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    self confidence issues

    i used to be an out going, fun guy and then over a period of time it all went to pot. i lost my confidence, im shy, awkward, feel like im boring whoever im talking to and have no self worth.

    im looking into getting back in the game but need to sort myself out first as I want to enjoy myself doing it.

    can someone suggest some ideas for building self confidence and reducing stress and anxiety? i suffered it before going into the game before but a friend helped me through it by introducing me to the game and giving an edge of competition to it but now they've moved away and i need to do it on my own (i.e. with the help of you lot :P)

    thank you very much.



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    i can feel for you.

    i have some of the same issues. no anxiety though

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    You can try a self-affirmation technique.

    Write down positive things about yourself and your goals. Read it every single morning, maybe out loud, it should help you think positive.

    Write it for yourself and make it personal... try first, second or third person or use a combination. You are the only person that can do it, find inner strength. Here is an example:

    Rhys is awesome. He is comfortable to be himself and has fun no matter what he is doing. Everyone enjoys his company. etc..

    Live YOUR life for yourself! Stay true to yourself, be strong, be bold, do what YOU want to do.

    -talk to a stranger every day
    -ROCK the awkward moments
    -read an interesting article today
    etc...
    "Act like a man of thought. Think like a man of action." Henri Bergson

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    Marijuana is said to help alleviate anxiety isn't it?

    Anyways, I would suggest starting off small. Work up confidence by approaching every girl you pass (within reason of course) and ask the time. After this, just step your way up, get out of your comfort zone.

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    Stop smoking weed. You have an overactive amygdala in the limbic region. This is activated thru weed.

    You need to build yourself up again, donīt worry no damage done! Push your boundaries and donīt let anxiety/doubt/negativity put you back in the comfortzone, "not doing anything and just asking why"! This is where many of us are.

    Donīt drink coffee and eat regulary. In notime will your amygdala be reprogrammed not to get affected in the way you feel.

    And donīt worry about anything, there is no outcome. Take everything as it is and donīt think to much.

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    Quote Originally Posted by donehell View Post
    Stop smoking weed. You have an overactive amygdala in the limbic region. This is activated thru weed.

    You need to build yourself up again, donīt worry no damage done! Push your boundaries and donīt let anxiety/doubt/negativity put you back in the comfortzone, "not doing anything and just asking why"! This is where many of us are.

    Donīt drink coffee and eat regulary. In notime will your amygdala be reprogrammed not to get affected in the way you feel.

    And donīt worry about anything, there is no outcome. Take everything as it is and donīt think to much.
    thanks for the tips but i dont smoke weed at all...

    are there any hobbies i can take up that i can do on my own and will help me meet new people?

    and thanks frostylightbulb for the positive ideas

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    Start working out. Whether you're in shape already or not, its hard to not have more energy and feel more confident if you spend 30 minutes to an hour working on yourself 4 or 5 days a week. It will also do wonders for your stress and anxiety levels.

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    Weed is really messing you up, same for me. It honestly makes you over think and makes things down hill, if your naturally depressed? If that makes sense.. but I decided to QUIT, maybe do it on special occasions but I think its worth it. I started working out, made a workout routine, researched about it. It seems like im going down hill right now since im quitting, but this is just the first step there is alot that Im going to have to go through with, but it can be done. Same for you!. Work on confidence, be friendly, JUST TALK. One thing you should first do is well groom yourself and pick out proper clothing, this will make a big difference, but a cheap cologne. Just live your life, its your only one. If you fuck up, who gives a rats ass, there are billions of people in the world, and there thoughts about you doesn't matter as long as you like yourself for who you are, have friends and aren't a big dick, YOUR ALL GOOD

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    So you want us to tell you how to have more SELF worth? While were at it why don't we just do it for you to? Honestly.... Just do what makes YOU happy. whether that be running a marathon, jumping out of a plane, or an intense game of go fish..... As long as your happy with the results you will project an aura and people will notice.


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    Quote Originally Posted by Rhys View Post
    i used to be an out going, fun guy and then over a period of time it all went to pot. i lost my confidence, im shy, awkward, feel like im boring whoever im talking to and have no self worth.

    im looking into getting back in the game but need to sort myself out first as I want to enjoy myself doing it.

    can someone suggest some ideas for building self confidence and reducing stress and anxiety? i suffered it before going into the game before but a friend helped me through it by introducing me to the game and giving an edge of competition to it but now they've moved away and i need to do it on my own (i.e. with the help of you lot :P)

    thank you very much.
    the book "no more mr nice guy" helped me. it has some bits on anxiety.

    and you should build up some respect for yourself. i get down if i don't feel that everyday i get a little better; so improve yourself each day. whether it be just socialising, or going to the gym, or even just paying attention to people's body language around me.

    you are still an outgoing fun guy!!! stop getting in your way. focus on the positives you have. kill negativity. take responsibility for your happiness. be a gorilla of a man

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