How to tell if she's playing hard to get, or not interested??

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    How to tell if she's playing hard to get, or not interested??

    She's 33 and I'm 32. She's giving off a lot of mixed signals and seems to be a bit of a headcase. She came on to me at first very strong, then pulled away and wanted to be "friends". I backed off and now she's been "hanging around" me and throwing hints that she wants me to chase her.

    I'm getting all sorts of advice on this. Some guys are telling me:

    "Chase after her, she's playing hard to get!! A woman wants you to be a MAN and chase her!!"

    Others are saying:

    "Ignore her!! It'll drive her nuts!! And she'll eventually come after you if she wants you!! Be a MAN!!"

    Notice how both sides claim their way is the "manly" thing to do. So who's right? Whats the more "manly" thing to do" Chase her or ignore her?

    I'm so confused with this. The advice I'm getting is so conflicting I dont know who to listen to anymore. So far I've just ignored her. Should I go after her?

    My fear is this: She's trying to get me to chase her, and when I do, she'll go to her friends and say "HAHA look at this sap!! He keeps coming after me HAHA!! What a loser dork!!"

    On the other hand, she could be saying to her friends "Why isnt he going after me?!?! Doesnt he care enough about me to chase me?!?!"

    AAARRGH!!!! I dont know what she's doing or thinking!! I cant read minds!! HELP!!



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    I am always on the side of let her come to you... dont ever chase, but knowing the situation more will help me make a better judgement.
    "He who makes a beast of himself gets rid of the pain of being a man" -Hunter S Thompson

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    Don't be needy, and be confident in what you do; nothing is a big deal.

    If you make a move for her it should be a 100% "I am making a move", move, nothing that could be construed as a friendship thing.

    She could just be a flirt and as you said, hoping to get you to ask her out to show her friends that you're chasing her, but I wouldn't let that bother you. If she is genuinely flirting with you and you ask her out, there's not a whole lot to be embarrassed about there! Its if you followed her on nights out, kept texting/ringing etc that it would start to be DLV / embarrassing.

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    How I tell is when she files a PPO order against you... shes not intrested
    "He who makes a beast of himself gets rid of the pain of being a man" -Hunter S Thompson

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    Quote Originally Posted by Graffitti View Post
    How I tell is when she files a PPO order against you... shes not intrested
    That's one way, along with many others.

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    Quote Originally Posted by bbasher79 View Post
    She's 33 and I'm 32. She's giving off a lot of mixed signals and seems to be a bit of a headcase. She came on to me at first very strong, then pulled away and wanted to be "friends". I backed off and now she's been "hanging around" me and throwing hints that she wants me to chase her.

    I'm getting all sorts of advice on this. Some guys are telling me:

    "Chase after her, she's playing hard to get!! A woman wants you to be a MAN and chase her!!"

    Others are saying:

    "Ignore her!! It'll drive her nuts!! And she'll eventually come after you if she wants you!! Be a MAN!!"

    Notice how both sides claim their way is the "manly" thing to do. So who's right? Whats the more "manly" thing to do" Chase her or ignore her?

    I'm so confused with this. The advice I'm getting is so conflicting I dont know who to listen to anymore. So far I've just ignored her. Should I go after her?

    My fear is this: She's trying to get me to chase her, and when I do, she'll go to her friends and say "HAHA look at this sap!! He keeps coming after me HAHA!! What a loser dork!!"

    On the other hand, she could be saying to her friends "Why isnt he going after me?!?! Doesnt he care enough about me to chase me?!?!"

    AAARRGH!!!! I dont know what she's doing or thinking!! I cant read minds!! HELP!!
    You dont want to chase her, chasing her lowers your value. Not only does it lower your value in the current set but all the sets close enough to observe this behavior. If she says something indiacting she want you to chase her simply say something along the lines of "I'm not that easy"

    I've never witnessed a girl playing hard-2-get. But i'm sure if i did and she was directing it towards me. I'd call her a low value, because she's obviously trying to lower your value because she wants to be the star of the night, not you. Ya digg. In simpler terms she's jealous because your more valuable then her, when she tries to get you to chase her DONT use this to your advantage. Make her chase you, most likely all the other girls (if this is in a club) will see her chasing YOU, and this makes them feel more attracted to you, which then you can build even more, then choose who you want.
    "(This is my understanding of each)
    Attraction - Female is qualifying the male
    Qualification - Male is qualifying the female
    Comfort - Both feel the other has sufficient value, and this is where they build their connection
    Seduction - Each are so comfortable they may end up in the sex phase of the model ("Where it goes beyond kissing, and sex is realistically possible" - Magic Bullets)"
    "Good idea, she can keep you from throwing yourself at me (not said seriously)"
    DaBomb

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