I came to this
bootcamp with a fairly decent amount of knowledge regarding being direct during the daytime. Problem was, I could never see myself actually putting into practice. At least when the moment came to actually make the approach. I mean, it all sounded great and logical when I was at home on my computer, but once I actually saw an attractive woman at the mall or the grocery store, I hardly ever did it. I had made a grand total of 2 daytime approaches before, and I was so nervous it came out really badly
The material presented in the
workshop portion of the
seminar was excellent.
Jeremy Soul demonstrated exactly how he stops a woman and what he says to her. It was so powerful, I was actually kind of mesmerized. His theories on mastery topics were outstanding too, although I probably didn't pay as close of attention as I should have, because of nervousness about the upcoming in-field portion of the
seminar. A lot of times, I will go to the grocery store or the mall, and beforehand say to myself "if I see a hot woman, I will approach her" but on this day, there was absolutely no doubt I was going to be
approaching women in the day, and quite a few of them
For the in-field portion, we hit up the Third Street Promenade in Santa Monica. Finally,
Soul saw a girl for me to approach and told me to go do it. It was so quick that I really didn't have time to be nervous.
I can't remember how many women I approached that day. It must have been at least 20. The results spanned from getting numbers to having women basically just keep walking and not even stop. But I just laughed those instances off... in fact... I never felt much of a sense of rejection all day.
Where I struggled was, a) not smiling enough on approaches. While a lot of the nervousness was gone, it still didn't feel real natural, and also I often was obsessing about what I was going to say next. Also, I didn't really have my s--t together when it came to Mastery topics, and the instructors rightfully called me out on it. At one point,
Bonsai finally sat me down and did a simulated conversation where I had to successfully speak out my Mastery topics. This helped a lot, as my interactions got much better after that. I guess I figured I could just rely on being pretty good looking and the fact that few guys approach during the day, but now I know I really have to sell myself
Unfortunately, I have not made a lot of progress in the two months since. Right after the
workshop, I had a shift in my mind, and instantly had a desire to go talk to attractive women I saw. But shortly after that, I had a major catastrophe in which I pretty much lost my business (I was self employed) and have had to go back to a regular job, all while trying to rebuild my business. That has eaten up a lot of my free time, and, more importantly, my mental energy
The other thing I still fight is my inability to give up the outcome. I think this was easy to do at the
seminar because I was in a different city and really had nothing to lose. But when you return home, your mind shifts. You see an attractive girl, and you start to think of how much she could add to your life... and that is when the rejection sets in
Bottom line... this was a great
seminar. I learned so much, and most importantly, learned it IS possible to have great interactions during the day
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