7 – 9 December London Bootcamp Review – Sheriff, Mr. M, Rokker, Sam, Soul

Background:

I have been an rAFC for some time. Some two years ago I made a decision to change this area of my life. So I started reading whatever I could get from the Internet: David DeAngelo, Mystery Method, RSD, Swinggcat. Then I was in a 2-year relationship, when we broke up I started going out regularly and trying to apply what I had learned.

I took care of my shape, started hitting the gym, took up jogging, refined my style, etc. All this got me lots of IOIs from women. But I wouldn’t approach, so that seriously limited my choice of women.

Hence, the next logical step seemed to be taking a MM bootcamp. I thought: FTW, I have to do it, whatever happens.

I had a number of self-limiting beliefs before doing the bootcamp:
- I wasn’t good looking enough (I am short, roughly 5’8)
- English is not my native language (I am Polish), I’d have problems communicating with the chicks
- Girls don’t want to be approached by strange guys in clubs (especially by short, strange, foreign guys)

Day 1:

I arrive at the hotel, enter the conference room. Everyone starts introducing themselves. A very international crowd, 2 German guys, 1 Swiss, 1 American, 1 Dutch guy, 1 Norwegian guy, about 4 Englishmen, and my humble self. Thus my first limiting belief is being dispelled – it won’t matter I don’t speak English perfectly.

Now the instructors - the most striking thing about them was that … they all looked like your regular mates (maybe except for Rokker who is a tall, blond Swede, damn you, Rokker, you good looking bastard )

Sheriff is a great speaker, funny but down to earth, has a playful vibe about him.

Rokker, as the name suggests, has a rock star thing going on.

Mr. M is very knowledgeable and knows how to share his expertise, has great confidence and composure, but funny thing is he looks just like any other Asian dude.

Sam is a tall English guy, during the seminar part he would just sit there and smile from time to time, it was only later that I was to realise what a smooth PUA he is…

Soul is a fellow with great, direct energy and a positive vibe. He specialises in direct game these days.

What is crucial is that all instructors really care about your progress, they’re down to earth, very helpful and they know what they’re doing.

The seminar part on Day 1 was basically a review of what I had known before from my readings, but nonetheless it was good to hear it all over again, I got more structure to my game, and also, what was important is we got live demonstrations how to do/say things; it’s a whole different thing when you see a PUA do stuff live in front of u.

Night 1:

We arrive at the venue, meet up with all the guys, have a drink and then work begins. Initially, I was a bit tense, didn’t know how I’d do. I felt like it was work, I had a goal to reach (do about 12 approaches) and it all showed through my body – I started slouching, a sad look on my face. Instantly one of the instructors tells me to straighten up and smile. He says: “you look a bit shell-shocked, you ok?” lol lol I was!

Rokker tells me to approach a “doorwoman”, a girls who was letting people into the VIP part of the venue. I go in tell her some bullshit, she isn’t impressed, but she was polite. She is paid to. But hey, that was my first cold approach ever.

I was later sent on a mission to re-approach that girl, which I did. Rokker tells me: go talk to her and see if you can get her to re-admit you to the VIP section… Which I do but fail… lol

I approach a 4 set with the “is kissing cheating?” opener. UNFORTUNATELY, someone else had already approached them with that shit, they get enraged and suspicious, 2 of them leave immediately, one does a backturn and stays, and the fourth one stays and confronts me on that. I stay and plow.
G: WTF are you doing?
W: Just being social, trying to talk to girls…
G: You’re the second one to use the same line on us [all accusatory and angry]
W: Yeah, we’re a bunch of guys having fun together, we use the same lines to meet girls [didn’t know how to defuse this one, so I just agreed and tried to redirect the convo]

Long story short, she tries to give me shit, I just roll with it, after some time I got the impression she was getting into me, I supposed I stood my ground, wouldn’t cave in under pressure, stayed un-reactive, she got attracted to me.

I approach a girl standing by the staircase. False time constraint, etc.
W: You’re on your own here? I can’t believe it, such a nice girl…
G: No, I am with friends [eyes wide open, she is interested]
W: Ok, check this out, I’m gonna be your best mate for the next 2 minutes, ok?
W: We’re gonna do what best friends do [I proceed to putting my arm around her, then try to hold her hand]
G: Get out! [backturn]

I suppose I escalated kino too quickly without building attraction and comfort first. But it was funny.

I do around 10 approaches that night. They all go more or less well. The last one was with a seated Australian girl, we had a nice talk, but I couldn’t go past qualification and lock-in, so we talked 10 minutes and then I ejected.
And another limiting belief is gone: chicks love being approached!!!

Day 2:

We go over the last night, talk about what we learned, get feedback. Then we go in detail about attraction and some other stuff. I had done my fair share of reading before, so most of the suff, except for some routines, I knew already. But if you're new to MM you are advised to note down as much as you can of what the instructors say.

Night 2:

I am in my hotel room and thinking. Fuck, if I had a valid excuse not to go to the club I wouldn’t. I can sense I’d be out of my comfort zone to a higher degree than the night before. I feel shitty.

Then I think, damn, I have to do it. I paid so much money for it, I have to survive those 3 hours in the club. I get a cab and head for Piccadilly Circus.
I enter the venue, meet the guys, and the night begins.

Sam takes care of me pretty much the whole night. One student opens a 3 set, Sam and me go in to wing. I fail to maintain a steady flow of material, the chicks drifts away from me, I don’t know how to keep her there. Another lesson learned.

I approach a seated 2 set, 2 English girls. My standard “is kissing cheating?” opener, they are interested, the set hooks, Sam comes in to wing. I do attraction stuff on my target, she is receptive, I do kino. Sam sees I am struggling and shouts over the heads of the 2 chicks “you wanna do A3 or escalate, mate?” The chicks seem puzzled for a sec, I laugh. I try to qualify, but still can’t do it. We take a picture with them and eject. My first more or less good set

I approach 2 Indian/Asian-looking girls standing by the wall. Standard opener, we talk and then I LOCK IN [for the first time]. Basically, I position myself comfortably against the wall with the chicks facing me. It felt good. Unfortunately, the girls spot their friends and leave me to join them. Another sticking point overcome.

Sam spots a seated two set, I approach. 2 Norwegian girls, I sit down, do my stuff, my target is sitting on the other end of the sofa so I talk loud enough so she can hear me as well, basically talking over the chick seated between us. Sam comes into the set, sits down next to the target, “which one is the mean one?” lol I tell him and then Sam and me swap places and I proceed. Attraction stuff, proper qualification [for the first time !!!] Some comfort and kino. I am holding her with my arm and I go in for the kiss, she turns away and laughs. “Buy me a beer first!!” I withdraw, throw some more stuff, then go in for the kiss again, she tells me to buy her a beer again. I don’t want to do it, I get a kiss on the cheek and number close. She probably wanted me to buy her that beer so she wouldn't feel easy, like “she made me work for it” and didn’t just give it up. A solid good set, though. It all went pretty quickly, got a number close, almost kissed, we took a picture together; another limiting belief shattered.

I chat up an American girl while queuing for booze. She is interested, we talk. I re-approach her later, she’s into me, but her jealous boyfriend shows up. Fuck, these girls are horny as hell, they’re just waiting for someone competent to approach and fuck them.

I see 2 girls deep in conversation. I go in:
W: Is this a lesbian DTR conversation? [DTR – define the relationship, e.g. “where is this relationship going” kind of thing]
G: Are you gay?
W: Yeah, you need advice on how to give better blowjobs?

I ruined it, I was effectively rude, but WTF, I learned again lol.

A quarter before 1 am Mr. M grabs me and tells me “I wanna see you work, come with me”. I think holy shit, this is gonna be tough. We go up, Mr. M finds a set with his friend in it, introduces me, I hit on the target, semi-isolate against the wall, start massive kino, go for the kiss. She is receptive and likes me, but as I didn’t isolate she refuses to make out with me. That was my mistake, had I isolated, I’d have got a nice make-out. But at least Mr. M is slightly impressed so I feel fucking great.

We debrief and I make my way for my hotel.

Day 3:

We debrief again in the room, talk about our experiences, some guys got proper make-outs, some didn’t. I feel OK, with my two semi-make-outs, 1 number close, and some solid groping.

We go into qualification, comfort, and seduction in more depth. I leave earlier as I have a train to catch.

Summary:

It was a great experience. It was by no means comfortable. Your sense of reality is stretched, you comfort zone shattered. But it’s worth every penny.
Just seeing the instructors work is so fucking money. Like Sam is sitting with the girls and just smiles and is so relaxed about it, like he isn’t DOING anything, it’s like he’s BEING something. So effortless.

If you want to take a BC, prepare for it. The more you know in advance the better, although not strictly necessary. The guys at MM are great, they will push you into sets, comment on your work. Seeing it done before you is not the same as reading about it, it will shave months off your learning curve.

What I learned:
- proper qualification
- importance of lock in
- importance of moving/venue changing/bouncing
- have fun and bring value!

What I still have to work on:
- have a wealth of material handy so I never run out of things to say
- isolate/venue change
- still work on my identity/style

The only thing I wish had been done differently is the instructors should have done more demos. I was basically being pushed into sets the two nights, which in the end worked out fine. Maybe the first 2 or 3 approaches I did would have been less stressful had I watched some instructor do it first, but then again... who knows...

And now SPECIAL THANKS go to Rokker and Sam who coached me in the club. Thanks guys!!!

Sixpack/Wojtek