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    Please allow me to introduce myself, I'm a man of wealth (not) and taste

    Well basically I'm here because I need massive help. I frequent a forum and asked for advice on a modified case of one-itis. I got caught up in supporting a good friend who I had just recently gotten close to after knowing her for seven years. This was during the time she was kicked out and homeless and I decided that, because I loved her, I would be there for her and be literally the only guy not trying to get with her. Well this turned into an extremely close big-brother platonic relationship with the most beautiful girl in the world. I had it bullied out of me that I loved her and, while we continued as strong friends, my confidence was constantly plummeting, which is one of the main things that drove her away from wanting to pursue a relationship with me. Just as I was about to step up my game, she decides she's getting married to an old friend who's in college who she's hung out a few times over summer and has a strong texting relationship with (that's how I got close to her, texting from wake till sleep for 3 months.)

    So, basically, I am stuck in terrible anticipation to see how college boy's visit turns out and I've realized that I've wasted so much time (12 hours a day for two weeks straight), so much money ($200ish + $300 in overdraft fees) and so much emotions on a girl who has kindly thrown it back in my face. I'm not giving up on her by any means, but I'm coming here so I can learn how to escalate situations and gain confidence. I didn't tell much about myself, but this is why I came here and I can write a novel on myself, so I thought I'd keep it short.



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    Quote Originally Posted by Hubble View Post
    I'm not giving up on her by any means, but I'm coming here so I can learn how to escalate situations and gain confidence.
    If you not going to giving up on a girl Using you, why are you here?

    ...i say this only because you will not get the confidence you need to escalate and get quality relationships if you don't get her out of ur life and out of ur mind...and the last part is harder then the rest if you are THAT into her.

    This is exactly why i like helping newbies...i hate to see that happen...and sad thing i sit all Starts at Home, our Parents never thought about the impact not being socially aware would hurt us with our peers and our GF's ..I NEVER allow this to happen with my Son. Alpha! Alpha! Damn im changing my Sig to dat!

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    Quote Originally Posted by PJ Mac View Post
    If you not going to giving up on a girl Using you, why are you here?

    ...i say this only because you will not get the confidence you need to escalate and get quality relationships if you don't get her out of ur life and out of ur mind...and the last part is harder then the rest if you are THAT into her.

    This is exactly why i like helping newbies...i hate to see that happen...and sad thing i sit all Starts at Home, our Parents never thought about the impact not being socially aware would hurt us with our peers and our GF's ..I NEVER allow this to happen with my Son. Alpha! Alpha! Damn im changing my Sig to dat!
    Because she is A. Worth it. and B. Not fully using me, it was my choice to do that for her and as friends, I don't think she saw it as using me.

    I have basically pushed her from the forefront of my mind and have changed my aim elsewhere. I can't get her out of my life, we are great friends and still see each other, but I'm the trusted one. Hell, I'm the only man her parents will allow in her room alone.
    Yeah, my greatest mistake in life was getting homeschooled during Jr. High. Then I went to high school at an uptight Christian school with weird kids, then I transferred to a small academically advanced school with 5 other messed up kids in my class. I've had the greatest experiences to help foster my social awkwardness.

    I wish there were as many tutorials for being the Alpha male in any situation as there are for picking up girls. I'm tired of being the wallflower

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    Of course, she's worth it. Cut her loose, read some material and chop some new broads.

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    Just when I cut her out of my mind she says she's not going to marry the guy, at least not for many years. She also keeps pressuring me to hang out, was glad that our relationship could withstand a little bit of turbulence, and even changed her ringtone to a song that we listened to and argued about a few times because it "reminded her of the good times." We've also been talking alot in our normal dork selves which is fun

    Is this permanent BFF status or do you think there may be a chance of getting together.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Hubble View Post
    Is this permanent BFF status or do you think there may be a chance of getting together.
    Listen, TheSlayer knows what he is talking about. Cut her loose. Many of us have been afflicted with oneitis and very, very few of us regret getting over those girls. You came here for advice, and I admire that, but now you have to do the hard part: PUT IT TO USE.

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    Quote Originally Posted by The Colorado Kid View Post
    Listen, TheSlayer knows what he is talking about. Cut her loose. Many of us have been afflicted with oneitis and very, very few of us regret getting over those girls. You came here for advice, and I admire that, but now you have to do the hard part: PUT IT TO USE.
    I did basically let go of her but now she's latching on to me. Why would I cut that off if I may have a chance?

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    Might have a chance of what? Being with this girl who treats you like dirt? She doesn't want you like you want her or she would already be yours and you wouldn't be here. Get over her.

    You're looking at this situation from narrow sighted AFC goggles. You are 19, there will be so many girls in your future. The quicker you get over your oneitis, the quicker they will come. Read up on abundance vs scarcity, you'll find there are are than one "most beautiful girls in the world".

    Also, this is a typical case of oneitis, not a modified special version. If anything this is one of the more destructive, crazy oneitis scenarios I have seen. You supported her because you loved her... You wasted money (and I'm guessing you spent a lot more than you admitted to) and put up with her bs and got nothing in return put a "big-brother platonic relationship".

    You have little value in her eyes. She won't change her mind. Move on.

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    Quote Originally Posted by The Colorado Kid View Post
    Might have a chance of what? Being with this girl who treats you like dirt? She doesn't want you like you want her or she would already be yours and you wouldn't be here. Get over her.

    You're looking at this situation from narrow sighted AFC goggles. You are 19, there will be so many girls in your future. The quicker you get over your oneitis, the quicker they will come. Read up on abundance vs scarcity, you'll find there are are than one "most beautiful girls in the world".

    Also, this is a typical case of oneitis, not a modified special version. If anything this is one of the more destructive, crazy oneitis scenarios I have seen. You supported her because you loved her... You wasted money (and I'm guessing you spent a lot more than you admitted to) and put up with her bs and got nothing in return put a "big-brother platonic relationship".

    You have little value in her eyes. She won't change her mind. Move on.
    I do have a high value in her eyes as a friend, she's told me that I'm her closest friend. She even gets angry if it's been too long between when we text. She hasn't treated me like dirt, she has just innocently enough wreaked emotional havoc. But I really should let go, but every time I do, we get closer, it's weird. I already have dates set up with other women but she just can't get rid of me

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