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hey guys i know this is not really on the topic ...
dealing with asshole friends
hey guys i know this is not really on the topic of pick up but i have to ask. I have this asshole friend who ive known for a few years that always keeps dissing almost everything i say or do especialy infront of our other friends.
i dont know what hes problem is he seems to geta kick out off putting me down infront of the rest of our freinds maybe it makes hem feel better or something.
Now i try not to get upset over it and i usualy just laugh it off but its really hard when he just keeps at it. once i got real angry and we had an arguement and i ended up looking like an idiot just because i got mad!
The worst part is that hes not even a cool guy or anything i mean hes 20 years old and a virgin and really a negative guy in general. so does anybody have any idea how to handle this prick so i dont have to argue with him all the time?
Why do you always have to be around this negative person? Roommate, friend? What is it, It seems he doesn't seem to respect you so why do you even bother to be around the guy? I mean if you've told him how you feel about it and he doesn't care then forget about him.
Just ignore him until he realizes how big of a dick he is and not a friend. I'd just say fuck you and i'm out.
well he seems like hes not your friend, jus tell him to fuck off n dont be friends with him anymore
You can dump friends too, you know! Either quickly, or over time so they get the message.
I've done it quite a couple of times. The last thing you need is that sort of constant, negative, influence in your life.
Man up and tell him to fuck-off. Forget about this fool.
Hi! These are some of my experiences with these people.
He is a social vampire. They suck peoples energy by techniques such as telling you...
Hej kid, i know your mad.
Notice the condencending part by starting the conversation that way.
Or telling you stuff like you know the band bla bla bla, and when you reply no.
he blast out by saying -WHAT! you dont know.
Or making your interests seem worthless if for an example you say i like art.
And he replies "ART" with sarcasm.
He gets a kick of seeing you undermined in this way when you loose composure or state.
Other ways are by ignoring you totally.
The problem is that itīs hard to detect what he is doing. He has a bruise somewhere and needs affirmation on other peoples behalf.
This sucks energy, he is a energythief.
Best way is to ignore him, tell him to fuck off.
But if you canīt. Reflect on the disturbance, trust your gut feeling.
Like saying, -kid!...What do you meen by that? Im no kid, and what context does it have for this conversation. My size isnīt really the matter? Thats stupid.
If he ignores you ask, why are you ignoring me all of the time, is something wrong??
He will say no, then tell him- well act like it then. We are all friends here, if you dont have an agenda i mean.
There are hundreds of social techniques of fucking someone over, but itīs alway on the behalf on someone else.
Best way is to dump him, cuz this steals the focus from you and what your purpose is. Remember stay aligned on what your purpose is! He is not your purpose, he will always be like this and stay undeveloped as a person, but his social sucking skills vill become greater. This in the end is a prison. He will have to present himself in ways that he is not. AKA being a FAKE to hide who he is!
You will become authentic.
I had a problem just like this a few years back. A friend of mine came from very humble beginnings and now has a ton of $ and is very cocky about it. He is very nerdy and not successful with women but always puts others down and feels good about it. He would never do it to some of our other friends that are much bigger than him but always did it to me. One day he made a comment about my sister that I didnt take kindly to so I dragged him outside and gave him a black eye and told him I didnt give a shit who he was he cant talk to me like that. Hes one of my better friends now lol. Sometimes you need to put your foot down and put these people in their place. I am not suggesting violence I am merely telling you how I solved my problem.
thanks for all the great advice guys! sounds like i would be much better off spending alot less time with that idiot,
hey donehell that was a great post by the way i recognize alot of the behavior you describe in some off the people around me, that i havent noticed before
He's critical and prob. can't take criticism, and is smart enough to win an argument.
Limit how much time you spend around him.
Your friends are sort of encouraging the insulting he does, because he's saying things they wish they could say, but don't have the balls to.
I don't think he realizes his friends are using him as the guy who will DLV himself but say what's on his mind, no diff. than the main guy in "Superbad".
Don't get mad at him, the friends are the ones encouraging him and keeping him going. Maybe he's funny at it,and you don't find it's funny, because it's being done at your expense.
Have you and him ever hung out alone together? That might be the best place to start, because it's when he's in a group he gets away with talking shit about you. But odds are, he's the most honest out of your friends. It's the ones who don't have the balls to say what they think that you should be more concerned about. Especially the ones you're closest to, because they're the most likely the ones encouraging him to say things about you. If you're pissed off at him, they're fine with that, because they can get away with it.
You have to always be careful about who you're confiding in. I look at it this way - you KNOW he's an asshole. To me, that can be a huge asset, because he knows who in your social circle is the biggest gossip. He doesn't need to talk behind your back, so respect the a-hole friend,because he might turn out the be the one that's the most HONEST.
Man i donīt know in which position you are in, are you advanced or are you a newbie. The only thing i can tell you is that if your friends are fucking you over, it sounds that there are many in your social circle. You should work alone and ignore these. I mean you didnīt realise that they were mastering you. I donīt mean anything by this, but you need a solid foundation. If someone is undermining you like that this will have negative influence even if you know who they are and what they do.
Seemingly they donīt work like you do. You seem to be a part of the pack and being others amusement, they are affirming themselves thru you. Donīt be a social pet. Fuckém.
One day you wonīt even see them and if you do they will be a distant memory of rulers in their own little shitcircle. You on the other hand will be working in every field.
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