Why Inner Game Is The Most Important Part Of TRUE Success With Women
By Mr M
Lead Love Systems Instructor, Director of Love Systems Europe
Co Creator of the Love Systems Inner Game Seminar


What is Inner Game ?

On one level, 'inner game ' is about your confidence, beliefs and your overall attitude about life. However, on an even deeper level, inner game is about developing the intuitive, yet experiential, appreciation (through achieving genuine self improvement) that you are a worthy person who is truly able to handle any situation which includes, but is not limited to, situations with women.

I recently had an ex-student approach me who had taken a bootcamp in 2006 (NOT with me). Things have changed a lot since 2006 (my bootcamps are, for example, almost completely different from the programs in 2006). Anyway, he came to me with some dissatisfaction of his long term results. He just couldn't get what he was doing wrong. He had learned all the lines and routines, was going out A LOT and was still not getting the type of success that he wanted. I spent some time with this student (he offered to help me grow one of my businesses and teach me about his business, which I was interested in - so fair trade ). After deeper analysis, it was clear that he had missed the boat on Inner Game . I was able to 'fix' him over a few sessions, but it occurred to me that his mentality was 'I just have to learn a few tactics and I will become successful.' That was why he was NOT achieving the success he wanted. His major flaw? His belief that you can shortcut millions of years of attraction evolution using band aid solutions to achieve rockstar results. You need to achieve a deeper level of change to get OUTSTANDING results. And you may not even know that you need this (as he didn't) due to the 'blind spots' in your character/personality.

The Importance of Inner Game

So, becoming more successful with women is not just about learning techniques, tactics and seduction tools.
Here are 5 reasons why developing Inner Game is so important.

1. The aim should be to become a naturally attractive person - NOT a 'Routine / Game Junkie'
There are two levels of mastery in pick up and seduction : (1) learning and using the lines, tactics and routines that cause attraction and (2) becoming an overall naturally attractive person, even absent seduction techniques. Becoming a naturally attractive person requires deep behavioral, self-image and self-worth levels of change, which is something that lines, tactics and routines can only help you with to a certain degree. It also requires a deeply ingrained understanding of both female and male attraction psychology. Learning and improving your inner game represents this 'path' to becoming a naturally attractive person who subconsciously generates attraction.
2. At some point during the interaction / relationship, she is going to see you for the real you
You cannot fake who you are for the entire course of the relationship. You may be able to fake your personality well enough to get a girl to sleep with you, but at some point beyond that, the real you - along with all your insecurities, failings, deficiencies, self-esteem issues etc - will be revealed. Consequently, despite what you project externally, who you are internally will inevitably manifest itself in your interaction with women, whether during the pick up or further along in the relationship.
3. To get and keep high quality women, you need solid inner game
As an ex-instructor once said, “Whether you realize it or not, your attitude is constantly projected to the women you talk to. If you have a strong, assertive, and positive attitude, women will naturally be attracted to you. That's how many naturals get laid. To add to this, high quality women will often throw a variety of ‘tests’ at you to see if you are internally the person that you project externally. Developing a strong inner game means that you are, internally, a naturally attractive man. Thus, you can react freely instead of fighting to externally project the image of a desirable person in the face of these ‘tests’.
4. In the end, becoming better with women is about becoming a better person yourself
Becoming better with women is a process of self improvement. By learning how to better interact with women, you are essentially becoming a more fun, interesting, knowledgeable and well-rounded person. However, this process of self improvement happens on two levels – (1) the superficial level (i.e. ‘fake it until you make it’) and (2) the deeper, self image and behavioral level of change. If you can achieve the deeper level of change in which you improve aspects of who you are and how you see yourself, then not only will you automatically become the type of guy that is more successful with women, but you will also become an overall more fun, interesting and balanced person without being conscious about it.
5. Inner Game 'seeps' into your Outer Game... and you often don't even know it
Things like neediness, validation seeking, being try hard, overcompensation, exuding a good vibe, the inner state of your emotions, inclinations towards positivity, lifestyle orientation ALL come out. OUTER GAME was designed to present your BEST SELF. This is what Style said in The Game . What if your 'best self' still has holes in it? That is why Inner Game is crucial, because it constitutes the improvement of your attractive being from the ground up. YES, Outer Game can be used for deception, but only to a certain degree. Do you want to learn to be a great deceiver / manipulator or an effortlessly naturally attractive man?
These 5 reasons are only SOME of the reasons why Inner Game is so important. There are plenty more, but these really stick out in my mind.

Some of the Basic Principles of Inner Game

It is not possible to cover the entire ambit of inner game in a short article. The Inner Game Seminar is a 10 hour long seminar which is a life-changing and revolutionary program on inner game. However, below are some of the basic principles of inner game in various articles that I have written. I will write more articles in future so be sure to check my Classic Writings from time to time to see updates. I ONLY add great content that will help your game to my Classic Writings...
Here are some books that I would also recommend to help you with your inner game:
Granted, these books are tangential to actual 'Game', but think about it this way... If Outer Game (i.e. lines, tactics, routines) were a house, Inner Game would represent the foundations of that house. Many people try to learn game and DO NOT get the results that they want. I'd say in over 75% (3 out of every 4) cases, this is due DIRECTLY to an Inner Game problem.

Anyway, check out these books and my Classic Writings (Braddock may also have some great articles on Inner Game in his Classic Writings) which I hope will help in taking your Inner Game (and thus your Game) to the next level.

Mr M

P.s. If you are interested in taking the Inner Game seminar , check out the life changing reviews of the most recent (to the date of this post), Inner Game seminars below:

INNER GAME SEMINAR REVIEW 1: Braddock & Mr. M NYC Inner Game Seminar - NYC, Feb 2009

INNER GAME SEMINAR REVIEW 2: Braddock & Mr M Inner Game - Miami, Feb 2009

INNER GAME SEMINAR REVIEW 3: Braddock & Mr M Inner Game - Vegas, Feb 2009