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    How I got here

    Reposted from |||||||||||| forums on 24 Nov 2011, hopefully will get more responses here!

    After having read The Game and watched Mysterys videos I began reading posts on these forums and other PUA forums. It's refreshing to see so many guys out there sharing their experiences and helping each other. So here's my story.

    In Spring 2010 I met a Parisian girl on an IRC room. My first reaction was "it's a troll, but I got some time to kill so lets see how entertaining this loser can be." Long story short it turned into a whirlwind romance, we just clicked on so many levels. She was a 16 year old girl from Paris and I was an 18 year old guy in London. We took our daily conversations over to MSN then on BBM.

    I never expected to forge a relationship with this girl. There's always been this stigma for me around internet dating. So she became my best friend, someone so far away from my normal social circles that it was easier to share my life experiences and learn about her life across the channel.

    Several months later I began to fear my feelings for her. It got to the stage where I felt I was addicted to this person I hadn't seen yet and something about it seemed unnatural and unhealthy to me. I had girlfriends before but the connection I had with this girl went so deep you could call it spiritual. It was just by chance that she was coming to London for a day for the Harry Potter premiere, which is where I first met her in person.

    The first meeting was magical (pun intended). I had no idea about The Game and just did what came naturally. There were awkward moments since she was with her French speaking friends and I went alone but by the end of the night, after standing for a good 11 hours in a raging crowd of teenage girls we knew we would be seeing a lot of each other since.

    And it was the case. Every month for the next year and a half I took a secret trip to Paris where we met, stayed at luxury hotels and enjoyed wonderful dates. The sex was nothing short of amazing. I was her first, and she redefined what sex meant to me. As a young virile couple with high sex drives and so much creativity in the city of love we did just about everything most guys could dream of. Looking back I've come to realise that sex for men is primarily a mechanical function, but only when you come to "emotional orgasm" do you realise that sex has a whole new dimension.


    After some persuasion she got me to meet her parents. They were both Israeli Jews, and I was born a Muslim. This is where things started to get complicated. When the religious and cultural differences became apparent as reality her pillow talks often turned to the difficulties we would have raising kids and how choosing me meant she had to abandon her entire family and everything she was raised up with. My response was always the same: we'll work it out, there's plenty of time.

    But there wasn't.

    During the end of May this year I went out with my aunt and one of her friends to a charity event. The friend was a girl a few years my senior who I'd say is about a 7.5, but what interested me most about her was her career path. She had hardly any qualifications but got herself into trading in Goldman Sachs, the very place I had been dreaming about going into after graduation. By way of background, I am in an Ivy League university in the UK studying Engineering. I had done internships with Investment Banks in the City over the summers and found my own startup company. I live life on the fast lane.

    This is where I made the single biggest mistake which I still regret to this day. While my girlfriend was asleep I sent her texts about how in awe I was of this new girl at the charity event. I went to bed hoping to tell my girlfriend more about it in the morning, but woke up to her call telling me the relationship was over.

    The next few months went by rather quickly. For the first week she refused to talk to me other than to explain why she felt it was the time for us to move on. Her reasons varied from religious difficulties with having something really long-term, to saying she felt "caged" and needed to be single and not forgetting the "it's not you, it's me" line. I took a serious look on the past two years of my life and remembered the subtle hints she used to drop, religion was definitely on her mind a lot.

    Now, this all really hit me when I went back to university in October. Through my help she managed to start her degree at a university in London, which was my hometown but not the place I was studying. For the first month she often called to complain about how she found it difficult to make friends and bitch about the other girls not inviting her to parties. I did what any "nice guy" would do: offered my suggestions and gave her my words of comfort and support. This decreased bit by bit until she had no use for me any longer. After no contact for over a week I called to catch up and learned that her life was apparently going so great - she was going rock climbing with her new group of friends, got to all the hot student parties, consistently achieved great marks on her assessments and, met a Romanian guy who she was spending lots and lots of time with. She described how they spent 6 hours locked in her room one day messing around watching YouTube videos, how she liked him and he liked her but nothing would happen since he allegedly has a girlfriend. She won't answer my calls or texts any more, not that I was bombarding her with messages anyway. I've been left out to dry.

    This killed me. I felt so used and betrayed. Totally ironic since this is the stuff which girls feel out of a break up, not the guy. So on top of the imasculinity, betrayal and sadness I came out of this with nothing. Studies are tough and I'm working hard, but there's no enjoyment. I don't have a large group of friends any more and feel loneliness.

    It was not more than a couple weeks ago when I realised I was having the typical symptoms of depression. This is when I read through The Game and started watching Mystery's videos. Doing this helped give me the mindset that I should use this year to focus on myself, to work on my Game and enjoy flirting with any girl I can, and of course all the casual sex.

    Over the next three days I'm travelling to Brussels then Amsterdam with one of my best buddies. I needed to escape from everything I have going here and just lose myself for a short while. I don't know if it will help, or if I'll have the motivation to practice my Day Game in a whole new city. But I just needed to do something.


    That's a quick summary on the last big chapter in my love life. I would be very interested to hear from any other guys out there who have been in similar situations, or just any suggestions on what direction I should take.



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    How I got here

    Dude wasn't this already on here?
    You shouldn't be writing about minors dude.

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    It's legal age here in the UK, besides it's only a couple years difference between us

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    Sorry dude, it's a good story though! Yeah I'm uk based too, where are you based? the forum is predominately American so the moderators may delete the post as she would be a minor in the us, that being said as you said that you are uk based it may not. Where are you studying? I once went out with a Jewish girl and she called it a day because her parents didn't want her to go out with a non Jewish guy. I wasn't really that into her though so didn't really mind too much. So are you happy for her? If you were friends first then you should be (even if deep down you feel shitty about not being together anymore). The fact that she's happy in London now is a good thing!

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    At UoN but I'm in London most of the times. And I actually hate her, whenever we talk or text (and I don't know why we still contact each other) I drop DHVs, occasional negs and alternate between playful and serious but she has a way of putting me down all the time.

    I realised I have one-itis so I have started to practice my game. I don't yet have a wing so I've only been doing DDG on campus. I've been with three not-so-pretty girls so far but each time I feel lonely as hell afterwards and keep imagining cuddling up to my ex.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Tolkien View Post
    At UoN but I'm in London most of the times. And I actually hate her, whenever we talk or text (and I don't know why we still contact each other) I drop DHVs, occasional negs and alternate between playful and serious but she has a way of putting me down all the time.

    I realised I have one-itis so I have started to practice my game. I don't yet have a wing so I've only been doing DDG on campus. I've been with three not-so-pretty girls so far but each time I feel lonely as hell afterwards and keep imagining cuddling up to my ex.
    Yup, you've definitely got the Itus. Don't worry, it happens to all of us. That's why most people are on this forum in the first place.
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    How I got here

    London is good for finding wings, take a look at the wings and meets section. If you can't find anyone you want them let me know. I was living in Kingston till recently and know quite a few pua's in the south of London.

    Dude short term you can fill the loneliness with friends and activities but you need to fill the void with inner happiness. It comes with time. Plus there's something to be said for meeting someone new, it will often kill off the oneitous.

    Women who you have cared about and were close to will often act like that, it's a shitter. I still can't look my ex in the eye, I don't know why as I actually don't really care about her anymore lol. When we broke up we were cool for a while then drifted apart and eventually stopped talking all together.

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