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I'm curious about this because it seems to happen ...
Recovery from having a bad day?
I'm curious about this because it seems to happen a lot. I often don't get enough sleep. And when that happens, my conversational skills go through the floor. My conversational and social skills were learned later in life and still often need my full attention.
A recent incident is as good of an example as any. I ran into an HB I haven't seen for several months. Normally, this would be a good thing. But it was an off night for me. I wasn't firing on all cylinders due to not getting enough sleep for two nights in a row and being under the weather. She could probably see that I was out of it. My conversational skills were worse than usual. I think I even asked the same question twice in a row by accident. Hopefully, this didn't seem too intrusive. I got a weird vibe from her when this happened, although it wasn't too blatant. Despite all this, the conversation still seemed to end on a high note.
The HB is an acquaintance who I've spoken to several times in the past at social functions we both attend. So at least there's some history and some investment.
Under the circumstances, is having an off day likely to significantly decrease my value? Or is this not a big deal?
And what should I do, if anything, for damage control? Would it help to point out the next time I see her that I was out of it last time and that I apologize? Or should I just not bring it up?
Originally Posted by 0210
At first I thought this was going to be a post about having a bad day sarging IN GENERAL but you mean having a bad day talking to ONE girl. Don't worry about it. If your low energy, your conversational prowess will be less than optimal. The key is to go out in a high energy state.
I suffer from the same damn problem!
If you have alot of trouble with sleep then i suggest you fix it. Find a doctor if it is severe.
Otherwise i suggest you learn to take powernaps. If you have trouble with anxiety then i suggest you stop drinking caffeine, it can worsen it.
Any other people out there that has any ideas? And what the fuck is wrong with girls, one bad day and you get blown out!?
Like this one chic, i was all shaky from anxt, hunger and caffeine and after that she stopped showing interest. And women arenīt as shallow as we are. AHHAHAH, what a joke.
hahaha wow this is so so like me
Went out with the girl i like last fri. Her friend joined. Im one of those that never talks about issues and problems and control things until I get to sleep then it all bogs me down and never sleep.
When I met the girl and her friend I was fine, but the girl I like also works with me and she pointed out all week that I looked bothered with something and fed up etc. It was just one fo those weeks where problems and issues mounted to breaking point.
Anyways when we were out for drinks - I basically snapped. Not at them but at people calling me to discuss their fucking problems.
I texted the day after said sorry.
Last night we were on the phone and she had a go at me. I deserved it but she knows that I dont talk and that at times the shit gets to me.
Thanks for the responses, guys.
@Soame: Normally, I try to go out on days when I got enough sleep and am in a high energy state. Low energy days are for getting chores done, etc. In this case, I wasn't even specifically going out to sarge but just happened to run into this HB anyway.
So the next time I see her (it's likely that there will be), just sarge as usual as if nothing happened?
@donehell: I've tried sleeping pills. Problem is, they make me so groggy the next day that I may as well just have had 2 hours of sleep or whatever it would have been.
The biggest thing that helps me is to be careful about health in general. I'm careful about what I eat, drink plenty of water and take vitamins. I also don't drink or smoke. All this just helps me get through the day most of the time.
And yes, I agree that HB's can be superficial too. Sorry about that HB.
@DHSF: Yeah, I can see why it would be annoying when you're always the one people are leaning on. Hope things work out with the HB.
To clarify, I didn't say or do anything really atrocious. It was mostly suboptimal communications and nonverbals. The worst thing was that I asked her what she had been up to twice in a row. The weird vibe might have been just confusion as to why I asked the same question twice in a row. But maybe she thought I was prying? Or maybe I'm just overthinking this?
Suppose it were rephrased as a positive. For example: "At least I'm a little more awake than the last time we met." Would that be better than nothing?
Originally Posted by Soame
Or am I better off just sarging like normal as if nothing happened the next time I see her?
Update: I've since ran into her again. As @Soame suggested, I didn't even bring up having been out of it the last time. I just picked up from the last interaction as if nothing happened.
She didn't seem noticeably less receptive to me than in the last interaction. FWIW, I only got to speak to her for a couple minutes this time. But if I'd made her uncomfortable or lost all value, her reaction probably would have been blatant.
So just picking up the interaction where it left off appears to have been the correct move.
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