Overall “was it worth it”
I want to start off by saying that, about a month after the DC
boot camp (
BC) I still believe that the money I spent was well worth it.
What I’ve taken away from the
boot camp is a road map for how to improve my interactions with women. I now know where I am having problems and why I am messing up.
Basically, I know understand what I am doing – it’s almost like
the Mystery Method (MM) group has figured how women think and how we can communicate with them (can you say priceless)!
Why I signed up for Class
I signed up for the
boot camp because of two reasons. A) I never really understood how to start a conversation with a woman and B) I never really knew what to on the occasions that I would start a conversation with a woman
Timing a Boot Camp “MM is like working out”
Oh quick note here - learning the MM is like “working out.” You’ll immediately see some results but it’s going to take you about 5-6 months to really get good at it. That being said – I live for the summers – so the DC
boot camp’s timing worked out really well for me with respect to the summer of 2008 (with help from my
wing men – I’ll be awesome by then). Hopefully you get my point.
Fellow Students “really - they’re all cool”
The people in the class were for the most party really awesome. Everyone in class was successful with what they did, the age break down was as follows (I think this is accurate) – 3 people in their mid 20s, 5 people in their 30s, 3 people in their 40s, 1 in his 50s. Not that the age factor really meant anything because everyone was awesome.
Seminar (Day 1) “Opening and transitioning is easy”
The first day consisted of learning the basics of the MM.
The Don really drove home why becoming an
Alpha Male is a key factor to your success with the MM. After that we covered Openers and Transitions. This was where most of the people in class said that they were having the most problems (before class).
The Don was able to quickly teach us the main types of openers, from there he taught us a few “canned” openers but more importantly, he taught us how to create our own “openers.” After teaching us openers, he taught us how to properly use Transitions to move into a more normal conversation.
I think the key to this day was that
The Don really made the material flow, before attending the
BC I had a really hard time “seeing” how the whole thing fit together. After the first day – I was able to see how it all fit together and more importantly why it worked.
Field Study (Day1) “This works, and getting called out”
Coming into the field study, I was really nervous about two things, getting “called out” (
approach anxiety) by girls and running into friends in DC (they didn’t know that I was doing this). I was able to kill my
approach anxiety by having 2 openers and transitions that I was really comfortable with (it wasn’t like that lousy VH1 opener “do you floss or brush first”), and by adhering to the 3 second rule.
Using what I head learned in class, I was easily able to open a lot of sets (15 or so), but then about 2/3 of the way through the night – I got called out. So what did I do – did it phase my confidence. Nope, I remembered something that
The Don had said in class. “They aren’t rejecting you, just your opener.” So with that I ignored them, walked away (not the best move, but hey it was first night out) and kept working it. In fact about an hour after working it with them I had my best set (I opened a three set and even got one of the girl’s bar stools and even had her sit on my lap for a bit).
Oh yeah, I think everyone knows that you get instant feedback from the instructors during the infield portion of the
BC. One of the things that I was worried about was that the instructors would make it totally obvious to the women in the bar that they were “coaching” us. That fear was totally uncalled for; the instructors were like Stealth Bombers, they would swoop in, give some advice (i.e. walking by and saying
kino) and walk away before you or the person you were talking to even had a chance to figure out what was going on.
Seminar (Day 2) “five instructors become 16”
Day 2 was great. The day started with an hour long debrief session on how everyone did the night before. Actually, this might have been one of the best parts of the class because we were able to “throw out” ideas concerning what we were having problems with and then we were able to solicit a ton of feedback from both the instructors and fellow students. It was honestly like I went from having 5 instructors that were able to give me feedback to 16 instructors (students and instructors).
Day 2 covered
Attraction,
Comfort, and
Seduction (maybe that was day 3). Basically, all of this material was great. It really helped to help everything fit together.
Field Study (Day 2) “running into friends”
I’ll be honest; getting myself to go out for Day 2’s evening session was really tough for me because Day 1 took a lot out of me. So by the time it was time to go out for the evening portion of Day 2, I really wasn’t feeling it. But either way, I sucked it up and still went out. I opened a few sets at our first place but I still wasn’t feeling it so I decided that I needed to have a venue change. I got up, left went to another bar, drank some Red Bull, talked to my friend (he was the bartender) and came back to where the MM field study was going on as a new man.
Once again, I opened sets and worked on what I had learned. So towards the end of Day 2, my second fear came true, I ran into a work friend. Ironically, at first I tried to avoid her because I was afraid that she would call me out on what I was doing, but then, after awhile I said screw it and started talking to her. Then I introduced her to one of my
wingmen and even used her to try to “Stack forward” with another set of girls. All in all – my fear of running into friends while on a
BC was completely unfounded, she never noticed what I was doing and more importantly she was worked out great for social proofing me because I was able to use her to open another set of girls.
Seminar (Day 3) “what you mean dressing fashionable is important?”
Day 3 was awesome because we talked about how to create a coherent
identity, handle relationships, and how fashion could improve our game. All three topics were great, granted everyone was dead tired by the end of the class. By the way, the instructors talk about fashion was great – they broke down everyone’s style and told them how they could improve it without “peacocking.”
Instructors “They’re all cool”
The DC
boot camp was awesome because we had five total instructors.
The Don was the head honcho, but assisting him were 4 incredibly cool guys, Salem,
Braddock, Levo, and the Puzzler. Here’s my run down on each one.
The Don
He’s an awesome instructor, not only is he able to explain the material well, but he is also able to use his own personal experiences to drive home certain key points. Outside of that, he is a really cool down to earth person that is fun to hang out with.
Salem
This guy has a really fun style, it’s a little more physical (I think his “opener” was to bump girls – you gotta love that). I didn’t talk him that much but from the little I did talk to him, he was totally money. He was really easy to talk and gave great advice
Braddock Braddock’s style is totally high energy. He really comes in with so much energy that is hard not to get energized by just talking to him. That being said, some of the mini-lessons during the main part of class were great, especially with respect to how to deal with random guys that walk into your sets.
Levo
I didn’t really get a chance to work with him that much, but I thought he was a really cool guy overall (I did get a chance to talk to him a bit during the breaks). But other people did tell me that he was a really good instructor and that he was able to help them out a lot.
Puzzler
I think I talked to the Puzzler more than I talked to any of the other instructors. Overall, I thought the Puzzler was great; he seemed to innately know when I need to be pushed into a set. Also his advice about locking in was right on the money.
Overall all of the instructors were great. One thing that I wanted to emphasize about the instructors is that they’re all approachable and they’re definitely available. I mean how good is a
boot camp if you’re not comfortable talking to the instructor.
Areas for improvement “nobody is perfect”
So here are my keys for improvement
What’s next?
The MM needs to come up with a road map for telling students what’s next. Granted their final challenge is great way to start, but they need to say something like 1) Sign up for the Audio CDs 2) Six months from now sign up for private lessons, etc. 3) make sure you post your journal on the Lounge
Story Telling
I think we could’ve spent a bit more time figuring out how to use stories to DHV. It seemed that all of our attraction material was based around a few games, insights, etc.
Instructor Feedback
This is more of my fault, but the first night I was having a lot of success opening sets so I didn’t really hear that much in the way of feedback from instructors. Granted that is my fault, I would’ve liked it if an instructor had came over to tell me whether or not I was “negging” too much, or if my attraction stories were working, etc. Granted once again – this is my fault – I should have found an instructor and asked him to critique my style. Final Thoughts
When in doubt just ask yourself
WWTDD
What would
the Don do
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