Jeremy Soul Daygame Workshop - London, June 2010

Day 1:
I attended Jeremy Soul ’s Friday and Saturday day game workshop in June this year. Having met many dating coaches from different companies, my first impressions of Jeremy were surprising. He was very welcoming and warm with little ego and none of the “front” that might be associated with those often found in the community.

Once the seminar portion started, the thing that struck me was that he was teaching us how to communicate with women in a natural and genuine way. He gave no routines other than examples of how to open, then it was all about tips on what to talk about (note: TIPS on what to talk about – not word for word routines). Jeremy’s approach seems to be about using “mastery topics” rather than carefully rehearsed stories, games or tactics. A large proportion of the emphasis was about knowing our own passions and experiences so that we can use them to connect with women. He also gave examples of what he says/does and even openly talked about the times that he did things wrong and how he recovered which enabled us to avoid the same mistakes and/or learn how to recover.

As the first seminar went on, it was clear that Jeremy had a lot of experience in day time dating and meeting girls. He did a great job of communicating how day game is different from night game as well as laying out the blueprint for how to approach and how to hook the girl’s attention. It was useful to watch Jeremy have one of the students approach and open him in roleplay and then give commentary on what the participant did well and the adjustments that he suggested in real time. This was observable learning at its best – sat around in a small, close environment, with explanation as to what, and why, delivery was important – not just in words but in body language too. Throughout his seminars, Jeremy used multiple active learning approaches (roleplay, drills, written exercises) and left lots of opportunity for questions highlighting his “leave no man behind” approach. As an experienced teacher and scientist myself, I can tell you – this is the sign of a great teacher.

Though I only worked with Jeremy on one session of the infield portion, he took time to ask what type of girl I like and then encouraged me to only open those that fit this mould. I have met and heard many coaches say “have standards and screen girls for those standards” only to then see them force students to open women they aren’t interested in “just for practice”! I’ve always had a problem opening women that I’m not attracted to (I don’t see the point to be honest) and found Jeremy’s emphasis on only those that would be “my type” made the pace and the relevance of the workshop much more meaningful. If the girl genuinely wasn’t my type and I didn’t want to open, I wasn’t pushed into opening just for the sake of it. I respected Jeremy for this (and to his credit, it seemed that Jeremy was like this with all of the participants). He also cared that no one got left behind infield either and regularly stopped to make sure no one had gotten lost or had disappeared alone.

Day 2
The second day started with a debrief from the previous day’s infield with people highlighting their problems and a bit of group discussion to see what could be done to improve. During the seminar, Jeremy talked about the U-shaped model of learning and how it maps onto the confidence dip (or Krueger-Dunning effect to anyone interested in psychology :-) ), he also covered text and facebook messaging, more on logistical progression and tips for when out on a date (including an awesome accelerated roleplay which demonstrated his physical escalation throughout a night condensed into 2 minutes...!). He also covered more on mastery topics and exercises to help improve conversational fluency. If we remember that meeting women/dating is a “doing” rather than “knowledge” skill, Jeremy’s use of exercises again highlighted his experience and knowledge of good teaching practice as well as dating.

This was followed by another afternoon of infield (including my first two-set with a wing !).

My Opinion
I have to admit, I was impressed by Jeremy’s knowledge of the subject and I certainly respect the way that he teaches it. His manner throughout, whether in seminar or infield, was patient and jovial, and it was certainly clear that he wasn’t in this for any sort of power trip or to prove to himself/others he could get women. My opinion was that he genuinely seemed to do it because he loves women (is that fair, Jeremy? :-) ) and loves connecting with them. For this alone, I respect him and enjoyed spending the 2 days with him.

Jeremy has a book coming out soon and if it’s like his seminars, I would suggest everyone take a look at it when it’s released. I’d also suggest googling him now to find as many of his articles you can. As well as knowing his subject and caring about the student’s on the workshop , he was a true gentleman (not only to the women, but to the participants of the weekend) as well as a competent teacher. If you are interested in daytime dating and/or wanting to be natural and be your genuine self, I would recommend Jeremy. I attended a group workshop , and I would find it difficult to believe that he could not improve your game no matter where you are in your experience. If you can catch him, you are in for a real treat!

Sonic