Thread: How do I meet people at a dorm in a foreign country?

I am working abroad in Europe for the summer and I met some girls on a study abroad program. It didn´t go to well, and I want to blame the fact that we were all pretty drunk and my game was totally off. Actually, I think they thought I was insulting them when I tried negging.

Anyway, I am trying to meet new people here and I definitely missed out on a great opportunity. All I had to do was be mildly entertaining and nice to them and I would have had access to many other people in this program. After searching on the internet, I found out where they are staying, which is a dorm type residence with probably 100 other kids my age.

How do I approach this situation if I want to go to the dorm and meet new people? I don´t know if I have access to the actual place where the rooms ares so what do if I can only get to the lobby? I am sure everyone there is in some sort of program and now knows each other. I don´t want to come of as needy but in reality I totally need them in this situation. And what do I do if I run into the girls that I met the other night that probably hate me?

are you part of the study abroad program or affiliated with that dorm in any way at all??
If not, steer clear, that's kinda a weird place to sarge, man.

I'm sure these dorm girls wander out from under their books on friday nights and find their way to local bars. THAT would be a great place to meet them, build a social circle , and actually get INVITED to the dorm instead of sketchily wandering the halls.


Also, negging....is not insulting. A neg should never come across as insulting. If it does then it's your fault on the delivery, not hers for 'misinterpreting'. Calibrate your negs appropriately

Yeah seriously, just hanging around the dorms hoping to get in somehow is really fucking creepy.

Yeah I think I am just pissed at myself for messing it up with the girls. I am aware of when to use negging and how it should be calibrated. Like I said, I was very drunk and my game was totally off.

I am totally fine with meeting people at bars, but the only minor problem is the language barrier. It doesnt make it impossible (i´ve already had success here), but it definitely makes it harder when only 1 in 3 girls can understand you. The dorm is a building full of many english speakers my age.

But you are probably right in the fact that it is a bit creepy. Do you thinking just playing the "i´m in a foreign country and someone told me to meet people here" wouldnt work at all?

Do you thinking just playing the "i´m in a foreign country and someone told me to meet people here" wouldnt work at all?

honestly, no


but you seem pretty dead set on this dorm idea, so if you feel like that's a venue that you really want to game, then by all means go for it. You just have to be very aware that you have NO socially acceptable reason for being there. Going to a bar alone is one thing, going to a housing residence is veeeeery different. People are going to ask if you are a student, to which you will have to respond that you're not.

Or you could always lie.
Pretend youre part of the program and that you live off-campus. Or pretend like you actually have friends in the building. I don't endorse this for the obvious reason that it's VERY easy to get called out on. But hell, you're only there once.

-Now the following is NOT FIELD TESTED, as I have never gone into a dorm where I don't know a soul to pick-up. But I can give you a theoretical outline of how I might approach this...

If you are going to try to game in the dorm, it's going to be similar to a day game approach at first. It has to be in the day so that defenses are lower and also being there at night makes it 10x sketchier. If you have access to the building, you'll have to find targets in lounges or study areas (NOT dorm rooms). This is not ideal, but again this is just not an ideal venue in general. Your immediate goal should be to build a small social circle so that you have a REASON to be in the building at all. Once you have a social circle within, no matter how small, you can pretty much use that as an all access pass to be there.

But first you have to build that social circle ...so NO approaches on anyone above an HB8. Read up on day game , treat a study lounge approach as you would a coffee shop or library approach. From there, time bridge to a Day2 OUTSIDE of the dorm (bar, whatever). In the Day2 spend WAY TOO MUCH TIME in comfort . You're goal is social circle , not lay. You want to LJBF them. If all went well and you didn't get drunk and try to neg, then you've got yourself a social circle . From there use social circle game to branch out and meet others in the dorm.

I do not I endorse this approach or technique. You can take it for what it is.

Personally, I would just sarge the bars and coffeeshops close by. It'll probably pan out with a dorm resident sooner or later

Could you join a club of some kind that interests you?

Maybe join a dance class (salsa or hip-hop) and meet some girls there?