Coming to you from Shenzhen, China

Coming to you from Shenzhen, China

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    Coming to you from Shenzhen, China

    Nihao, I am new to the forum and seeking out wings in sleek new decadent modern China.

    I've been living in China for a year trying to figure it out. I'm from America and grew up (mostly) in Cincinnati, Ohio before moving to the Los Angeles area for a few years.

    Its all a long story, but I'm sure you all have the time. Of course, I'm not naturally smooth in social situations or otherwise I wouldn't be here. But I feel I am always getting better as I get older as long as I keep trying to learn.

    See... all those many years I had a good girlfriend with great sex back in Cincinnati but I felt I had to move to better things. I was kind of raising in the local social hierarchy in my scene (big fish in a small pond eh), counter-culture 'alternative' kids in film school (told you the details were boring) ... and then when I moved to LA I suddenly plummeted into being poor and not cool. While struggling there a platonic girlfriend recommended to me I read Strauss's The Game!

    And I wasn't even willing to buy the book but read it on the sofa at the Long Beach Borders. A major eye-opener, what I was looking for. You all had some similar feelings when you discovered this? I read The Mystery Method this way too, and then splurged to buy Rules of the Game and followed out the whole 30-day plan.

    Mixed results. I definitely improved in many arenas, but surely I was no MPUA. Perhaps its an excuse, but I felt that I needed to be in a better place in my life to get it together before I can prosper in social-sexual ways. Like pay rent on time, etc.

    Eventually I spent all my money on a second adventurous trip to Burning Man armed with my newfound social knowledge. It was better then my first year, but no sex, but more than a bit making out and second, third base and so on...

    There I heard about an opportunity to move to China and here I am. Its been fun, although there are still excuses for lagging behind in improvement: there's a language barrier, and I spend too much of my free time studying Chinese (I am indeed making improvement in the putonghua), and I work weekends which sucks, and I am but a lowly English teacher (though once the language is cracked I do expect more business opportunities to present themselves...). I have roommates and the place to myself not nearly enough. None of my friends were ever excited about PUA and of course some even discouraging, and having friends cheer you on is major motivation, hence hope to meet some of you guys here. And so on and so on.

    Fuck all that, excuses excuses, I just need to get the willpower to get it together. I had a girlfriend soon after I got here, hooked up from time to time and I do have a decent social circle of party-oriented foreigners and Chinese (a lot of fun to be had in Shenzhen), but lately its been a terrible dry spell. My last girlfriend was a virgin kinda conservative Chinese girl, and we fooled around but never did have sex, and then she broke up with me. I went on many abortive dates that went nowhere since then. I had a very hot model-level (maybe a '9'?) girl over at my place for Christmas and I thought it was going well with conversation and rapport and flirtiness and touchy kino and then when I made a move she said the ol' 'We should be friends!' Frustrating!

    If you know this area, you know the stereotype is that Western (i.e. white) guys can get Chinese girls any time they want. It is and isn't true on different levels apparently. It seems the high-class girls are not impressed just because you're white and speak English anymore. I will post elsewhere and try to find like-minded artists in the area and get into detail. There needs to be some cultural specific openers and such developed for the girls here. And hell, I'd like to get better at picking up foreign girls just as well. Let's make it happen.

    Nice to meet y'all, hope to contribute to the productive community from all over!



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    Quick question -- how's the scene if we're solely picking up in English? Do girls there have a good enough grasp of the language for me to operate?

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    There are many girls who can speak English. Its true that many girls here are not impressed with foreign guys but many go out every week to find one.

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    Enough girls speak English to make it worth it. Usually the more high-end attractive and educated ones are fluent (and snobby... but the challenge makes it fun in this scene! right?), and yet those are the ones who are no longer impressed just because you're a foreigner.

    Of course, depends where you go - there are all Chinese places where they will stare at you when you walk in - but I definitely know plenty locales in SZ where the more international clientele speak English...

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