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- 10-11-2009, 10:27 PM #1
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Hi everyone. Just joined this forum. Wanted to introduce myself, and vis a vis women: my current situation, goals, and strategy for achieving those goals. I welcome any feedback or suggestions anyone feels comfortable giving. I am posting here mainly to have a record of my progress for my own use, but I definitely recognize the value of getting second opinions on how I am doing and what I could be doing better.
About myself: 23 yo management consultant based out of San Francisco. Good looking guy. Always had some success with women, but not enough to satisfy me, and certainly not as much as I feel like I should have, given my physical appearance, personality, career and financial success.
My situation, goals, and strategy:
I have been actively working on improving my "game" for the past two years. My situation is improving in spurts but I've recently decided that change isn't coming nearly as fast as I want it to. I recently went on a long vacation with a friend and was continually frustrated by all the attractive women I saw who I either chose not to approach out of fear or approached and ended up not hooking up with. The last straw came when a friend who picked me up from the airport brought along her really attractive girlfriend who she is trying to set me up with. I failed miserably at flirting with this girl. Was afraid to show enough direct interest to make it clear to her that I wanted her. I got out of the car thinking I need to put more effort into "getting this part of my life handled". I need to overhaul my strategy for accomplishing this so to enable me to get to where I want to be faster. I cant live like this any more. It is too god damn frustrating.
Near term: I want to have highly enjoyable sex with extremely hot women. I want to be able to find a new woman as soon as I get bored of my current one. Long term: I want to fall in love with someone and have a rewarding relationship with them.
I've divided my strategy for achieving these goals into two phases.
Phase 1: Adopt the right mind set
1.1: Fully internalize the idea that it doesnt matter what other people think
so that I have social freedom (the ability to act any way I want in a social situation without fear of rejection or judgement).
I am using social deconditioning exercises that I have developed based on Demonic Confidence and Brad P social freedom drills.
1.2: Subconciously internalize the belief that I am good enough for extremely attractive women.
This is a bit tricky to do. I am trying several different things. I have changed the way I communicate with myself, and I now consciously know I am good enough for attractive women but getting this to seep into my subconscious has proven very challenging.
1.3: Cultivate and maintain the belief that I am capable of staying the course and getting to my desired level of success with women.
Currently reading "Unlimited Power" by Tony Robbins and developing strategies to help myself consciously and subconsciously accept this idea. I am also going to start a batting average type of thing for myself to encourage me to keep going and not give up. One of my big sticking points in the past has been losing faith that I can ultimately succeed, giving up, and then coming back to find that I have lost a lot of the progress I had previously made. Previously, I had tried to combat this by saying that I would go out and do social deconditioning exercises for x straight days. Inevitably, something comes up and you miss a day and then poof-motivation is gone and you feel demoralised because you werent able to accomplish your goal. Instead, I am going to track the number of days I go out and do exercises versus the total number of days I have available, starting today. So since I didnt do anything today I am currently batting 0/1. If I go out tomorrow I will be 1/2 batting .500. I think this is a much better strategy for ensuring that I continue to work at this.
Phase 2: develop the technical skills I will need to seduce extremely attractive women.
I think phase 1 and phase 2 have to be accomplished in order. I dont see any point in working on coming up with the right tactics without the mental fortitude to execute them. What good is it knowing what the right lines are when you are too afraid to use them? Its f-ing pointless and a waste of time.
I am not nearly as worried about phase 2 as I am about phase 1. I think I will be 90% of the way there once I finish phase 1. I am a pretty socially savvy person to begin with and there is a wealth of really valuable information out there about technique.
Anyways, this is all I have time to write today. Will update this again once I have more to say.
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- 10-11-2009, 11:18 PM #2
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- 10-12-2009, 12:55 AM #3
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