have asked her (we have had a frank discussions about the issues between us) whether she is seeing someone she said that "You couldnt be more wrong"

    Why would a girl lie to me/you about this stuff? I was always under the impression that a girl wouldnt tell you as she sees you as a potential bf and wants to see how you fare against her current guy. However this girl has also stated that she ignored me for a while because she thought that "you always wanted more". So why not tell me she is seeing someone to put me off?

    Im kinda confused. I know that if a girl was interested in me and I did not want anything to happen then id just tell her straight up im seeing someone.

    So in conclusion why would she lie to me?

    Thanks for this.



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    Despite everything; shes afraid to lose you. If she told you shes seeing some one else, shes afraid youd lose interest. 16 months is a good time to get to know someone and from what it sounds like, you two have had some deep conversations. And so, you two have a deep connection.

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    Natualistic hit the nail on the head, I think. I've been where you are. Still working on my game, but from my experience she may be keeping you around because you make her feel good. She could have a boyfriend, a husband, or someone she's having sex with, but she likes having you around too because you make her feel good.

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    Thanks Natualistic and Uptone.

    Ill have to think about what the next stage is. Im not in the friends zone and I know she hasnt put me in there. At the same time I think it will always be one of those situations that nothing happens out of it even though we both like each other etc. Life is too short though to sit there wondering and guessing through life thinking about "what could have been"

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    Wait, I missed it. Are YOU having sex with her?
    Quote Originally Posted by CMPitts
    IOIs don't mean shit if you don't act on them.
    Quote Originally Posted by Soul
    Q: How do you know a girl wants to have sex with you?
    A: You try to have sex with her and she lets you.
    http://www.theattractionforums.com/relationships/79426-he-might-fucking-my-girl-2.html#post501143

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    Quote Originally Posted by rafalluz View Post
    Wait, I missed it. Are YOU having sex with her?
    Nope, why should that matter? As I mentioned this will be one of those situations where there is intense tension between two people but nothing will come of it. Im settled now in being friends with her with that added sexual tension.

    I was just perplexed why one minute she says she was ignoring me cos she thought i wanted something more but then not tell me she is seeing someone. but as the above posters have mentioned maybe i just make her feel good - I validate her so to speak. Although I will be honest i have treated her like shit at times and vice versa. Her and I go round in circles.

    The funny thing is our social circle? they all think that we both not only really like each other but are suited to each other etc. They can all tell there is intense tension and chemistry

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    She has no commitment to you then, she can date and sleep with whoever she wants and has no obligation to tell you. You are being unreasonable.
    Quote Originally Posted by CMPitts
    IOIs don't mean shit if you don't act on them.
    Quote Originally Posted by Soul
    Q: How do you know a girl wants to have sex with you?
    A: You try to have sex with her and she lets you.
    http://www.theattractionforums.com/relationships/79426-he-might-fucking-my-girl-2.html#post501143

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    Quote Originally Posted by rafalluz View Post
    She has no commitment to you then, she can date and sleep with whoever she wants and has no obligation to tell you. You are being unreasonable.
    Oh I totally agree. The point I was making was not that she was not telling me etc and I deserved to know. The point was that here is this girl who was ignoring me because "I wanted more" and when asked if she was seeing someone so that I know my boundaries etc she said that "I couldnt be more wrong" but she could have just told me she was seeing someone so that i could back off.

    So my question was why didnt she say she was seeing someone rather than say she wasnt? I was just trying to find out whether she wanted me to try again with her, as she knows i like her and i know she likes me.

    But yeah I have no obligation or right to know.

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    Probably she's trying to give you false hope/keep you on a leash.
    Quote Originally Posted by CMPitts
    IOIs don't mean shit if you don't act on them.
    Quote Originally Posted by Soul
    Q: How do you know a girl wants to have sex with you?
    A: You try to have sex with her and she lets you.
    http://www.theattractionforums.com/relationships/79426-he-might-fucking-my-girl-2.html#post501143

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    Hell, last week I had some woman not tell me she was living with someone!

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