No delusions. I am here to learn.

No delusions. I am here to learn.

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    No delusions. I am here to learn.

    I've hit rock bottom. I'm 26 years old, perpetually single and I have a string of 1 night stands under my belt. I have only had one meaningful relationship in all my years and I fubar'd that one spectacularly.

    I have read the game, I own magic bullets and all in all I think I have a good idea of what I need to do.

    I need to stop lying to myself and I need to start doing things to change my luck and really live upto my potential.

    So I hope I can learn alot from you guys and in turn I hope that one day I can be a contributing member to someone who is in my current position.



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    If you can do ONS then your already have something to work with. Your problem is probably comfort. Try this empathy routine I learned from london Soul.

    Ask an open ended question, really pry to get her to open up. If says talks about something positive just accept it by saying, "cool" then share a similar story about yourself and finish with another open ended question about a related but different topic. If negative just say, "that sucks" and share a similar experience. After about two hours of this you should have ton of rapport and your ONS will probably want to see you again. It is really important to not break rapport during this time by disapproving of her answers or trying to fix her problems. Good luck

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    Actually my sticking point is fairly straight forward.

    I can't generate attraction.

    It's disgustingly easy for me to gain trust and comfort. I just get the LJBF'ed all the time and in essence become a "dick in a jar."

    I also have problems opening sets and maintaining interest. I definitely need to work on DHV and a lot of other things.

    The worst part is that if I crash and burn in some area my confidence takes a hit and I start spiraling into the usual "girls cannot be trusted/they are all bitches/ boo hoo why can't I get a girlfriend." bullshit.

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