_Shift_ in a nutshell
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- 07-19-2008, 03:43 AM #1
i hope at least some of you at least take the time to read this, it's very true.
_Shift_ in a nutshell
this introduction is my story, why i'm here... on this forum, in this community.
Are any of you here for the same reason i wonder? i honestly hope not.
I have a vendetta. Against females. Not just bitches, tricks, and ho's... all females.
Almost 2 years ago i started dating a girl from my childhood, my dream girl, i was so AFC, it was scary clingy and just yea lol. Now a lil off topic, my grandfather, and my father both had the temper that i inherited... they put their families through hell, and they died lonely and sad. Made me realize one thing, i never want to get married. I'm a photocopy of my father and i'd hate to put anyone through what i went through. This ex of mine knew all i wanted was a child. I'm financially stable, i'm almost done with school, why not raise a lil one. Well, we constantly got in arguments, and me, being an afc, paid for her trip with me to vegas, well we ended up breaking-up on the plane back (yea sitting next to someone you just broke up with for 3 hours...) but the part that made it unbearable was what she told me while we argued. "...well you know what, i was pregnant, but i got it taken care of!" and she knew all i wanted was a kid of my own. Completely broke me.
I was a mess, for a long time, stopped taking care of myself, stopped talking to girls, pretty much depressed 24/7. Started to do alot of reading... I stumbled across some literature and videos online, now I've been in the community for over a year now mostly sarging alone. Fine tuning and what not. (i was a natural with girls but afc in relationships) for what my ex did to me, i felt i had to take it out on all girls, kinda get back at them for what i went through even though they took no part in it. I lead girls on, slept with them and ditched em, sent their dirty pictures to everyone in my phonebook (my mother accidentally got a few lol)
But i got tired of it. So i started looking at the game alot differently. i left the vendetta and suddenly i was in this game NOT to sleep with females... but to have them wrapped around my finger. Deny them til i felt like having sex. I liked having that power. And i still do.
I missed being in a relationship (after a year of being single)
Came across this other girl, dating a friend of mine, she cheats on my friend and goes with another guy, but i remain her friend. Well sooner or later she admits to liking me, and cheats on THIS guy to come with me (red flag? lol) We start dating, 2 weeks into it she tells me she loves me, we start planning trips for when i'm off probation (she's a stripper) Long story short... we hit a rough patch, decided to take a few days to ourselves, and i found out tonight she cheated on me and GOT MARRIED a few hours ago... yea this happened a few hours ago. We weren't even broken up.
It rekindeled my vendetta.
Now i just feel like sarging to break em again. Emotionally. I'm in this destructive state of mind. I know it's unhealthy, but if it weren't for me being hurt and in this situation the first time, i woulda never found this community. I'm alot happier having the safety net of not being attached to girls in relationships. But i feel bad for the girls i come across, because i know there's a 95% chance i'm gonna hurt them in one way or another.
I met an aspiring pua who was way too worried about sex. that's all he wanted to get out of all this knowledge. i tried reprogramming him but it never worked... he was always worked up about sex and girls could see right through it. I always told myself he's in the game for the WRONG reasons... but i realized mine isn't any better. So i need to get back to the point where i changed my perspective on everything after my first ex.
how did the quote go?
"...when 4am hit and i saw you with your hair messed up, makeup all over the place, trying to squeeze your hips into jeans that were way too tight... i realized you were another human in this world just trying to get by..."
you guys don't understand how good it feels to vent like this.
Anyone here for similar reasons?
Hope you understand where i'm coming from. It's been rough, but there's always someone out there who's got it alot worse.
- 07-19-2008, 04:56 AM #2
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I think you need to really evaluate what kind of females you are chasing, if you are chasing for the purpose of LTR. You may be feeling the way you are because you let females walk all over you and you dont show that you respect yourself.. and then when they take advantage of you, you feel bitter and hateful. . I think for you, its so much easier to convince yourself that you're the one likely to hurt them.. and that you're the one with the "issues" .. When you constantly get hurt, you feel resentful..then you get over it and you let yourself slip into a LTR again.. until she screws you over again.. and its a cycle..
I think this website would be good for you, because i think you need to work on yourself.. you need to build respect and identity.. you need to learn how to treat females so that they look at you like a man.. look up to you.. not end up cheating on you and getting married 2 hours later. I think if you met a female who truely respected you and thought highly of you.. you would change your mindset.. these females exist, but you cant mess with human nature.. by letting her walk all over you and then wondering why she did it.
If you are just in it for the sex, then you can escape when you see that the female is getting emotionally invested.. that way , you wont hurt her, shell just think you're an ass hole when you stop returning her calls.. but hey, if she fucks you so quickly and is willing to without being in a relationship with you, then she can only expect so much.
Why am i here?
I like to learn new things & i feel that the more I can understand men, the better lover I can be, plus i can share my opinions from a female perspective.
- 07-19-2008, 05:02 AM #3
honestly this last one didn't walk over me at all. i let her know what i was worth and she told me in exact words
"i'm used to dating ugly 3-legged dogs whose universe revolves around me... you're different, i know you don't need me, that's why i worry."
and she'd always have jealous fits when i'd talk to my friends that are girls (i have ALOT)
whenever she'd act up i'd stop talking to her, tell her to calm down and get in touch with me when she's ready to be mature about the situation and she'd usually come around.
I'm not dwelling on her, i'm not missing her, i've just got this flame inside that only dimmed, never died.
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