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    Hello everyone,

    I'm EastSky. European, living in Japan since 2009.
    I am the regular AFC, would-be PUA.

    I was married with my 4th girlfriend, and it ended badly. There were warning signs early, but I was a nice guy and the more I got involved with her, the more I saw this whole commitment as a duty.
    Anyway, it exploded last year. I took my frustration out in a disgusting way, got 2 days in jail (and I was lucky...), lost my wife, about 30k$, lost my mind (depression). Luckily, I kept my job and visa.

    In the end, though, after the storm I felt relief. I was free again to do what I really liked. I got back on my old hobbies, started seeing more friends, and started dating. Note the lack of "again". I never really was in the dating game before.

    I was introduced to Neil Strauss' "The Game" by a friend and am currently reading it. I am a passionate guy, so when I have a hobby I need to really understand all the theory. So I got sucked in to this pretty quickly.

    My goals in the game:
    - short-term: getting laid regularly, sexual fantasies (stuff I want to try at least once), etc...
    - long-term: finding a wife. I see like brainstorming. It's easier to have a killer idea if you first brainstormed a 100 and then filtered. I believe my future relationship will work better following this system.
    - self-improvement: from what I read so far, I see practical applications of PUA techniques for work relationships, friendships, self-confidence, networking, public speaking, etc...
    - I like psychology, neuro-psychology and its link to AI. Reading from the PUA point of view is quite interesting actually

    My current status:
    - I'm good looking, and had a little make-over in January. I can definitely make progress on appearance, but genetics were rather good to begin with
    - I get most of my dates online. Tinder works ok, a few other local websites as well.
    - from 1st date, I get k-close easily from girls interested in casual dating. Still hard to approach if the girl is waiting for the charming prince...
    - I know how to f-close a girl who is interested in me, but I can't say it's really under my control...
    - I suck at approaching girls in bar. Actually, I am uncomfortable in crowded environment...

    My short-term efforts:
    - reading seduction basics
    - improve my style
    - set-up my nest (just moved in a new apartment)
    - improve my Jp (it got awkward once a girl I brought home told me "you did understand from earlier that I have my periods, right?"...)
    - dating expertise (I'm reasonably successful online for now, so I leave the public approach learning for later)



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    Welcome. You have come to the right place.

    The Game tells an interesting story, but it's mostly a story and a lot has happened the last decade. Make sure to read up on The Triad model (Takes 5 minutes), that way everyone talks the same language.

    I noticed you already posted a field report. I think you will do well.

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    Hi Tank,

    Thank you for your answers here and on my other threads

    The Game is actually very well written. I laughed so many times at the adventures of Style. I think it helps putting you on the right mind set when you get started, so it might help with inner game in some way.

    Currently, I'm reading Magic Bullets (which I expected to be much bigger...) and a book I found in library: The Art Of Seduction by Robert Greene.

    I have a question about the forums, I guess I can put it there: if I want to talk about products that are outside Love Systems, can I do it on these forums? For example that book I read, or a TED Talk on body language, etc...

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    We have an entire subforum dedicated to reviews of books and products from anyone you can think of.

    But this site is not a debate-club. It's about improving our skills with women, not about discussing pickup theory, and threads that fall into the category of metaphorically sitting in a circle discussing the latest youtube video from whatever pickup-guru may quickly end up in Off-Topic.

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