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So I ...
Think I may have came across as creepy and or needy w/ HB9?
So I was introduced to a friend's girl Friday night things went very well(Field Report) I logged on FB yesterday and she was on so I talked to her a little bit and she asked me if I was going out clubbing again anytime soon, I said not this month I had plans/etc so I told her I would try to get her an invite to a party this Friday I was going too.
Got a reply back today from the host saying it was full and she couldn't come so I sent her another message on FB today(Now thinking/reading it over, might have been a little too soon)
This is what I said, she's online now and I haven't gotten a reply and it's been all day. I didn't want to start a conversation with her cause maybe she's just thinking it over/getting opinions from friends,seeing she's good friends with one of my best buddies girls, who was a close friend(we have fallen a apart now)
et me know if I went about this wrong/just being to anxious and should wait it out.
"Soo I tried to get you on the list for Friday, I did everything I could but it was a no. Sucks for you. It wouldn't even be worth going until like midnight anyway seeing thats when me and (my buddy) arrive.
But because you want to hang out with me so bad(I can read minds remember?) I have this cool thing called a cell phone where if I enter people's names I can text them later and arrange these things called hang outs, so you should give me your number.
Don't expect text sex or anything, I'm very high maintenance and you have to wine and dine me if you have such plans. All I can promise is good conversation. Comprende?"
It sounded like a better idea when I typed it, now I'm re-thinking my approach.
Well semi new to the game too. Ive got about 120 approaches under my belt but ill give you my input anyways.
Originally Posted by Kruise
You shouldnt of invited her to the party at all, you never wanna bring a girl to a club/party if shes your target(unless shes your pivot). You would have to deal with guys hitting on her and what not, its just not a good idea.
as for your facebook message, it does seem a little try hard. I would of kept it simple somthing like "sorry the party is full but we can hang out another time, whats you cell number? ill text you."
never "you should give me your number" always something like "Whats your number? ill send you a text sometime" Just makes it seem like you dont really care.
Originally Posted by Ex303
yeah, oh well what can you do now. I guess I'll just freeze her now eh and see what happens?
And it wasn't really a party party, just like 30 or so close friends hanging out/almost every guy there is in some type of relationship and the guys that aren't I'm not worried about at all.
Despite what all the experts say, I disagree with this. I think that bringing a girl to a party really does work as a DHV in some sense. If you can bring a girl to a party and STILL remain alpha at the other party, it makes you look 20x higher value than just being alpha at one party. And so what if a guy hits on her? So what if a guy steals her away? You're at a banging party with PLENTY of other chicks to game, anyway. Jealousy plot, anyone?
Originally Posted by Ex303
I do agree that your facebook message is a little too try hard. You kinda overdid the cocky funny just a tad, especially at the end. That's really something you say in late late qualification to comfort, and not with everything else already said. It shouldn't necessarily be a deal breaker, but if it is, just keep gaming...you'll forget about that broad once you get out there and see more hot potential vag.
Thanks for the replies guys, that's pretty much the plan. I think I'm not going to talk to her unless I come across her at a club or whatever or she starts the convo then I'll throw out the "Sure that message may have been a little creepy but it's pretty rude not to reply back, I hate girls without manners"
Originally Posted by Ten Itis
something like that.
Nah...don't do that. Never acknowledge yourself being creepy. You were joking and she doesn't know how to take a joke. That's your best angle (just in a nice, still jokingly, but matter of fact way). If you tell a girl you are creepy, she will see you as creepy.
Originally Posted by Kruise
I would go with a disqualifier. Simply throwing out a "OMG we are sooo not going to get along" or "I am so not your type" I think could at least help to neutralize the situation. Right now she pretty much knows you are into her, but a disqualifier or two done right could be very helpful. You just need to do it right.
HB: I love chocolate
You: OMG...I HATE chocolate. I'm moving you down the friends list. You've been demoted from friend #4 to friend #8.
You calling her your friend implies that you only saw her as a friend without making it seem like you WANTED her to know that you only saw her as a friend, but it doesn't directly state it, meaning she may still wonder. Disqualifies her.
HB: I cannot stand Alice in Chains.
You: Really? They are like my favorite band. Haha wow I am so not your type (or you are so not my type, but that's usually a little harsher and should be done mainly for more bitchy girls who have stronger bitch shields to get past).
The first one may be enough, but the second one might be added on if you think she still thinks you are creepy. After you try the first disqualifier, you keep running your normal game (don't break your frame or character), be friendly, fun, etc. It may or may not make her want you, depending on how much the message hurt you. If she brings up the message, act like you don't care, and just tell her you were just messing around with her. Then never talk about it again.
In the future, it helps to have another reason other than interest to number close. Invite her to play putt putt. That's my favorite.
Ten Itis: Well, I already smoked you in thumb wars, hugging, and the 5 questions game. I'm 3-0. I think you need a chance to redeem yourself, so how about this - I was really feeling like I wanted to play some putt putt...and now that I have somebody who I know cannot possibly beat me at anything, I have a playing partner! You have to come play with me (name a day and time...don't say "sometime this week"...make plans if you can. The day and time can be negotiated based on schedule, but always try and get a set day and time before you even number close). Then hand her your phone and tell her to put her number in it. Make sure you give her your number, as well.
Good luck, bro
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