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I’m a bit pissed off that I’ve fallen so far behind ...
No sex for Strike.
I’m a bit pissed off that I’ve fallen so far behind with my posts, especially since I was just getting to the good stuff.
It’s really coming on and sometimes in the middle of a night out I notice myself doing stuff I could never have done two months ago. I was out with the two ‘naturals’ again recently. We had a great night. I’m so glad that I’ve stopped drinking; I think it’s made all the difference. I learned a lot from them and I know that they learned a thing or two from me too. I showed them some magic and introduced them to the cube. The guys have a charismatic aura that surrounds them and it’s infectious. One of the guys (I’ll call him Varsity) is so cocky and funny it’s outrageous. He often refers to himself as ‘the handsome man’, e.g. ‘a handsome man says hello’. He gives girls a really hard time. A girl said she was going for lunch and left the group we were in one time. Before she left he asked what she was going to have, she said she was going to get a roll. He waited ‘till she was twenty yards away and shouted ‘brown bread, no butter no mayo!’ after her. She turned and scowled at him ‘don’t you look at me like that’ he yelled in a sarcastic voice.
The other guy (Lade) is really cool too. He’s got a technique quite similar to the Mystery Method that he developed by trial and error.
I went to a graduation ball in the last few days. I wasn’t graduating but I figured that it would be a good place to hook up with some girls when they were well scrubbed up. I was right. I sat down with my buddy at a table where he knew some people. I entered with lots of energy but I didn’t really pick a target. I told my stories and jokes, did a bit of magic and gave off the alpha vibes pretty well. I had a few fuck ups but nothing major, just minor stuff. By the end of dinner they were all pretty comfortable with me. We hit the dance floor; a few of the girls were flirting with me. I just flirted jokingly with all of them too. When you start out being cocky and funny you can get away with a lot, but it’s difficult if you’ve started out serious to suddenly change, your new behaviour isn’t accepted. We went to a wine bar afterwards; I made sure to travel in a taxi with the girls.
When we were in the bar one of the girls sat down next to me and started chatting. In the past I wouldn’t have thought anything of this, but now I recognise the IOI’s. it wasn’t hard work. I waited far too long before throwing the old lips on her but I got away with it and it made her invest more in things.
We went to a house party afterwards that was being help by one of the guys from out table at dinner. I had hoped for something like this when I was forking out the €60 for my ticket. I pulled a nice move at this stage by getting the girl to call in to my house on the way to pick up some beer. Even though I don’t drink I keep a few cold ones in the house for just such an emergency. I honestly think we could have stayed and that I could have given her a rattle at that stage but I didn’t even try it. I’ll know for again.
We went to the hours party, blah, blah, blah. It was the usual drunken shit. I kissed her a bit and she showed me off to her friends. Afterwards we went back to my house again, I’d laid the ground work for this earlier. The trouble was that it was about 7:00 am at his stage. We slept in the same bed but I paid the price for not taking my opportunities earlier in the night. No sex for Strike that time.
We went shopping for shoes the next day. I gave it more of the same shit. It’s not an act now. I am a bit of a cocky bastard. I’ve no time for birds that don’t try to look their best.
I said I’d see her again at the weekend. I want to do some more sarging during this week and I don’t want to spend too much time with her.
In other news… I shaved my hair back. It’s really short. I did this on the advice of Lade who said it was ‘a good look’ for me. He said it would make me look more athletic. It does make my features look more defined.
People have started noticing my tan and I’ve finally started to whiten my teeth. All this has put a serious strain on my wallet but I’ve saved a small fortune on drink.
Sounds good. Just a post to say I think this thread is useful really.
Strike jumps through a few hoops.
I had a bit of a fuck up today. I hope to make up for it later tonight. I was in the gym with a buddy and we were talking to two girls that work there. I wasn’t particularly attracted to either of them but I’m still not happy about my beta behaviour. We were chatting away and one of them suddenly asked me if I shaved my legs. I said I did, jumping straight through the hoop. She asked why and I said it was because I was bitten by a wolf as a child and that I was a particularly hairy disposition. I got a few laughs but I knew I had jumped through her hoops. I recovered enough to drop a few subtle negs and crack a few jokes, but I knew I had fucked up. My confidence was rattled.
Strike has a noew ploy!
I went out last night. It’s still a battle to control posture and to have enough energy. I think part of the issue is that a lot of people are pretty much trousered by the time they hit a club. It’s hard to connect with people that are drunk, but it can be done. I find that when I get past that problem the rest falls into place. Because I’m not drunk I can think fast, plan ahead and work on any problems that I’m having. I drank a few cola’s (you’ll notice I’m making a big effort here for the Americans) last night. The caffeine helps if I’m tired, but I find I have to chew some gum or use a breath mint afterwards or I’ll get bad breath.
I tried getting to the club a bit earlier last night. I left my house as soon as the Soprano’s was finished. It was easier to get talking to people at the beginning because there were less people and it was quieter. I think people are more open to an approach if the club isn’t as busy. The bad side of this strategy was that the hot chicks don’t arrive ‘till late. The party really starts at about 12.30 in a club during the week. Overall I think I’ll stick with this ploy. It’s easier to warm up and build up some connections for later in the night.
I’ve really noticed how much more fun I’m having with my friends now that I’m a bit more confident. I guess part of it is that I’m more fun to be around. I always plan my stories before I tell them now to make sure that they’re more interesting, and I’m much more animated and energised. It’s helped me make new friends like Varsity and Lade.
I’ve noticed that I only talk to girls when I’m out at night. I think I’ll make friends with some girls go out with them on a few nights. It should be good for social proof. I’ll keep it real cocky funny, that should give me plenty of flexibility to get a bit handsy.
Dance lessons tonight, should be good fun!
to be a good dancer is a goood thing
Gilrs love when you dance good!
When you know how to lead.
Practice your dancing skills and you will have sucsess =)
I know salsa and swing girls love it
And it helps your alfa body language.
Live the Dream.
I went out for the day with the girl I met at the graduation ball. I met her in the City Centre. We went to the natural history museum and the national gallery. (Both of these are free. NICE ONE)
If you bring a girl ‘out for a drink’ you’re really fighting an uphill battle. She knows that it’s all about you trying to win her over and she’s in her element in the club, with all the AFC’s queuing up to ‘buy her a drink’. The natural history museum was a pretty cool place to go. I said that I hadn’t been there in years and that I wanted to go again. I said she could come along too. (Thanks to the MM, where I’ve learned 90% of what I know about women.) It’s a great place to go because there’s lots of cool stuff to look at, there’s a 60ft. shark, lions, bears and wolves. There’s stuff to gross her out like rats and snakes and loads of cute things for her to ‘awwwhhh’ and ‘oohhh’ over like rabbits and other such sappy crap. Basically, there’s a load of conversation starting material and plenty of stuff to fuck off and look at yourself if you need a break, get a stiffie or can’t think of anything to say.
I kept up the kino here, giving a little then taking it away as I went to check out the bears or lions. I took the opportunity to have a good stare at her arse as she went up the stairs. A man’s got to keep himself interested.
Next it was on to the National Art Gallery, it might have been a good idea to do a bit of research about the exhibitions so that I could have appeared more knowledgeable, but I think I winged it pretty well. I did some magic when things started to get a little boring. We had lunch in the museum. She paid for her food.
Next we went out to Howth where we went for a walk along the pier. We saw a seal fucking about, trying to look as cute as me and generally acting the prick. I threw the lips on her again on the pier and ‘held her’ for a while. Great comfort building. She thought the day was ‘amazing’.
Big question. Did Strike get any action between the sheets?
Big answer. NO.
Didn’t expect to. I’m off to her house during the week to ‘watch a DVD or something’. Stay tuned for updates. I’m fairly sure it’s on.
I still suffer from approach anxiety in some scenarios. Even when I’m not attracted to the girl, not sarging and not even on a night out I sometimes can’t think of what to say, can’t say in right and can’t get my body language right. It’s a long road to the top. Sometimes I’m in the zone. I honestly think I work better under pressure when there’s no time to think.
I had a bit of a freeze up in Eddie Rocket’s the other night. I was there with the Varsity. The waitress was kinda hot. She gave me a big hello when I went in. It was so nice and friendly that I assumed she was mistaking me for someone else. Varsity went outside to call Lade on his mobile phone. The waitress came over to the counter where I was sitting and sat down next to me to take my order. I’m not saying she was coming on to me, but either way I should have handled it better. My body language was poor and she got the message. Fuck.
I’ve been working really hard on my body language and posture since. The Varsity has been helping me with this. He’s really well up on this because he’s a strength and conditioning coach. I find that if I push my hips forward a little when I walk and stand, then everything else falls into place. My shoulders go back and my chest automatically sticks out. It’s all very subtle but it really changes the way I look.
I was walking past the post office near my house on Friday when I saw a girl I went to school with. I’m on the look out for a chance to practice my game so I went straight over and started chatting. I had some interesting stories about old friends and what they’re up to.
She mentioned she had a boyfriend. I ignored it.
She mentioned her boyfriend was feeling insecure as she was buying an apartment with her friend Sarah. She asked my why men always felt that they had to be the provider. I told her I was more of a leach than a provider. I’m not sure how clever that was. But then again, it really doesn’t matter what you say, as long as you look confident saying it. They’ll presume it is clever/funny/insightful if you act like it is.
I told her about this cool band that I want to go see at the end of the month. She said she’d like to come along, and to get in contact via Beebo. The whole thing was a bit of a confidence boost. I doubt anything will come of it at all, but the more practice I get the better.
I’d better go get a Beebo account. I got awful abuse for not being on it on Thursday night. I might be going out with Lade and Varsity later.
Live the Dream.
Great job man
Great job man,
wish I always had this will to carry out plans.
About motivation, don't you agree that if you get a brutal rejection it's normally just from a not so pretty girl just for warm up reasons or because nobody else was there, but never from a real pretty one with a nice smile you would have liked to be your girlfriend.
I'm pretty sure that girls (or generally people) are only mean to you because somehw they are scared by you, which actually makes the rejection their fault.
I think even though I might not always follow this rule myself,
this is everything to say about being scared of getting rejected right at the approach.
If you don't show confidence with the way you are doing everything to reach your goal, I don't know what the word means.
Marathon hasn't been won by being notified
Not if you have the right frame, although doing activities that bring out the emotions are much better. Those mueseums are great choices.
Originally Posted by Strike
Don't feel obligated to join the herd for not being on Bebo, it's a terrible site.
Originally Posted by Strike
That's just my opinion though, use it on your own terms.
Great stuff so far man, looks like you're seeing results already.
I think I get what you're saying. I’m reading Sex Signal by Judi James at the moment. She suggests that you’ll often get the knock back from someone if they think that you’re punching below you weight. There’s got to be a balance in the relationship.
I’m just joining so that I can keep in contact with people. One of the girls said to get in contact with her via Bebo, it can’t hurt to get out there.
I didn’t go out last night. I think I’ll go on a one man mission tonight. I might go somewhere new on the other side of the City. I think I’ll bring the camera and put some photos up here, jazz things up a bit.
good work strike!
Strike that must be the best story in this forum.
U are actually speaking on behalf for a lot of guys here.
Maybe we hook up someday when i go back home in dublin for a holiday in july
and sarge together, i will show u the sydney style and u can show me the dublin method
knowing is not enough we must apply