Fair warning: This is a really long review of the 2010 Love Systems Superconference. I wrote this specifically for guys who aren’t sure about attending a superconference in the future. I did a quick(ish) paragraph on the various sessions I attended, to give you a taste of what to expect. Also, a brief description on how this conference improved my game in the field considerably. Enjoy…
Love Systems Superconference 2010
I went to the superconference utterly against my better financial judgment. Not only was there the basic cost of the conference, but there was also airfare, lodging, a rental car (that I drove for a total of 32 miles), and the staggering cost of food on the Vegas Strip. Much to my shock, I learned there are no $5-foot-longs at Subway locations in a casino – more like $8.50. Had I been an adult, and followed my common sense, I’d have been at work that weekend.
Thank God my id won out.
The weekend was a truly inspirational experience. The instructors are all really cool, really helpful guys, and I learned a lot. If I had to do it all over again, I definitely still would have gone. (Scroll down to my epilogue to find out why).
Day One – Conference
(Intro, Savoy) Savoy began the conference by speaking of the Seven Seductive (actually “Stupid”) Ideas that can screw up a guy’s dating life. It was a good sorbet to cleanse the palette of bad dating preconceptions that even experienced LS practitioners can fall victim to, and start the weekend right.
(LS Triad Model, Future) This was a review for anyone who’s already taken a boot camp (or viewed the model on the LS website), but a really entertaining review. I’ve done a couple different programs with Future, including my initial boot camp that introduced me to pick-up, and he’s one funny bastard. Not that I’m biased, or anything.
(Fundamentals of Attraction, The Don) Again, this was mainly a review of basic concepts that might have been overlooked or forgotten by those who’ve already done a boot camp, and was also really entertaining.
After the Attraction session, conference attendees had their choice of sessions in a lecture-style format on the “Main Stage,” or a “Breakout Room,” that focused on practical application exercises in small groups, led by various instructors.
(Approaching & Transitioning) As the first session in the Breakout Room, this was invaluable in fixing my technical approach aspects. I worked with two very cool prospective instructors who clearly knew what they were doing. Unfortunately, I can’t give them a shout-out for their help. I never learned their LS pseudonyms, and I don’t want to “out” them by using their real names. (Sorry guys).
(Frames and Frame Control, Future) This talk was very helpful, not only in understanding how to guide a conversation’s underlying subtext (which is a big deal), but what kind of “place” is most healthy for you when you’re talking to a woman. We all have assumptions going into any interaction. Frame control is also about YOUR assumptions and attitudes about YOU when dealing with women. This talk had some underlying themes relating to inner game, which became a recurrent theme for me that weekend.
(Q&A, Savoy) Pretty self-explanatory, we asked whatever burning questions were on our minds, from the general to the specific. This time was quite helpful in preparing for the first night in Vegas.
Night One – Infield
I have serious issues with Approach Anxiety. I mean SERIOUS issues. You know that guy at the club who stands in the corner the whole time, slowly nursing one beer after another? He doesn’t talk to anyone, except his friends, and even if his buddies bring some girls over, he has difficulty stringing words together. You know, THAT guy? Okay, THAT guy would look at me and say, “Holy shit, that dude has issues.”
Now, my success with women increased greatly after my bootcamp, but it’s always been with girls in my social circle, or work circle. Cold approach in the bars and clubs, I just didn’t do. AA was a big problem on my bootcamp, and the first night in Vegas, continued to be a problem. AA took hold of me, and didn’t let go. It sucked.
Day Two – Conference
(Day Game, Soul) Soul is the clear master of Day Game, ask anyone. If you like being able to actually hear what a person says in conversation, Day Game is probably for you. Soul’s talk also served as a really good intro to Direct Game, as well as tips on where to take a conversation once you’ve opened a girl in a Day Game interaction.
(Body Language, Cajun) I was lucky enough to get into the small group led by Cajun, largely recognized as one of the best in this area. We went over approach basics, while Cajun corrected technical aspects of our body language, as well as voice projection, it was very enlightening for the whole group.
(Fashion Consult) This was mainly a panel Q&A, with various instructors answering questions and offering tips on clothes, shoes, and fragrances. I have to give a special shout-out to Prestige who stayed late after the session to answer more specific questions I had about fashion and my AA issues.
(Spontaneous Conversation, Future & Big Business) After Future gave a general overview, we broke up into small groups and practiced an improv exercise wherein we BSed about a random word for one minute. The point was, to use free association and simply KEEP TALKING for 60 seconds – which can be harder than it sounds. The application was obvious, as was the lesson: in attraction, you’re usually doing most of the talking, so get used to it. My small group was led by Big Business, who had awesome advice for improvement for everyone.
(Storytelling, Tenmagnet) With the assistance of other instructors, Tenmagnet had students tell stories which were critiqued and given advice for improvement. Two pieces of advice really helped me in this workshop: 1) Concentrate on EMOTIONAL details, and 2) Edit. Generally, the shorter the story, with more emotional spikes, the better. (Clearly, I have not incorporated that advice very well in this review).
(Identity, Cajun) The timing for this lecture couldn’t have been better if I’d scheduled it that way. The major points I got from this lecture were: 1) “What kind of man do you want to be?” and 2) the importance of controlling fear. This really hit home with me and these words came back to me later that night.
Night Two – Infield
My AA got the better of me again – until about 2:30. I largely credit the timing of Cajun’s Identity lecture for this, because something clicked, and I finally got in the game. I ended up making a deal with myself to open five sets, and I opened six. None of them I’d describe as “bad,” and two went very well. I pulled no SNLs, but this was a Big Deal for me.
Like Rudy, I hadn’t gotten onto the field until the last few minutes of the last quarter, but in my case, just getting on the field was the victory – so as far as I’m concerned, I’m still goin’ to Disneyland. I know there are guys who won’t be impressed with this report, and at best, may consider it “cute.” Still, one man’s molehill is another man’s mountain, and sometimes it’s the smallest victories that define the biggest breakthroughs.
Day Three – Conference
(Building a Lifestyle, Mr. M). Largely, this was a description of the different “phases” a guy tends to go through when he discovers pick-up, as well as a heads-up on different pitfalls to be avoided on the way. It was good information, although by Mr. M’s own admission, it was a lecture for guys who were kind of advanced in pick-up. For the rest of us, it was good stuff to look forward to.
(Older Men and Younger Women, Bullet) Yeah, it sucks when you realize that you’re no longer in the age demographic that MTV gives a shit about, but that doesn’t mean you’re “done.” Bullet shared really effective tips on how “men of a certain age,” can use their age as an advantage by using angles and experiences that younger guys don’t yet have, simply because they haven’t been on the planet long enough. (And if that doesn’t work, hitting the “whipper-snappers” with your cane is always an option).
(Never Running out of Things to Say, Starlight) This was a longer, more in-depth version of the workshop on Spontaneous Conversation. The talk included some simple charts that could help a guy as conversation topics come up. Granted, one HAS to learn a certain degree of improv in pick-up, but still, this was especially useful for guys who prefer to go in with a more structured game plan.
(Inner Game, Vercetti) This was the breakaway lecture of the conference. The big idea of this class (I’m heavily paraphrasing and abbreviating here), is that pick-up actually ISN’T about women – it’s about you. (Yeah, weird, I know).
Vercetti’s talk included effective visualizations of paths taken and paths not taken, as well as a road map to get over limiting beliefs and counter-productive behaviors. My snippet-length review honestly doesn’t do it justice. This discussion is what probably got Vercetti voted Instructor of the Year, and in my opinion, should’ve been the first lecture of the entire conference. I’ve found it to be a great retrospective diagnostic to improve areas in my life that have nothing to do with women. Seriously, awesome lecture.
(Humor & Sexual Framing, Big Business) This lecture was a lot of fun, as well as very helpful. Big Business started with an example of a sexual framing routine that gave platonic hugs a sexual subtext. The talk also emphasized role plays, role reversal, and just plain old havin’ fun. (That’s what this stuff supposed to be, after all).
I knew it would take a few days to process all the information from the weekend, but after my personal breakthrough with my AA, I didn’t want to lose momentum. So, still bearing in mind the concepts from the conference, particularly stuff from Cajun, Future, and Vercetti, I made a conscious effort to be more outgoing with people in general. (Easier said than done for an introvert).
This was normally unlike me, but on the shuttle to the airport, I initiated a conversation with a random guy. As we parted company, out of nowhere, he gave me his card, and told me to send him my resume. I’ve been looking for a better job for a while now, so this was like seeing a rain cloud over the desert.
Granted, it’s too early to tell if this will turn into a solid job offer. But, if it hadn’t been for this conference, 1) I wouldn’t have been physically in the right place at the right time for this random meeting, and 2) I wouldn’t have been able to make this potential opportunity happen. That’s the funny thing - potential opportunities are all around us, all the time, but it’s up to us to find them. (Taking women out of the picture for moment, I think there’s a life lesson in there somewhere).
If things go well, in a few months from now, this conference just might have paid for itself, several times over. Life’s weird sometimes, ain’t it?