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    Advice on my LJBF's situation

    First Time poster here...but this is my situation and I would like advice on this...

    Just got out of a 5 year relationship a few weeks back and I am rustier than rusty at everything that has to do with dating...A mutual friend that my ex and i had have started texting/talking/hanging out quite alot lately since things ended with me and her. It started with all 3 of us supposed to be going to the movies...well my ex. said she wasn't interested in going so i told our friend, let's just call here monica, that she wasn't interested. Well monica immediately responded with "well i want to go with you". So we made plans to go to see this movie. Well before we went and saw the actual movie we hung out with some mutual friends at her apt. We were def. flirting, she sat next to me etc....she has always seemed to me to have a thing for me even when i was with my ex. so i kinda expected this....so both times after i left her apt. she would immediately text me and chat until we went to sleep...at one point she used the line "im never going to find anyone" to which i replied with something that involved calling her pretty, and im surprised she doesn't have anyone...well the next night was supposed to be movie night but she cancelled and said that she wasn't feeling well. And then a few mins. later she texted saying that she just wanted to be friends and that's it. Well at that point i was still living with my ex. with no def. plans on when she was moving out...since then she has moved out and now monica, almost immediately after hearing that news, texted me inviting me to go to the store and pick up some x-mas ornaments to decorate her tree and to get some things so we can make dinner together...Well we did this and went back to her apt. and made dinner...and there was flirting again and about 3 different instances of kino during the hangout. Now since then I have started to try and text her less and even flaked on her once (when she invited me to lunch), in a possible attempt to start the process of breaking out of the friend zone. I invited her to hang out with me tonite and she accepted but then cancelled saying she wasn't feeling well, but really wanted to hang out...and said Let's watch football together tommorrow night. I don't know what to think...any thoughts/advice would be appreciated...thank you!

    Possible important info: she is a good friends ex...but they've been broken up for 2 years.



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    You're missing the big picture.

    Monica is priming you to be her next boyfriend.
    She's waiting for you to escalate because she feels she cannot do so on her own
    because she doesn't want to endanger the "upcoming" relationship. Chick logic.

    ~Cheerio, Sean
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    confer with the guy inventing alcohol. -Five Stenson

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    Quote Originally Posted by SeanC View Post
    You're missing the big picture.

    Monica is priming you to be her next boyfriend.
    She's waiting for you to escalate because she feels she cannot do so on her own
    because she doesn't want to endanger the "upcoming" relationship. Chick logic.

    ~Cheerio, Sean
    So then you're saying I should pursue and use the usual methods to escalate...or what is your advice to what I should do? And why would she bust out ljbf if she wants a relationship?

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    I might have misread the OP.
    Scratch the advice.
    For better advice please post better worded questions.
    It's really hard not to get lost in that block of words and letters.

    ~Cheerio, Sean

    ps: Make it a new thread.
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