Yea... I'm a chick and why I'm here

Yea... I'm a chick and why I'm here

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    Yea... I'm a chick and why I'm here

    I've been lurking these forums for a couple of days - particularly reading the comments that men have had about female PUA's and wanted to introduce myself and why I'm here. And hopefully, get some good advice

    Two fold reasons for me being here. One - It seems like every thread that I have read on here scoffs at the idea that a girl should learn the art of pick up or male psychology b/c if she is hot enough, then she is fine. False. Take it from me. I am hot and for whatever reason, apparently I give off a lot of sexual energy. I get constantly pursued by men. Most of whom are players, so they're very nice until they get what they want. So what I've finally realized, that despite what every guy out there will say - being hot and in shape and even smart and funny is not necessarily enough to create an attraction with a guy that's beyond a physical level. In fact, its even harder b/c its so difficult for the guy to focus on anything else.

    Obviously I relied on the looks/body/sex thing and I've realized that the only thing this has done is landed me in FwB situation with players and PUA's that end up settling down with less attractive girls that had better attraction skills.

    Second, I love social and behavioral psychology and how and why people behave. Its always been a huge interest of mine.

    So I guess I'm here to try to figure out how men think for intellectual and personal reasons

    I would like to mentored to taylor my skills to attract the quality men that I am interested in - and more important, to maintain that attraction and be able to take it to the next level.

    Thanks for reading.



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    Welcome to the forum.

    we need more girls like you that make it a pretty good case, that

    girls indeed DO NOT have it any easier in dating world than guys.

    Thanks for helping my cause Do Girls REALLY Have It Easy?

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    Yea, totally.

    As my mom always said.. EVERYONE has problems. Someone else's problems might be different from yours, but that doesn't mean they don't exist.

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    There are about 5 other girls that actively post on here,

    Sampanye, TheRogue, Truelies, Bravo1 (?), and Fida.

    All sweet hearts. Join the team.

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    Welcome. Your situation is pretty cut and dry, IMO.
    being hot and in shape and even smart and funny is not necessarily enough to create an attraction with a guy that's beyond a physical level. In fact, its even harder b/c its so difficult for the guy to focus on anything else.
    Or, they don't find you very likable (no offense, and I may be wrong) or think you're too high maintenance to date long term, but still want to have sex with you. Do you have cool female friends who are attractive? Your female friends can be a pretty good indicator of your personality.
    Quote Originally Posted by jilian View Post
    Second, I love social and behavioral psychology and how and why people behave. Its always been a huge interest of mine.
    This will make many people uncomfortable. People do not like to feel as though they are being analyzed by their friends or significant others. I would guess this is a major sticking point for most of the girls who end up posting here. I would consider looking at the hobbies and interests of girls who are having the success you want and looking for things they do that you also enjoy and focus on those.
    So I guess I'm here to try to figure out how men think for intellectual and personal reasons
    Should not be difficult. Men are exceedingly uncomplicated compared to women.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Vapor View Post
    Welcome. Your situation is pretty cut and dry, IMO.

    Or, they don't find you very likable (no offense, and I may be wrong) or think you're too high maintenance to date long term, but still want to have sex with you. Do you have cool female friends who are attractive? Your female friends can be a pretty good indicator of your personality.
    All my longer term relationships where with guys who were my friends first so naturally I'd be super chill and relaxed around them and they knew me pretty well before the relationship developed. So you could be right, it is completely possible that I might be, or seem like I am too high maintenance or am too much baggage to date long term to someone that doesn't know me too well. And obviously, my girlfriend's aren't going to tell me I'm too high maintenance b/c they are probably as well and guys aren't going to explain why they lost their attraction.

    Good point, I'm going to think about this.


    Should not be difficult. Men are exceedingly uncomplicated compared to women.
    Haha, perhaps so, but I think that both are equal as complicated to each other until you are able to communicate from the other sex's point of view.

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    Actually I have rarely seen any of the guys who have been in the community for a while scoff, Rogue actually gives great advice but I just wanted to welcome you. I have seen more women come into the newbie section but they never last hopefully we will see more though.
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    Pics or gtfo......



    On a serious note, welcome to the forums... most of us have great advice to share and theres a few girls on here that im sure can give you some great advice aswell.

    I'd love to give you some advice now, but your post is a lil too broad. Try reading up on the sections on "Inner game"... might help you understand the man-mind a lil more.

    Also this board is full of thousands of dudes, so if you got a question post em up.. im sure one of us can help you out ^^

    Enjoy your stay

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    Quote Originally Posted by Cunjar View Post
    Pics or gtfo......
    Haha, try a cross between Adriana Lima and Olga Kurylenko. Without the boobs, sadly .


    Thanks a lot everyone.. I've spent way too much browsing there forums just absorbing everything. Very interesting. In hindsight, one of the most unattractive dudes that I have ever met - I mean, he is soooo not traditionally attractive that when I first met him and he asked for my number, I gave it to him only b/c I wanted a favor from him and quietly laughed to myself - played me like no other. I'm still not sure if he's ever read any of this stuff and internalized it really well to a point where it comes off as that natural, or he's just that naturally gifted (probably the latter) but the combination of DHV, his IOI, negs and sheer persistence I find now to be awe-inspiring. So to all the dudes - you can get VERY far with psychology alone.

    I also find it interesting that there are so few females lurking around here. I mean, what could be more important to one's success in life than understanding the opposite sex???

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