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She says she likes me, but she is seeing someone. What can I do?
I met this older lady 2 weeks ago. Shes 38 Im 33. She texts me every other day. I asked her to go out with me on a date, but she replied "I am seing someone on and off, but Id love to go out as friends for now. I like you".
So we went out for the 1st time last night (she was on vacation). We had great chemistry. We went to the park to talk about 3 am and she said "I never stay out this late". She rested her head on my shoulder. Then before she went home she pinched my nose and touched my lips with her fingers quickly.
I'm not sure what to make of this. She says shes seeing someone, but throws in "on and off" then she says she likes me, but only friends "for now". And when we went out she was flirty and staring deep into my eyes, and she kept saying "I like being around you".
Whats the deal here? I mean she must like me A LITTLE since she agreed to go out with me, and apparently she wants to meet again and hang out some more. And I like hanging out with her. She DEFINETELY wants to be friends, I know that. And I want to keep her as a friend, if anything. Yet I want to know if theres a chance for more. But I dont want to risk losing the friendship.
How do I know if she wants to take it further?
"But I dont want to risk losing the friendship."
You'll never be able to get her if you can't handle losing her.
I've been thru this situation. Here's the deal: if you were her Best Avaible Option, she'd choose you instead of the other guy.
So, if there's really another guy, increase your value before her, make her feel the best emotions around you and you'll have the lady
She's a fucking mess. She's with someone "on and off," and she's teasing you at the same time ... move on.
I see what you're saying but she just met me lol. I dont expect her to drop her bf a day after meeting me (actually wouldn't ant that' it'd throw a red flag that she just jumps ship right away when she feels good with someone new). As far as the emotions go, I think she is into my company. How do I test whether she is into me or just likes the attention?
Originally Posted by dolabellajr
just by the way you are telling this story I can tell that you display Low value around her... her pinching your nose and touching your lips in my opinion was a female version of amoging you. She knows that she has higher value than you... she does not respect that... she thinks you are a cute kid .. but does not look up to you as an alpha male... you have definately started off on the wrong foot with her. Study the 6 characteristics of an alpha male and start displaying them... that on and off bf of hers wouldnt mean shit if you showed a high value! your acting desperate and needy..... stop that... or dont... its your life
good luck man
I'm not an alpha male. Simple as that. I am who I am. I cannot fake being someone else. I'm not even sure how I'm acting "weak and needy". How am I doing that? By talking to her like a person? It's funny how guys with thick wallets can act as "weak and needy" as they want to and still pull in 9's and 10's.
Originally Posted by nidmight
I have looked over the "material" and honestly it doesnt interest me. Basically it's about playing games and I'm just not into that. Why does it always have to be about "alpha male" b.s.? Cant she just like who I am?
Now you're going to tell me its not about "faking it" then go over a checklist of what I have to "change" lol. Yeh, thats faking it.
If she thinks I'm such "low value" why is she hanging out with me until 4 am when she has work early the next day? Because Im a "cute kid"? Id like to think she enjoys being with me. But I guess not.
She's bored. I don't think you're going to hear here what you want to hear. Women will do all kinds of things when they're bored. They will hang out with you, tease you a little, hold hands and touch your lips. And then fuck some other dude.
Originally Posted by feastyoeyes1
Come on. You've known her two weeks.
But I dont want to risk losing the friendship.
There is nothing mysterious about this situation. She's behaving this way because she wants an orbiter. That is the role she is putting you in.
well if you dont want help... dont ask for it...
If your unwilling to change anything about yourself to better your results... then dont expect different results...
anyways... good luck
No need to get all snippy. You're asking advice on a site that's run by a company that specializes in pickup. You're gonna get advice that's just regurgitated from their material so if you don't agree with it, you might need to google another dating advice site.
Originally Posted by feastyoeyes1
My non-pua advice to be up front with your intentions, but be clear that you're not interested in being part of a triangle and wish her the best. If you like her, tough shit, she's taken and it's obvious she doesn't like you enough to want to ditch this guy. And she's a fucking cunt for taking advantage of you.
"That woman was sexy...Out of your league? Son. Let women figure out why they won't screw you, don't do it for them." -- shitmydadsays
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