Thread: How to lay my gf?

I've been going out for a month with her. We have playful sexual touching going on but my goal is to have sex with her and to bring our relationship to the next level.
I've tried touching her arms, head, hair, back, ass etc. to sexually arouse her, but when I'm trying to touch her vagina she says something like- "what are you doing??" and pulls my hands away(also trying to take off her bra for more than 10-30sec is very hard). I will keep trying to do something about it, but when she says no I'll stop and it ends there. I've been trying out to have sex with her several times by now but it didn't worked out .

I'm looking for advice or for any routine I can try out... and where is a good place to have sex in?

Thanks!

Is she a virgin? how old is she?

She's a virgin and shes 18... just like me.

You're not going to get it by pressuring her.

Your best bet is backing off and withdrawing beyond what you are already comfortable with.

Meaning if you are comfortable with getting her down to her bra, feeling her up, etc. and she has no problem with that, then pull back to just kissing. When she tries to go further, withdrawal.

The key is the frame with which you do it. If you make it seem like you are doing it out of spite, you are going to fail miserably. But if you make it seem like you are respecting her boundaries or some other BS, it should work. She's going to want to go to the current comfort levels now, and withdrawing well before that should get her wanting more.

a bed is a good pace to have sex. its not gunna be easy when she is a virgin. bottom line is it will happen when she is ready. is she waiting for marriage?

Turn her on like crazy and be the one to pull away and get her sexually frustrated. Her pushing you away is her way of keeping control. All the other stuff you're doing is fine if she's responding positively, but when you feel like going for it, back off, even if it means cutting the night short and taking her home . Make her feel so good that she wants to rip your clothes off and then cut it short. The time to go further is when you can get her clothes off and you have her down to bra and panties, and even then rub over the panties until she starts becoming more comfortable, and then progress from there.

You should be able to turn her on with her clothes on.

If she pushes you away and asks what you're doing, don't make a big deal out of it, but when she wants something from you, don't be so quick to respond to her needs. Chances are she has some ideal of what she wants her first time to be like, might be something to talk about when you're just kicking back... make it a conversation about fantasies.

Stop trying to have sex with her and start trying to make her feel good, comfortable, and unbelievably turned on.

Originally Posted by paper mate

I've been going out for a month with her. We have playful sexual touching going on but my goal is to have sex with her and to bring our relationship to the next level.
I've tried touching her arms, head, hair, back, ass etc. to sexually arouse her, but when I'm trying to touch her vagina she says something like- "what are you doing??" and pulls my hands away(also trying to take off her bra for more than 10-30sec is very hard). I will keep trying to do something about it, but when she says no I'll stop and it ends there. I've been trying out to have sex with her several times by now but it didn't worked out .

I'm looking for advice or for any routine I can try out... and where is a good place to have sex in?

Thanks!

You didn't say, but if she is a virgin don't waste your time unless you want a full on long term relationship. Quite often, virgins fall hard for their first.

I do quite like her. And as I mentioned before I do wanna bring our relationship to the next level. Thanks everybody for your responses!

Another possible suggestion, be upfront about it and tell her exactly what you are telling us:

"I want to take it to the next level" (well not with those words but you get my point)

Most possibly reason why she wont do it is because she doesnt feel enough emotional connection to you and there are misleading trust issues. If you try to push and push and push sexually, like yes you can build sexual energy but still....if its missing the trust she wont go very far.

And also, just if sexual escallation should work as suggested here...you may need to go slower...if needed be go continental drift slow...but be consistent and firm.

Thats the bad thing about virgins... they require a lot of work!