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Discuss City of Chicago Area at the IL - Illinois Lair within the The Attraction Forums. Dating Advice.; Thanks for the advice Vapor. It was frank and thats what I needed. I'll go ...

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    Thanks for the advice Vapor. It was frank and thats what I needed. I'll go out alone if need be. However even having some company..even a newbie like myself would do for just keeping each other motivated and providing some feedback.
    Also can you tell me one more thing.....is it essential to complete the newbie mission exactly as you tell it......like 3 sets/hour for 4 hours/4 nights/6 weeks ........my resources might not permit me to do exactly that.....but I can start off



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    A lot of it becomes just doing the best you can in terms of sheer numbers. The idea is you want to get 200-300 sets in with the same material, not changing anything, so you get socially calibrated. You'll get used to seeing what is working, what isn't, what might be your delivery (because the material is proven good). You see how things may change on nights you look your best vs. ones you don't, or how you felt when you went out that night. You will also get a lot better more quickly, which is encouraging, vs. using the same material for six months and getting bored (or worse, changing things too often and messing yourself up). It may take a lot longer than four weeks, but you really want to get out in the field as much as possible, particularly early on.
    I think having a buddy along where you push each other into sets is a good idea. Mystery had a great piece of advice about giving your buddy $200, and he gives you $10 for every set you open. Most people will open 20 sets to get their $200 back.
    The only thing about sarging with a buddy is you don't want to rely on it. Most people never get over their approach anxiety (because they don't do the NM), and just won't show up to sarge. This leaves you high and dry unless your mindset is to get 'er done whether he shows up or not.

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    This forum is hard on newbies too so take that into consideration. Its really not a big deal to sarge, you just kinda do it. You walk into a shopping center and say to yourself "I'm not leaving until I open 5 girls" and then you do it. EXPECT to be shot down numerous times. Sticks and stones my friend. You have the last laugh because you are constantly getting better.
    Most people start out with a high approach anxiety and they see a hot girl and start saying under their breathe "fuck fuck fuck fuck...." and get all pissed and nervous before they hit. Maybe I've beaten the odds but my approach anxiety is down to about 20% from 90% and I've only opened 50 or so (over half with my wing).
    Just find a good friend and start getting him excited by talking about the game and he'll roll out with you. Yes it makes it easier to sarge because you are constantly pushing each other. In the beggining I used to back out of approaches when I was alone. It just feels so much better when you went out with your boy with intent of sarging. You'll see it. When you are with your buddy there is a constant momentum. Always pushing each other into sets and whatnot. So many good reasons to have a wing when you sarge. Only reason some people say to go alone is so you can beat approach anxiety quicker.
    Sorry that was so longwinded hopefully it helped a bit.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Vapor
    Welcome. Don't take this the wrong way, but if you "ABSOLUTELY need to see some experienced people in action," you are likely shit out of luck. There are very few experts in Chicago (I am not one and don't know of any), but they don't have a lot of interest in demo'ing their skills to people who read The Game and haven't done anything else anyway.
    Check out the Best Of threads, and especially read Cedar's posts on completing the Newbie Mission. You'll need to complete that before experienced wings are going to want to sarge with you.
    I had a similar attitude early on, and it is very counterproductive. Get your head in a place where you are taking responsibility for your development and don't need wings/demos/others to help you in the field.
    projectchicago||||||||| has a forum with guys in the community. It's a good place to find local resources, but few of them go out sarging together.
    Hey now that's not fair to say. we have a huge event last weekend where 10 people came out, we ended up owning both the clubs we went to. get on the boards again, they are beginning to pick up now and people are going out. i know that i host events every weekend where i invite people out. most of the time it's groups of 3-6. but now that we had one good outing i'm sure it will grow.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Kino King
    Hey now that's not fair to say. we have a huge event last weekend where 10 people came out, we ended up owning both the clubs we went to. get on the boards again, they are beginning to pick up now and people are going out. i know that i host events every weekend where i invite people out. most of the time it's groups of 3-6. but now that we had one good outing i'm sure it will grow.
    I was pissed I missed that, I live in Wicker Park and it would have been easy to get out there. I also didn't mean it in a bad way. I was under the impression most FR's were guys going out solo or with other non-community guys.
    I didn't know the weekend meets were going to be a regular thing, so my bad on that. I was under the impression that was kind of the first group get-together, but if that's going to be a regular thing I'm pretty psyched.

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    it was the first large group meeting. but i have been inviting people out to events since this thing started. most of the time 3-4 people show up we do our thing and that's it.
    now since there are more members i think things are going to get a bit better and heat up a bit.

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    If this is all going down in Chi-town can my wing and I show some weekend? Its a few hours from me but we've been talking about heading down that way anyways.

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    More the marrier.. that website isn't just for chicago people.. just most of the people are from that area. if you are in from out of town and wanna go out with some people that live in the area well kick ass come on out. i have been thinking of doing a national board, but i figure why bother there are SOOO many of those already. unless i started doing seminars or something, but that will be a while down the way, and i would like to have some guest speakers as well.

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    Thanks brothers

    Folks,
    Thanks for all the advice and encouragement....I particularly liked the $200/ advice and also Kinokings enthusiams.....I havent met him yet but his energy is almost contagious and thanks for keeping my spirit alive kinoking
    To be very frank I had my own periods of mighty successes and might failures but could never control it.....in both survival and replication....i just took what destiny gave me
    I turned to mystery method and others when I was fed up of being driven by fate and thought it was high time to have some amount of control over what I get.
    I am surely joiniong you guys this weekend (thursday difficult for me as I work) and I am hoping to get a cool bunch of people with similar thoughts. We all crave for a place where we can fit in aint it.....I am looking for such a place
    I liked the fact that this forum is not made up of only of hormone driven horny teens....but people who are seeking not just sex but a deeper insight into themselves and the world around them.
    See you soon folks

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    My wing and I are coming down to chicago TONIGHT, IF there is a group of PUA's to sarge with. Sorry such short notice! Hit me up on PM to get contact details. Thanks
    Last edited by MiLLo; 12-14-2009 at 03:42 PM.

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