“Hey what’s up” was the first text message that I sent to Marta just before Christmas. “Nothing” was the response. “That’s cool” was my witty comeback. I had met her the other week at the high school where I was teaching constitutional law. She was a math teacher, 22, a stunning Portuguese girl. Over several days I was able to charm her to the point where she was pining to give me her cell phone number. We made plans to get together at some later point, and I walked out, feeling like the proverbial shit.
Except that over the course of 2 weeks (I met her right before Christmas break), she no longer had the same intense interest to get together. At the time, I had no idea what had happened: my charming attitude had (I thought) conveyed well over text messaging, and I was keeping her ‘warm’ through long, AIM-like text strings. All I knew was that when I got back, she went cold. I have come to realize that the vitamin P repellant was shitty, terrible
text game.
A bit about where I stood before picking up
Braddock &
Mr. M’s advanced copy of Phone &
Text Game: I had spent months getting really good at in-person game through Project Rockstar. My approach was quite good, and my ability to convert off of dates was even better. In other words, I wasn’t good enough yet at
SNL, but I was getting phone numbers easily. But it always felt like it was an enormous struggle to keep the girls interesting between Point A and Point B, the date.
The overarching theme of this book is encapsulated early on as ‘boiling the frog’: what this means is that for most girls, there has to be a gradational increase in her attraction to you, especially if she’s beautiful. Having good
text game requires you to ‘ping’ her (dropping her non-committal text message to remind her of your existence) in order to gauge her ‘Fuse Length,’ discussed later. This was initially counterintuitive for me: I had initially brushed this tactic off long ago as needy and validation-seeking. But what
Braddock &
Mr. M present here is that the most important use for the cell phone is to get her to see you in as quick a time as possible. Captain obvious, I know, but still something that I had ignorantly been doing incorrectly for years.
Mr. M &
Braddock spend a considerable amount of time discussing “fuse lengths” and how best to tackle them. Fuse lengths, in short, are a woman’s readiness to see you after you first get her phone number. In an encounter where you spend several hours with a girl, developing deep comfort and cultivating attractiveness in her eyes, you will (hopefully) have a short fuse: she responds quickly and reflectively to your texts, and insinuates that she wants to get together. If on the other hand, you get a woman’s phone number in 10 minutes, barely developing enough attraction to keep her attention … you’ve got your work cut out for you. Here, you have a long-fuse: you have to gradually make her more receptive to you through a (sometimes) lengthy time of unanswered texts, phonecalls that don’t get returned, and uninvested replies. Most phone numbers will fall between the two polars, in medium-length. She’s receptive, but you get the feeling that if you stopped texting her she wouldn’t blink an eye.
It is in this concept, that of fuses, that Phone &
Text Game truly reveals its worth. In the past, I would often allow my ego to get the better of me in these situations: who is she to not respond to me? and the old standby, “fuck her”. The message that
Braddock &
Mr. M preach though, is that Phone &
Text game is sometimes a marathon, and sometimes a sprint. If you really want that stunning blond who has 74 different guys vying for her attention, you’d better be prepared to put in the work. This lesson is illustrated in the (sometimes very) lengthy text chains in the eBook, where one of the instructors will have to work for weeks or months to get himself into a position where the girl finally wises up and gets together with him. At first I thought these text/response examples would be tedious; surprisingly, the opposite became true. A particular example:
Braddock meets this girl at a club. It turns out, unbeknownst to him, that the girl has a boyfriend at the time. For weeks
Braddock tries unsuccessfully to ping this girl, through phone calls and text messaging. A lesser man, present company included, would have long given up by the time she finally responds to him. And then, Boom! She goes from long-fuse to medium-fuse, and then quickly from medium to short. The effort might not seem worth the sacrifice to some, but in the end, it was
Braddock that got his for the night, not the other umpteen schmucks who gave up long ago.
Mr. M and
Braddock also do a good job of marrying the Phone &
Text Game concepts to the overall structure outlined in
Magic Bullets. Female psychology is discussed, as is the concept of Tempo (who is controlling the emotional pace of the conversation?), baiting, and role-playing. While I think this book is far more helpful within the context of the other
Love Systems material, this book can probably be helpful to an absolute novice without benefit of the other works.
Ultimately, I believe that
Braddock &
Mr. M’s Phone &
Text Game is a necessary addition to a
PUA’s library. While it’s possible that getting good with women, cleaning up your
inner game and cultivating
social circle mastery will clean up your
text game on their own, more often than not, bad habits die hard. I’ll be the first to admit that, despite learning from the greatest instructors on the planet for many hours a day for two months, my
text game was shit. It falls into the category of ‘unconscious incompetence’: if you’ve ever had a girl flake between getting the phone number and getting the date, you’ve likely erred somewhere in the
Phone/Text aspect and not realized your error.
Fast forward nine months. Marta now has a boyfriend. The usual possessively insecure schmuck. Unlike before, I have a much better command of this area. Using lines that I yanked straight out of the eBook (and there are many), I upgraded Marta from a long-fuse to a medium-fuse. I also told her of how the other Rockstars and I are moving to Vegas this spring. I’m funny, I’m irrelevant. Most importantly, I’m not emotionally weak about the outcome. Before my eyes, I see the transformation, her increased interest. And finally, five days ago, I get the text I’d been waiting for:
Josh: “Traffic in Vegas sucks, I’m getting a helicopter.”
Marta: “I completely endorse this idea. That way when I come visit you this summer u can chauffeur me around in it.”
Josh: “Only one penis per helicopter ride. I have a weight distribution limit I have to worry about. Otherwise, you’re riding hanging upside down on the landing gear”
Marta: “Oh I don’t think that’ll be a problem by then
”
Boom!
Bottom Line: Get this book. It closes perhaps the final hole in your arsenal.
| This is the definitive work on pickup and dating theory, written by an acknowledged master of the game - a guy who’s TRAINED many of the new “gurus” on the scene! |
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