In celebration of my one year anniversary here at the Forums I decided to make a post. Too many guys get caught up in the “What can the community do for me?” mentality. To be truly remarkable as a person and man, it is most important in what you can give back to the community. For my first year here, this sums up a lot of my knowledge that I’ve gained. I would like to extend personal thanks to everyone at the Forums with who I’ve interacted with during the last year. You guys are the best!
Grasp Your Sexuality!
WARNING: This goes beyond simple pickup. If you are here to get routines and gimmicks, then you will not like the following post. However, if you are here to better your life, and discover all the ways in which you can be the best man you can be, then you may proceed.
Do you feel guilty for looking at women?
1. Guilty for wanting to fuck her?
2. Guilty for wanting to fuck her hard in the ass while you call her a dirty slut and drip maple syrup down her back?
3. Does is not feel right to you?
4. Do you feel like it is disrespectful, and unnatural?
Why? Why? WHY DO YOU FEEL GUILTY? The most natural thing in the world for men to do is check out a fine woman, or fuck that total hottie you met at the bar.
Let’s talk about sexuality. So yes, turn the lights down low, turn on some Barry White, and let’s get down to business. I want you now to envision your perfect ten, physically. I’ll tell you mine: long, flowing, shiny dark hair, angelic face, cute little nose, perfect dark eyes, lips meant for dick-sucking, perfect proportional rack (for her body size), nice waist-to-hip ratio, a great ass, and long, long legs. I don’t know about you, but I’m aroused. Just kidding . Now let’s compare this perfect specimen to another not so perfect specimen. Envision now a nasty, 300lb, droopy tits, McDonalds eating, short haired, man-beast who, for some reason, has a vagina. So what’s the difference?
Does the beast seem sexual to you? If you said yes, I think you may be at the wrong forums, and I will send you a subscription of Warpig Monthly. The point is what’s sexual is often compared to what’s beautiful in our minds, what we find attractive. This makes sense because we don’t have sex with unattractive women (or at least I hope you don’t).
Now think about what’s sexy to a woman: a confident, yet humble, mature, yet fun, sexual, yet respectful man and it also helps if you are physically attractive, or at least well-groomed. Those combinations will definitely make a woman cream her panties. Women like this type of man because he represents the perfect balance of sexuality. BALANCE. Everything needs balance for it to survive, and the perfect representation of balance in men, makes you more attractive for replication. Yet for some reason, we don’t see many of these men. We see pathetic excuses for men everyday: what we usually call AFCs. What is the cause of this?
In my last thread, http://www.theattractionforums.com/d...96418-man.html, I described one of the things that men, who weren’t really men, did was to fear their sexuality. “When should I kiss her?” “I don’t want her to think that I just want sex!” You want sex. You want it because your brain tells you it is necessary for survival. But why do men fear their sexuality now? Why are men being pussified?
The very same social conditioning that explained all the other reasons why we are not real men apply here. You are being brainwashed. *key kaleidoscope effect* You watch the movies, tv, you see what celebrities do/act, you see the laws, and court cases that have affected our society for the WORSE.
The problem now is that many men think they have to repress their sexuality because it’s wrong. This programming comes because most of us were raised by women, and they wanted us to be “cute” and “sweet” and “a perfect gentleman” This is all well and good; however, women want these things from a man they are ALREADY SEXUALLY ATTRACTED TO. Those traits don’t make women attracted to you; they are instead, an added bonus. Women desired to make you this way, because they wanted more control over their world. Nothing makes women lose control more than a confident sexual man.
The real pain comes from a good percentage of us not having a decent father figure. That’s what drove most of us here because we have no idea how to be men, and one of the manliest things you can do it love/fuck a woman. Many women have NO IDEA what it’s like to be a man in this world because they are too busy trying to become our “equals.” So where are we to learn?
Sexuality extends beyond the bedroom. It encompasses all of our actions, consciously, or subconsciously. Think about it. You wake up in the morning, and fix your hair. Why? So you look more attractive to a potential mate. You get a degree. Why? So you can better provide for your mate. You eat. Why? So you can remain strong and healthy and have lots of offspring. Everything we do is for procreation.
When you fail to grasp your sexuality, which can be anything from being too nervous to talk to a woman, to being afraid to touch her when you two are watching a movie together, you reject your biology. You war with nature. There is no surer way to die then to outright reject your biology. It guides you; its invisible hand lets you make the right choices, evolutionary speaking. One thing we know is that nature beats nurture every time, and when you ignore nature, you are setting yourself up for unnecessary difficulty.
Some people choose to think that sexuality and intelligence are linked, however I disagree. What do most men in their ivory towers, and their theories and philosophies do beside mentally masturbate about their supposed “understanding” of the world? To them sexuality is something that they can slap a theory on, and be done with it. However, real sexuality is much deeper than that. Intelligence has nothing to do with your sexual self, or those nerds with pocket protectors in high school would have been scoring left and right. When you try to slap a theory to everything in life, you get lost in your head, and don’t live for the present. It if often that the man with no theories are the ones who understand women the most, because there is no theory to women!
I remember hearing this analogy a few months ago, and if I could find it again, I’d give due credit. If you’ve gotten through high school, you’ve probably read Oedipus. Remember how he had to go through the Sphinx and her riddle in order to get into the city? Well, most guys view women as some kind of Sphinx. A mythical and mysterious creature, to which we assign so many secrets and forbidden knowledge (“What do woman really want? What’s going on inside her head? What is she thinking?”). The truth is that women are a sphinx with no riddle. The only secrets and forbidden knowledge she has is what we give to her. If you make it so tough on yourself, and think understanding women is the equivalent of climbing Everest, then it will be. But if you understand that she is human too, that she feels the same feelings, pinings, emotions, and desires (sexual and whatnot) as you, then it is as easy as understanding the ABCs.
It is often the very behaviors that ordinary people tell you to do while dating that lead to problems. Think about it: Buy a woman dinner? Anyone can do that. Take her to a movie? Anyone can do that. Give her the pleasure of your own unique form of company? Only you can do that, and that is what you are selling: you, and nobody else. The point is to do something original, for the purpose of getting to know each other. So be unique. Show her your true self, and have fun doing it! Your real self is the most sexual being you can conjure. Unless she is heartless, she wouldn’t be out on a date with you if you didn’t intrigue her, and the common behaviors of dinner and movie shows her that you are just as ordinary as everyone else. Don’t be ordinary, be extraordinary.
Your looks are a very key aspect in your quest to grasp your sexuality. Physical beauty can be overlooked for men. Whether we are handsome or not has little to do with our looks, but rather the style that we present. When you look good, you present yourself to women the same way a petite runway model presents herself to men. So get your shit together! Go get some nice clothes, get a haircut, and hit the gym. Do what you can to be the best person you can be!
Your personality is another key point. Forget all your intelligence, all you learned in college and high school. That will help you little here. You don’t want to have a relationship based upon talking about nuclear fusion, or calculus, do you? NO. You want to hold each other and whisper sweet nothings all night long. Having a good personality has little to do with intelligence; it is about being the most fun, entertaining, and caring person you can be. This is your true sexual nature, not how much molecular chemistry you know. So do not dwell on the boring!
In the end, it doesn’t matter if you are a virgin, or you’ve been with thousands of women: your sexuality is something that should know no bounds, but neither should it be a priority in life. Sex is not the end all, be all to life. It can only enhance it. Sex is only a big deal if you make it a big deal. If you don’t make it a big deal, then at very least it can be one of the greatest connections you can have with a woman. So stop rejecting your nature and biology, and open up. Touch her. Kiss her. Slap her ass. Tell her how sexy you think she is, because here is a hint: SHE WANTS YOU TO! She wants you to be a man, and be sexual with her. She wants to be submissive and squirm underneath you as you dominant her. This is her truest, deepest desire: to give herself totally to a dominant confident man, who knows how to turn her on. Reject society’s programming, and act like a real man would. A real man is sexy to every woman, no matter what they say. Finally, do it all with confidence. You shall be truly unforgettable in her eyes, I promise.
Disclaimer: Using your sexuality is a good thing, but in no way am I advising you to do anything that could land you in jail, such as rape. Use your head. There is a big difference between embracing your sexuality and touching a woman who wants you, and making an unwelcome sexual advance. Don’t be stupid and do something that could get me or TAF in trouble.
*This post was influenced by community users AshleyL and Hitori, and the most credit goes to my biggest mentor and teacher, Pook. Many thanks.