4 days dating. Now it stops? Need a mans opinion!
Hey guys I got a question.
I met this girl sarging with a buddy. Her friend was the target but I switched it up and went for the other friend. I got her number and got a kiss. We have see each other 1 day out of the week on Thursdays at a local bar for young people (age 18-30). Every time we went out I would would casually joke with her and her friend that she is going to date me. I would ask her friends if they care while she was standing next to me holding me. They all said they didn't mind. A few of them even suggested we would have good looking kids (kinda weird hearing that one personally). All her friends like me a lot and I made sure they did. I told her I was laid off from the plant and that I am looking for a new job. Right now I haven't been able to taker her on a real date for just the two of us because of my money situation. We only communicate through a myspace type site. This last Thursday, I was a little tipsy and i got both our emotions flowing hot. So I told her I was getting tired of waiting and asked her to be my GF. She Accepted. However 4 days later I offer to take her out to lunch and I get this. I do believe I fell for her pretty fast and I'm not sure how to slow it down. Every relationship I've been in has gone really fast. From meeting a woman to dating her in less than a month. Is that normal?
Now I always seem to be showing this girl more attention than what she shows me. I am 4 years older than her and i haven't been in a relationship for over 1 year now. She is a virgin and is only 18. I'm kinda confused about the situation right now and because my emotions are involved I am unable to make decisions that will better the situation.
we should do lunch today. yup me and u Lauren:
How are we gonna manage that
[few hours go by
ok lets do it on Wednesday? what time would be good for u? Lauren:
[switched the convo to private message
if u dont want to go just say so duh Lauren:
uh! i would Andrew:
liar liar pants on fire, Hangin’ on a telephone wire! Lauren:
and not that this is of any relevance but i dont know if we should date so soon at least until things are stable. it kind of makes me feel weird about us cause we dont see each other or communicate and i know youre trying but i just think we should wait until things are straight, please? Andrew:
omg ty i was thinking the same thing Lauren:
ah good thank god! cause my stomach has been in knots since
- What do I say back to her message? Or do I even reply at all?
- Am I over thinking the situation? Or is there possibly someone else?
- How do I act the next time I see her? Do I kiss her and continue on like nothings changed or do I step back and be distant?
- Do you have any other opinions on this or can you give me example of your past experiences?
Currently I feel like I am unable to make rationale decisions because my emotions are involved and I am a bit confused.