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I need some help on how ...
using text/phone game to guarantee a day2
I need some help on how to reliably progress from the initial meet up (online in this case) to a day 2. I've had a couple instances where I feel I start out strong with text/phone game but then it seems to fizzle.
Here's the current scenario. Emailed a girl on a dating site. She replies the next day and I just happen to be online at the time so she IMs me. I start talking to her, teasing then get her number. We were planning to meet up at bar that night but her phone had crappy reception and I already had some other plans so long story short it didn't work out.
I texted her a couple-three times in the next couple weeks. Then I called her last Friday, she was in her mom's car on the speaker phone so I tell her to call me back. She texts me saying she can't get off the speaker phone so asks to text instead.
HB: Text me! I can't get off speaker phone any time soon
Me: r u in the car ? or did u jack someone else's phone?
HB: Oh both duh... No my moms car has speaker phone thru the stereo speakers...She abuses the option
Me: Did u give ur moms phone number? OMG!
HB: Lol never!!! What is ur name for FB
Me: Same as my name in real life silly
HB: Omg tell me
Me: kishi. U know ur harder to get on the phone than the president
HB: Yes...Its one of my wonderful qualities...
Me: Oh u mean theres more. Oh goodie
HB: Om ur not on FB!!
Me: Yes i am. U pbly just cant see me. Gotta be vip
HB: Ha ya. So sure... What r doing tonight?
Me: U gotta make urself visible on fb. I may spend it with the fams we'll see
HB: I'm visible! U r not...
Me: Then how come i cldnt find u. Do u need me to walk u thru it?
HB: Ha ha ha maybe... I just think u may be sketchy
Me: This coming from someone who may not even be real
HB: That is clearly u...
Me: Yeah i know im too good to be true
HB: Lol u maybe nuts. Friend me now!!
Then I get her on the phone and walk her through making herself visible on FB so I can add her as a friend. FB was running all slow but eventually I added her even though she said she still couldn't see my invite. Then she says that she'll call me right back in a sec but I told her I had to go grab dinner and will talk to her later.
So overall this seemed not too bad. I texted her once later that evening but no response. I also texted her the next day and left a message later on in the day. No response.
I texted her again today (several days later)
"Today feels like a beach getaway day. What do u say u bring some brewskis and i bring some russkis?"
Again no response. And she hasn't accepted my FB friend invitation. All my previous interactions with her have been pretty good up to that point. I know I messed up when she asked me what I was doing that evening and I kinda blew it off. I actually wanted to meet up the next day but that didn't happen. It also feels like if I just keep sending her lighthearted messages, that won't move things forward and will be just more of the same.
I did a little bit of qualification over the phone and text messages but not much. So I'm wondering if there's some big element I'm missing and what the best way to proceed going forward is.
Anyone have any suggestions? Is this a three strikes and she's out kind of deal? Should I just write her off or are there things I should try to see if I can get this thing back on track? I'm thinking to limit the personal communications that show a lot of effort on my part and maybe just text her to join me and my friends when I go out. But I'm open to other suggestions on how to gauge the situation.
its over for u.. she hasn't even reply back to your 123129231 text msg
Keep her in the "Social Rolodex".
Ping her with a text in a couple weeks, something that doesn't require a response from her. It doesn't have to be cocky, it doesn't have to be funny. Just a message with dangling threads to see if she takes the bait.
Something like : Hey - hope you're enjoying the last few weeks of good weather before it gets all cold and shit! -Fenn. (Sign your name just incase she deleted it at some point). If she doesn't reply, ping again in a month. In my experience, most girls will reply.
“There are no failures - just experiences and your reactions to them.”
this whole situation seems odd. is their any info you left out?
because she wanted to see what you were doing but still no girl will lose her attraction towards you that fast from that.
could be that she thought you were clingy. or hell maybe realized that she has a bf and should stop contacting you.
this whole thing seems too odd. something is missing
she isnt even worth it at this point.. NEXT!!! move on
"Women are never disarmed by compliments. Men always are. That is the difference between the sexes." Oscar Wilde
Originally Posted by CMPitts
That's what I was thinking too. It's not even about the girl at this point but about the situation.
Originally Posted by surffreak
She just moved here a couple weeks ago so I'm thinking the boyfriend thing is unlikely but who knows.
The only thing that happened after that conversation is she got access to my Facebook profile. There'd have to be something pretty crazy there (like me admitting to be a rapist or something) to send her running like that. I did find it weird that when I called her she was on speakerphone in someone else's car like she gave me someone else's number.
But then again I can rationalize her ignoring me in a 100 different ways but it is what it is. I can move on, but understanding and learning from this would have been nice.
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