Intro To An Amateur Game Player In London

Intro To An Amateur Game Player In London

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    Intro To An Amateur Game Player In London

    Hey everyone

    My name's Allan, I'm a 35 year old guy from London. I came out of a long term relationship about 12 months ago and since then my dating life has been a disaster....

    In my younger years I was never 'Mystery' but had my fair share of girls but 4 years of a committed relationship left me feeling a bit fat and more than a little unconfident when it comes to meeting anyone new....

    After 12 months of watching others around me meeting chicks and having the time of there lives I decided it's time for a change.

    After one of the worst dates of my last weekend I decided I really needed to up my game (but where to start?).

    The problem I have is probably 3 fold if I'm honest:

    1) Lack of confidence - I feel older now and I don't look as good as I used to (no matter how hard I work at the gym those wrinkles wil never go away).

    2) I live in London (if you live here you'll understand what I mean). I've lived in several other cities around the world and find this one the hardest to meeting women by a country mile.

    3) Lack of a Wingman - Nearly all of my friends are now in relationships so finding like minded people to go out with can be difficult. Finding other PUA's (even really amateur ones like me) is nearly impossible.

    I therefore have 2 questions for you all...

    Are there PUA's in the London area who frequent these boards (and if so who are they).

    What one piece of advice would you give to a rank amateur like me to help me into 'Game'.

    Thanks for reading guys,

    Al



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    Heymate - I am 34 and from London too but live in Rio de Janeiro - I have just joined the site too and yeah London can be a difficult place especially in bars and pubs - I found when living there that daygame works best - the street, tube, supermarket - whatever. Also, going to easier countries like Brazil or anywhere in South America may help you with your game. I often sarge with guys ten years younger than me and who also are in top shape so I do know the difficulties you may be going through but I do believe that confidence is everything - at the moment going through a confidence dip but there was a time when I was pulling a lot more birds than these guys 6 months back. What is different?? confidence - and thinking about how good somebody elses game is instead of improving and concentrating on your own. Gym? try weightraing and diet workouts that work by Orvis and the body sculpting bible. Wrinkles?? You can't stop aging mate!!

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    Welcome to the game. Checkout this thread: http://www.theattractionforums.com/u...n-meet-up.html

    PM one of the guys and see what they say. I think you should be good. Also, check out this sub-forum and READ the stickies: UK - The Attraction Forums - Free Pickup and Dating Advice (Mr. M has a comprehensive article on pickup in London.)

    Good luck, mate.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Amateur Game Player View Post
    What one piece of advice would you give to a rank amateur like me to help me into 'Game'.
    It sounds like you should start by working on your Inner Game. Confidence is the reward for taking risks in this game, pushing your boundaries and taking a giant leap outside of your comfort zone - it's kind of a catch 22 - you need confidence to succeed, but you only become more confident with success... So, you need to learn how to address the "failure" aspect, so that your confidence doesn't take a step back every time you get blown out of a set.

    Realise, and accept that you're going to make mistakes. Everyone does. It's all just a part of the learning process. It's how you deal with those mistakes afterwards, and what lessons you take away from them that determines whether you move forward or not - yes, you can get better at this by analyzing your "failures" but don't over-analyze. Realize what you did wrong, and move to the next set. The previous one then no longer matters. It's history. However badly you think it went, nobody else cares but you.

    I'm constantly comparing the learning of Pickup to the learning of a new videogame.

    Take Guitar Hero for example... The first time I played, I got boo'ed off the stage half way through the song on EASY difficulty... The more I played it, the faster my fingers became, the quicker I could see the notes and anticipate the next ones as I'd played the same songs over and over again. Then after a few months, I'm completing songs of EXPERT level.

    THE GAME is exactly the same as Guitar Hero... You start by getting boo'ed off occasionally (blown out of sets). But you get better each time you play. You learn to anticipate exactly what to do until it's just instinct.

    Basically, what I'm saying is don't worry about getting boo'ed off stage. It happens to everyone to begin with. The only way to improve is to persevere and keep on rocking!

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