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By definition, P&P is about moving ...
A little different way of Push&Pull, Field-Tested and Working
By definition, P&P is about moving her through validation and devalidation by indicating interest and disinterest arbitrary, and thus becoming her source of validation.
Examples: "You're very cute [IOI], too bad you're such a dork [IOD] [IOI] ".
"You're the coolest person I know [IOI]... Or the most annoying one I can't decide [IOD]".
For those of you who wonder how this technique generates attraction:
The bigger the Value differences between 2 people, the more the one with the higher Value can affect the other one emotionally.
Value = Attraction.
P&P = Emotionally affecting the subject.
Emotionally affecting the subject = Value.
P&P = Attraction.
Ok, we've covered the traditional P&P technique. Now for my "Innovation";
Generally, the traditional P&P uses direct IOD's like negs, saying things that convey you're not interested and so on.
Another, often disregarded way of conveying interest or disinterest is to act in dis/interested ways, respectively, rather than saying things. Convey an emotion of dis/interest that makes you act accordingly.
Calm her down: "Look at this picture, it's so peaceful... It really projects tranquility, don't you think?"
Appreciation: "I really appreaciate what you just did."
Happiness: "I missed you! I'm so happy to see you "
Agreement: "Cool I like the idea." "Ok I got it "
You can get angry on her: "What are you doing?!" "I can't bear it!"
Be impatient: "Yeah, yeah... ok whatever..."
Suspect her: "Did you call me in the middle of the night?"
Accuse her for things she didn't do: "Because of you blabla!" "How could you do that?" "Do you understand that because of you blabla?"
Resist her: "I don't like this idea." "We aren't going to do this."
You can add as many ways as you can, as long as you understand the concept.
Try to be completely impatient and then appreciate her for something.
Be really happy to see her then suspect her and accuse her for things she didn't do.
Agree then resist.
And so on.
You see, instead of saying sentences that convey dis/interest, act like your feeling of dis/interest made you do it.
I use both traditional P&P and this one;
It combines in a conversation sometimes better than trad. P&P.
You can use more extreme delivery and make the effect as strong as you want, whereas in trad. P&P the text usually limits your delivery to being rather nice.
On the other hand you might come off as really weird and with bad social skills if you over-do it, and because the text is yours to choose it might be too extreme, overgame and insult her etc.
Test it and tell me what you think
I think I naturally use this technique most of the time by non-verbally communicating an IOD after an IOI. Like turning my back at her (slightly) after saying she's the most interesting person for example. Works usually very well with me.
I'll give your approach a try next time.
Don't Fail, Just Learn!
Non verbal IOI/D are good. I think they are the most easily combined in a conversation but are very subtle so you would probably need some verbal IOI/D's.
Originally Posted by Magnet0
Anyway this is about verbal P&P, although P&P can definitely include BL etc.
More comments would be great
Id like to add to what Magnet0 said about non-verbal P&P
Give her a compliment (pull): I like the way you (pointing at target) and your friends have a close bond, it really shows on the outside!
Target: Yea we have been friends for........
You interupt her (Push):
1. Omg you'll never guess what happened **turning your body + looking at her friends. Lowers her value, (it makes her opinion of little value) and shows your frame is dominant.
2. (YAAAAAAWWN!) I bet you £5/a drink I can turn you into the worst lier on the planet (move into Lying game)
3. Modern technology is amazing.........
Her after being interupted: I KNOW I BOUGHT THE NEW iPHONE!!!!!!
You maintaining frame: [ame=http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QBajY8W0xjw]YouTube - "You Are A Song Gambit" - Mystery Method PUA Flawless[/ame]
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