how do i handle this question

[agold7964]

all advance appreciated in advance!
situation broken down:

met hb8.5 at club last week. hung out with her for about 45 minutes in the club. did lots of attraction , some qualification , kino and comfort . moved her all around club.

the next day she comes to a party I AM HOSTING. i introduce her to all my friends

next day same thing happens, she comes to another party i am hosting, in introduce her to everybody, including lots of attractive hbs.
i don't spend much time with her cause i'm bussy chatting with everybody.

i talk to her 2 times on the phone in the next view days.
continue to attract, qualify , and build comfort .

we txt a bit.
she sets up a date with me tonight. she goes: i'm going to a*restuarant* with a friend and seeing my best friend there, come with me.
i already have one date, but i work the date around it.

i meet her up. it is her and her sister. we walk in the restaurant, she introduces me to her "best friend" (as she called him) who works there, it's her boyfriend!!

we sit to get food. they see other ppl there they know. the bf pops by a few times to check in on us. it's her, me, 2 other dudes, and her sister. i do light game on her sister and have good conversation with her right away. (i figure i'ma ingore the target, that took me out to hang out with a couple friends to meet her boy friend, fuck that. and i'll game her sister which of course i do a good job of. hb is very aware of this. )

hb8.5 asks me a few questions throught the night. i answer, acting like i'm not trying to be rud, but at the same time i'm having a good conversation with her sister, and i don't want to be rude and ignore her. but i still give hb8.5 little bits of attention.

she txts me after i leave (i have to go on another date, and she knows this.) she asked me y i had to leave: "friend gets off at 11 and she invited me over to hang out"

she txt messages me about 2 hrs after i leave the "group date":
her: so what do you think about my bf? does he deserve me?
me: it was chill tonight! let me know next time u go hang with friends.... n i'll think about inviting u to places, events, n parties (i treate it like shit test and ignore it)
her: haha. i'll let you know for sure. and you better let me know about your shit...but u didn't answer my Q about my bf...is he worthy?
her: and thanks for coming out by the way !!! "

so help a brother out! i don't put up with shit tests at all, which is why i ignored the bf question cause i blieve it is one. i am a bit perplexed and wondering what is going on,

what is she thinking, and how do i respond to her txt and continue the interaction from there.

[DaBomb]

all advance appreciated in advance!
situation broken down:

met hb8.5 at club last week. hung out with her for about 45 minutes in the club. did lots of attraction , some qualification , kino and comfort . moved her all around club.

the next day she comes to a party I AM HOSTING. i introduce her to all my friends

next day same thing happens, she comes to another party i am hosting, in introduce her to everybody, including lots of attractive hbs.
i don't spend much time with her cause i'm bussy chatting with everybody.

i talk to her 2 times on the phone in the next view days.
continue to attract, qualify , and build comfort .

we txt a bit.
she sets up a date with me tonight. she goes: i'm going to a*restuarant* with a friend and seeing my best friend there, come with me.
i already have one date, but i work the date around it.

i meet her up. it is her and her sister. we walk in the restaurant, she introduces me to her "best friend" (as she called him) who works there, it's her boyfriend!!

we sit to get food. they see other ppl there they know. the bf pops by a few times to check in on us. it's her, me, 2 other dudes, and her sister. i do light game on her sister and have good conversation with her right away. (i figure i'ma ingore the target, that took me out to hang out with a couple friends to meet her boy friend, fuck that. and i'll game her sister which of course i do a good job of. hb is very aware of this. )

hb8.5 asks me a few questions throught the night. i answer, acting like i'm not trying to be rud, but at the same time i'm having a good conversation with her sister, and i don't want to be rude and ignore her. but i still give hb8.5 little bits of attention.

she txts me after i leave (i have to go on another date, and she knows this.) she asked me y i had to leave: "friend gets off at 11 and she invited me over to hang out"

she txt messages me about 2 hrs after i leave the "group date":
her: so what do you think about my bf? does he deserve me?
me: it was chill tonight! let me know next time u go hang with friends.... n i'll think about inviting u to places, events, n parties (i treate it like shit test and ignore it)
her: haha. i'll let you know for sure. and you better let me know about your shit...but u didn't answer my Q about my bf...is he worthy?
her: and thanks for coming out by the way !!! "

so help a brother out! i don't put up with shit tests at all, which is why i ignored the bf question cause i blieve it is one. i am a bit perplexed and wondering what is going on,

what is she thinking, and how do i respond to her txt and continue the interaction from there.

this is a very simply problem.

Her: what you think of my bf ? is he worthy of me?
Me: You tell me, I just met him tonight.

Reverse the frame. She is trying to make herself look like the prize.

One other thing you could say is

Me: He seems like a nice guy, but be careful he might start sucking up to you.

[agold7964]

this is a very simply problem.

Her: what you think of my bf ? is he worthy of me?
Me: You tell me, I just met him tonight.

Reverse the frame. She is trying to make herself look like the prize.

One other thing you could say is

Me: He seems like a nice guy, but be careful he might start sucking up to you.

Thank you. Is her question about bf a shit test? And because she is trying to make herself look like the prize, could that be considered an IOI.

Also. Do I just keep gaming her like usual. Go on dates Ext even though she has bf?

[SELFISHMAN]

Try something like this: "You always have exactly what you deserve. Nothing more and nothing less. But sometimes people are ready for the next step. I dont know, I just met him, you tell me !!!" She is trying to hoop you. Before you jump, hoop her first. Let us know how it goes.

[Lokey]

Thank you. Is her question about bf a shit test? And because she is trying to make herself look like the prize, could that be considered an IOI.

Also. Do I just keep gaming her like usual. Go on dates Ext even though she has bf?

she has done a couple of things. First she introduced you to her bf. She didnt want to tell you but show you. Now you know she is taken. And she knows you know. She wants to know what u can do for her now. Like the above poster said, she wants u to think she is the prize. I would turn it around on her. Make you the prize. And the bf is an obstacle. She obviously wants to see you. I would make her try a little harder. But not too hard because she could bore easily.

[the_sLiDe]

I see it as a : "should I jump ship for you" kind of shit test. I like the others reply about reversing the frame, however now that you've ignored it twice if she doesn't bring it back up = win for you.

[DaBomb]

Try something like this: "You always have exactly what you deserve. Nothing more and nothing less. But sometimes people are ready for the next step. I dont know, I just met him, you tell me !!!" She is trying to hoop you. Before you jump, hoop her first. Let us know how it goes.

The quote he put makes you sound uneducated. (Not directed to poster) If you said all that then you are showing IOI by explaining something. When you could just say what I told you, and avoid this fateful situation.

she has done a couple of things. First she introduced you to her bf. She didnt want to tell you but show you. Now you know she is taken. And she knows you know. She wants to know what u can do for her now. Like the above poster said, she wants u to think she is the prize. I would turn it around on her. Make you the prize. And the bf is an obstacle. She obviously wants to see you. I would make her try a little harder. But not too hard because she could bore easily.

Not always true, it could be an orbitor.

I see it as a : "should I jump ship for you" kind of shit test. I like the others reply about reversing the frame, however now that you've ignored it twice if she doesn't bring it back up = win for you.

This is possible, but it all comes in the context of the conversation. Was she super serious when she said "this is my boyfriend".

Thank you. Is her question about bf a shit test? And because she is trying to make herself look like the prize, could that be considered an IOI.

Also. Do I just keep gaming her like usual. Go on dates Ext even though she has bf?

this all depends. Did he really fit the profile of a bf? or did he appear more as the orbitor?

If he seems more like an orbitor than an actual bf, then yes this is an IOI she is trying to subtly say that "I don't have a boyfriend, but I don't wanna appear needy" (in so many words).

[tomthemachine]

DaBomb's first suggestion works, i've been there myself... NEVER give your opinion, its too risky... but obviously she is thinking of getting rid of him for you, so I'm sure as long as you keep at it, and dont say anything stupid, you will be fine