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So i just finished my 1 on ...
Fader 1 on 1 - NYC, Oct 2007
So i just finished my 1 on 1 with fader this weekend, holy shit I this totally blew me away and was much more than I expected. To start off Fader is a fucking awsome guy who completely exudes confidence in every thing he does(which is key when showing someone how to approach girls). When we first met up we went over inner game for probably an hour and a half. This turned out to be the most important and worth while part of the whole experience, without the inner game stuff I wouldn't have been able to do half of the things I wound up doing that night and also the night after lol. The biggest thing I got from the inner game theory was to not give a shit about what happens, be process not goal orientated. This was the best because once we hit the field I really didn't care about what happened that night and in return almost got rid of any approach anxiety that was in my head. Also, just by having fader there by my side it really boosted my confidence and my unwaivering sence of not caring about the outcome.
In Field-Once we got to the first bar, we agreeded on an opener and right away Fader sent me to open a 2 set sitting at the bar. I went over and opened, but I didn't hook or lock in so I wound up freezing and leaving the set after about 4 minutes. As I walked back to Fader I really expected him to jump down my throat about ejecting early, but in my suprise he did the complete opposite. Once I got back to him he said I actually did well by staying in the set as long as I did considering I continued with the opening thread for the whole time. I was shocked and also at that same moment I realized that it was on that night and I wouldn't be stopped. It was his positive reinforcement that really motivated me and made me feel like I could do anything that night. The next set I opened was again a 2 set as they walked right over to us. I opened with the same opener and one of the girls was into me right away, the other one wasn't really paying attention to me so I called her out on her rude behavior and it was on from there. Fader came in and took over the obsticle, we moved the two girls to a couch and started going into qualification and comfort. As we were in set with the girls I stepped back mentally for a second and realized that the two girls were completely into both of us lol. Fader had to go outside for a couple of minutes to take care of something so he left me with the two girls to keep them occupied until he came back. This was at first challenging but ultimately super rewarding. As he was gone I wound up paying the obsticle more attention that the target lol and once fader got back we switched up the targets and it was still super on!!!! At a certain point we looked at each other and said "Target switch?? Ok awsome" and laughed about it right there in front of the girls. To make this story a little shorter we both wound up number closing the girls and the girl I number closed actually called me the next morning at 10:30!!! The next bar we went to was a fucking shark tank to say the least, girls were sitting waiting to blow guys out(Fader actually went up to a two set and called them out on it LOL). I opened up a three set and they weren't getting into it at all and i wound up being blown out, the amazing thing about it was that I was standing there and I really didn't care at all. This was the effect of the inner game talked about earlier in the night. The next bar we bounced to I opened a two set, got into comfort real quick and then left after about 30 min because I just really wanted to more sets. Right after we left the bar I said fuck it im going for the number and went up to the girl and told her im leaving, to give me her phone and were hanging out, she gave me her phone and it was over lol.
The main thing that I got from this awsome experience was that I can now go up to any girl and have no fear of what is going to happen. to me that is the greatest thing that could have ever happened because now it doesnt matter what happens with sets and I'm mentally free to do whatever I want in the field. I can't thank Fader enough for what he did, he truly is an amazing person and I am walking away form this with soooo much great stuff in my head and also I feel like im walking away with a new friend. So if your thinking at all about either a bootcamp or a 1 on 1 take it!!!!!!!!! It really will change your life.
OOHH the best part was the next night I went out and I wound up running into fader right after I number closed another girl hahaha, it was fucking sick.
Thanks for the really kind words. I had alot of fun. Usually students dont do that well. 2 sets you went into comfort and closed both. Not bad. I thought we were definitely caught when the girls came back during the debrief and were like "you must think we're stupid" and I was like here it comes. And then she tells us how she left her bag there lol.
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Sounds like you really got a lot out of working with Fader. I know, the guy is absolute money and he works his ass off teaching. He's one of the guys I owe lots to for my success with this stuff as well. The key to getting out as much as you can from MM is leaving your own convictions about game at home and thinking outside the box and being open to critiques(as you did). The reason you are taking these courses is to get better-- ie, it's not working as well as it could be now. I think many students come to bootcamp, especially, with the idea that they are already good at pickup and can pick and choose what to learn. It's called bootcamp, or one-on-one learning, for a reason. In order to learn and progress you have to be able to take a very critical look at yourself- often prompted by an instructor and say this is where I can improve. Don't fight these notions. Good luck with game man.
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