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A gamer friend introduced me to this interesting world. At first I was completely skeptical since the idea of using someone defined strategy to score attention didn't appeal to me at all. But as I read a bit more here and there I found it intriguing how I adapted through trial and error to some of the basic tenents of pua-dom. The game was an interesting read it shed light on a bunch of really important concepts that all guys should learn asap.
I grew up in Italy and I was completely introverted. I spent most of my time playing starcraft, counter strike and was completely absorbed in the world of computers so much so that my behavior socially wasn't at all praised and often ridiculed, even though I was a starter of the soccer and volleyball team.
My brother on the other hand is a natural, he broke up with gf 3 weeks ago and complained he couldn't get girls when in fact, my best friend is his roommate in shanghai, he had made out with 2 girls and brought another girl home during the same weekend. He is a social freak and knows everyone.
I transformed myself through shear will from a little white nerdy boy that was deadly afraid to meet girls to a white nerdy boy that internalized that paralyzing fear of girls by observing my brother and his social groups. Dressing well, keeping abreast with global events, learning & mimicking from other naturals, watching out for body language , picking up interesting hobbies, adapting my life experiences (into what could be defined) as sets and really kicking myself in the ass to get out there become part of my daily repertoire. Also one of the most fundamental difference that has had a huge impact on my persona has been reading lots of books of any genre.
Now at 25 I am considered amongst my friend as being good with girls, but to be honest my closest friends are those good boys that are seriously affected by oneitis. Granted they are extremely happy (some even considering to marry) they were never about getting notches on their belt. We'd go out to clubs Thursday and Saturday night (those were the good nights during college) but only to hang out with the high end social groups we would affiliate ourselves with (tables, bottle service, non commercial house clubs). One of my oddest quirks though is that I don't drink. I was so caught up with videogames and computers that I completely skipped that part of my life and thus far have never been drunk or had a drink. Oddly enough it's luring to girls although I thought it of it for a long time to be hugely problematic.
Either way in effort to paint a picture of myself. I am experiencing verbal diarrhea atm.
Thus far my plan to meet people has been simple.
Meet interesting like minded individual, bond and learn from them.
Meet girls through friends. I practically never met people unless it's through an introduction, it makes any approach oh so smooth.
I talk about myself in easy to relate to scenarios through my work and personal experiences so conversations can lure someone.
Differentiate myself from the other guys by being truly unique and understanding her.
Pay attention but act indifferent through body language .
Isolating the target from the group and taking some 1-on-1 time.
It's fairly obvious my plan of attack is not clearly thought through but merely a grocery list of things I noticed that I do in order to catch a fish.
Predominantly the introductions are done at trendy day locations (over lunch or gallery openings etc) and rarely at clubs since I prefer to have fun with friends and take my time with the girl in a different less loud area.
What I am interested in finding in this pua world are more refined techniques of dealing with breaking through even more social groups, mLTR management skills, refining my cold read abilities, learn how to better build warmth & emotions (I reading something in faders posts about this light body something techniques) and to further better myself to naturally attract girls.
If you have any advice on what to really sink my teeth in let me know! So far I am enjoy reading the classic writings and those best of the best posts, but I am completely clueless since I was told about this forum and world like 2-3 days ago.
Cheers!
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