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    Do you guys ever feel bad hurting girls?

    I've been called a sociopath by quite a few girls...lately too. I wonder do you ever start feeling bad for these girls? I've blown through at least 10 this year and its usually easy to screw them over but this one really got to me and really fell hard for me. I usually dont tell girls i love them either but this time i did for some reason. She was having some financial problems and i even lied and said i would pay her tuition this fall...not sure why i did that either. That was especially cruel and unnecessary.

    I knew she was going to get screwed over and i liked her so i really wanted to say goodbye after the first hookup but she has a really over the top slut look fashion style and attitude that just made me hornier than any girls has ever made me feel. That combined with her being really really tight and wet made it hard to make a complete break from her. Just me being selfish again. The prolonged split just made it more difficult and herful for her.

    Good girls are getting played over and over in the field by us. Does it ever make you guys feel bad?? I'll be honest....it really didnt to me for the last 2 years until this one. I'm told that karma and the devil are really going to get me and get me good!! But i do feel bad...in fact terrible for whats happened. To be honest its really killing me and I've done some really out of character stuff lately. A guy is feeling like he might have a soul after all
    Last edited by rob hay; 08-02-2008 at 09:19 PM. Reason: Re-read my PM reply.



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    feel bad? hell no. i know plenty of girls that wish i still had DOORMAT stamped across my forehead.
    but i don't think admin and what not are gonna take kindly to those pix to tell u the truth lol

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    I think you should do what makes you feel good. From the sounds of your post you are starting to not feel good about what you are doing. I don't think mpuas condone f'ing with girls in a hurtful way. There's a saying: "Leave them better than you found them." I know Hypnotica talks about being very upfront with women about what he's about (multiple women) and if they decide to go with it then cool. He says many of them don't like it, but they understood what they were getting in to from very early on. In other words he's not lying to them. My two cents. However, I'm speaking from theory not practice, so I'm curious to hear what others who are further along in the game have to say.

    The pictures at the end of your post, is this the girl you are talking about? Why are you posting her full name and her school???

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    The names, pics and last post have been deleted. There was absolutely no reason to include those things.

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    Quote Originally Posted by rob hay View Post
    I've been called a sociopath by quite a few girls...lately too. I wonder do you ever start feeling bad for these girls? I've blown through at least 10 this year and its usually easy to screw them over but this one really got to me and really fell hard for me. I usually dont tell girls i love them either but this time i did for some reason. She was having some financial problems and i even lied and said i would pay her tuition this fall...not sure why i did that either. That was especially cruel and unnecessary.

    I knew she was going to get screwed over and i liked her so i really wanted to say goodbye after the first hookup but she has a really over the top slut look fashion style and attitude that just made me hornier than any girls has ever made me feel. That combined with her being really really tight and wet made it hard to make a complete break from her. Just me being selfish again. The prolonged split just made it more difficult and herful for her.

    Good girls are getting played over and over in the field by us. Does it ever make you guys feel bad?? I'll be honest....it really didnt to me for the last 2 years until this one. I'm told that karma and the devil are really going to get me and get me good!! But i do feel bad...in fact terrible for whats happened. To be honest its really killing me and I've done some really out of character stuff lately. A guy is feeling like he might have a soul after all



    so·ci·o·path [soh-see-uh-path]
    –noun Psychiatry.
    a person, as a psychopathic personality, whose behavior is antisocial and who lacks a sense of moral responsibility or social conscience.




    I think you're in the game for all of the WRONG reasons--then again your post, long as it was, is pretty vague.

    You leave women better than when you found them.

    Why would you go in there to "hurt" them? Why would you be stupid enough to tell a chick that you would pay her tuition??? I think you're just trying to tell them what they really want to hear, and it's coming off passive aggressive. In this thing of ours we call being passive aggressive AFC.



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    I don't hurt girls.

    I find it morally wrong to do so.

    If there are women who only respond if i do so, I will just walk away.

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    I thought this PUA stuff was about leaving women better than they found them, and the ones that DO hurt women just don't know any better (i.e. "AFC" quality)...?

    Would you want to be in a financial rut, and have some woman lie to help you out for sex? That's not skill; that's just being an ass.

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    I think a clarification needs to be made here.

    No matter what you do, you will end up hurting some girls simply by being moderately attractive and existing. There are girls out there who are AFChicks, and they fall for you, get oneitis, dream about you, never make a move(or the female equivalent of "a move"), and suffer heartache every time they come across you.

    to rAFCs, this will sound familiar as it reflects their own experience. Perfectly nice girls (not ninja bitches) leave pain and destruction in their wake simply by existing for AFC's to moon over and suffer.

    This sounds pessimistic, but the flipside is that you brighten people's days inadvertently all day without knowing it. Every time you sarge a girl, you're complimenting her and telling her that she is worth sarging (with some of you [including me] that may not be saying much, but let them think what they want).

    You can't really do anything about this kind of damage you're doing.

    What you can control, however, is how far you lead certain girls on. If you lie (like above), you are definitely going to hurt people. Furthermore, we're not just talking about lying in words here. Body language and tone can show attractive traits; they can also communicate interest. If you let yourself lie in that manner, then you could definitely be causing some pain here. (What if you found out that the girl you thought was "the One" was faking her IOI's?)

    In the end, it all comes down to congruence. Figure yourself out before anyone else (What am I looking for? LTR? ONS? mLTR?) and then just communicate that. You'll automatically attract girls who meet your qualifications.
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    there's a big difference between hurting a girl....
    and completely screwing one over beyond all belief.

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    Call me what you want but i'm a guy who gets a whole lot of a$$ and the girls are all attractive. Theres nothing scientific or philosophical about this, I've been in the game to get laid. Plain and simply.... i never went about this to better anyone except myself and i doubt any of you guys got into it do help others either.

    With this particular girl i got it on the first night. I posted a picture of the post-event and a link to the girls pics which has been taken down by admin. And rightfully so.. But the point is there was never a reason to tell this girl i loved her or that i was going to take care of her finances. I did it purely for my own entertainment value and for that i definately deserve everything that will come my way. I know people are going to get hurt. The fact of the matter is people will always get hurt in life, theres no avoiding it and most of you have hurt girls. But between meeting a girl and hurting a girl i belive i have brought alot of fun and entertainment. That that i have used that for justification, to be honest i really just did not care.....until now


    This girl is going to get evicted soon, has no money, does not have a way to pay for school, and prob. has a real disdain for men. Its against my personal policy to come out my pocket for some expenditure that like but part of me feels like it would almost be the right thing to do. But it wont happen because her phone has been disconnect for failure to pay and we are out of touch now.
    Last edited by rob hay; 08-03-2008 at 12:23 AM.

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